[GCD]

Hello! This is my first post!

2 y.o. DS - the light of my life! TTC 1 yr natural and ivf - only heartbreak so far and a fairly pessimistic (perhaps realistic?) RE.

Because of DS, I have to attend lots of kid-friendly places (playground, zoo, kiddie parties, etc). It breaks my heart to see all these families with multiple children (especially the babies), knowing that it will be a long time (if ever) that will be me. How do you cope with it? DH has been great about taking DS out by himself, but I don't want DS to think his mommy is only "at home!" I think he has to contend enough with his mother's depression and that's too much for a little kid!

Thanks!

[hopeful4another1]

I'm in the same boat. I have one ds and hopefully we'll try IVF again in the next couple of months. I didn't realize how bothered by this I am until my dh came home Saturday and told me our 43yr old friend is pregnant (naturally). He told me a total of 3x. I was upset to the point of crying everytime I thought of it. He couldn't figure out what my problem was! I really don't have a problem at the playground, zoo, activities, until I see a pregnant woman. I just think to myself how lucky I am to have one healthy, beautiful little boy. That is all I every prayed for. Think of the woman who cannot conceive. Count your blessings and hug your ds and devote your time to him. You really are lucky!! Hugs

[MaggieMoo]

I completely understand your situation. I was there this time last year. I never wanted to leave the house. And to make matters worse, we live next to the park. It is always stroller heaven. Looking back I wish I had spent more time with my son during that time. I know now that I should have put my anger or jealousy into something that would have a better outcome, like seeing my son smiling at me. I was looking at pictures yesterday of my son and started thinking that I feel like I have failed him because I wrapped myself into my world and my depression of not being able to conceive. I felt horrible and broke down crying. But I know that I can't go back and get what I have missed out on but only moving forward and being a better mother from here on out. I totally understand how you can get caught up in the rollercoaster ride of IF. But speaking from experience, spend as much time with you ds as much as you can. Even if it means spending time with him at a park with other moms of newborns. I wish I would have.
Don't ever give up on your deam of having another child. I will happen! I will say a little prayer for you!

[prayin4#2]

I know what you're going through as well. I have decided to say a little prayer of thanks every time my thoughts slip away from enjoying my DD and towards IF/jealousy/frustration/etc. It helps me focus on the moment and to let go of tomorrow.

[sarah16]

I too get in a rut and wish that I could have another baby right now! All I can do is thank God every day that I have my DD and hopefully He will bless me with another child someday.

[GCD]

Thanks all! I guess I'll have to keep plugging away concentrating on DS. He's here and he needs to be first priority!

[Haylstm]

I know exactly how you feel. It doesn't help having our 4 yr old dd asking us every day when her little sister Sofia (yes, she has named her) will get here. And if you ask her what she wants to be when she grows up she says "a big sister". Breaks my heart.

[prayin4#2]

Aw, Haylstm, that is so sweet...I can see how it would be both heartwarming and heartbreaking to hear that from your DD.

[babygood1]

hopeful4another1 don't trust what people tell you they don't always tell the truth...I have a friend who said she only wanted 1 and boom now here she is with #2..please she only told people she wanted 1 so she would not get pressure from friends. The 43 year old you mentioned probably has been trying like crazy and used a donor.
There are so many babies around me as well...Iam the only one with out a #2 now...the parks are hard...but one thing for sure is I have learned so much from this infertility and I do feel so blessed to have one and I have slowed down my life in the last year and spent more quality time with my little one. My little one hugs and kisses me more...I think he knows something is going on.

good luck and yes friends can s*ck!