[AnxietyButerfly]

Hello:

We have been through the emotions of trying to get pregnant with no luck, going to fertility offices, etc.

We know how hard it is when you can't conceive, yet there are so many women out there with less than average parenting skills who "pop" them right out!

After several years of fertility treatment with no luck, instead of being sad any longer - I am actually HAPPY! We are to the point, "well, at least we can go when we want, sleep when we want, no worries that come with parenthood! Maybe not all of us are meant to have a baby - there is a lot out there you know. With our world becoming more and more evil who really knows what will happen 50 yrs from now when the babies of today are 50 yrs old? It could be a evil world by then!

They always say, if it is meant to be, it will happen and after hearing your stories, listening to the fertility doctor(s), and researching - I truely beleive that. Don't spend thousands of dollars trying to have a baby - it is like taking 10,000 to Vegas and hoping that one winning number strikes - the odds are not as good as they make it sound. OR remember, you can not "return" a baby after spending thousands to get one - what if things aren't all they are "cracked" up to be??? LOL There are a lot of parents who secretly or admittingly jealous of us because we do not have that huge responsibility!!

If we get pregnant, we know it was meant to be and would be exstatic! If not, we have each other and will enjoy seeing the world and peace of not worrying for the rest of our lives about our child.

Good Luck To ALL of You No Matter What Path You Take!!!

[einstein]

Hi there,

What a fabulous outlook you have! After enduring the pain and sadness of IF, you have decided to turn it around and deal with it in a very positive way. I commend you for that. And I suspect, that when you very least expect it, you will find yourself pg. If only I had taken a more positive outlook before I had my twins. I was so miserable and sad. I should have been more upbeat and looked at things in that way -- after all, sleeping in on the weekends, late night dinners at fancy restaurants, and weekends away in a bed and breakfast inn are definitely things of the past.