[cday500]

I am new to this forum and have read many of the postings to see the support is wonderful to each other at this site.

I am 31 and found out at age 21 I had severly blocked tubes (and previous miscarriage) and would require IVF. That round of treatments and numerous failures eventually ended my marriage. The ex found someone who could give him the children he wanted....ouchh!

But years have gone by and I had come to terms with "I can't have children" as it was easier on me emotionally to say than go through the pain of explaining everything again.

I have a wonderful man in my life who understands (to the best of his ability right now) the struggles we will have to bear children. We begin the evaluation process again in a few weeks to see what treatments are out there for us.

I am scared, nervous, anxious, and already emotional just thinking about the appointment with the IF clinic. It brings back a lot of pain and let down from the past.

I realized from the last time many years ago that I cannot do this on my own and that women like you are a God send for the emotions that only women encountering this pain can feel. I welcome and appreciate your threads and will continue to keep you posted.

[Gemmabean]

Charity,

Infertility can be such an isolating experience. I wish it weren't that way! I don't know how I managed before I found this forum, you are so right. This is a terrific bunch of ladies.

I wish you lots of luck on your journey, please do keep us posted. I know for me, just knowing I'm not alone has helped SO much!

Take care of you!

Love,
Julie

[jmcrane]

Charity,

First of all I want to welcome you with open arms... Nice to meet you.
Second, I am sorry for your troubles.
Julie is right though all these ladies are the greatest. We are all here for each other everyday and everynight. If you have any questions and just want to explode one day and clear your chest this is the place. For me also, I can not remember how I handled my problems before finding this forum. I know I cried alot and stayed stressed out...Still do that from time to time but not as bad.

Hang in there and good luck... Keep us all posted.

[Ninja]

Charity,

Welcome to the forum. I am so happy that you have found the man who understands and supports you.

I can't imagine doing this without the support of my husband. The procedure is such an emotional rollacoaster. I agree that in this day and age of modern medicine, our society is not very understand of infertility. But, we are a great support group and you will love it here.

[jenedens6102]

What an experience you've already had. Infertility is a huge burden to bear and I've heard that if you can make it through infertility you can make it through anything. It's a horrible thing however that your husband couldn't stand with you through it but rather took the easy way out. My DH asked me when we first started testing if I'd leave him if he was the cause of our infertility. I said as nicely as I could that I married him for the wonderful man he was, not for his sperm!
So glad you found this forum, the women here really are gifts from God. We've all been through so much and our journeys have brought us together. We wish the best for you.

[jf5505]

I can't imagine all your have gone through, but you have come to the right place...I have found this support to have gotten me through a whole lot of bad days.

Tell us how the appt. goes...