[momof2cnc]

Originally Posted by Sidekik

My daughter is 18 and my son is 10 so I have received many comments about starting all over. It was my choice to have my tubes tied when DS was born, but with the marriage I was in it was the right choice. My husband now doesn't have any biological children so he is over the moon having one of his own. People are always going to make comments that they shouldn't. But I feel like God gave me the the chance to go through IVF and there is nothing they could say to bring me down off of my cloud. You and DH will make the right choice for you and your family. Don't be swayed by others rude comments.

Sending and your way!

Thank you!!!!! Congrats on your success!!!

[bq122]

I can relate to the rude comments people have said, dh and myself are 42, I have a dd going on 24, dd 15, & dd 10 and most of you on this forum know that my only ds passed away at 2 1/2 half from SUDS (form of sids, in children 1-3 yrs of age)
The passing of our son made us want a child more than ever. It is all my dh and my girls talk about it. We were shocked when we ttc and couldnt, and still havent.
But what really hurts me the most is when people find out after 4 kids "You are trying to have another kid, are you crazy" I have gotten to the point that I say "when you have a child pass away (god forbid) then you come back to me and ask me again" I know that is mean to say but why do people ask such cruel quetions. If a couple wants to love another child what does it matter to anyone else.
If they dont want another baby fine nobody is asking them too. So they should just say I wish you the best.
I always felt like my age is just a number except during this whole Fertility process. I am 42yrs young.
So I pray for there stupidity...

[sunny72]

I had trouble conceiving #1. It took three years and some failed IUI's and then we conceived on our own miraculously. I still had one good fallopian tube then, but now it's been three years trying for #2 and I think both tubes are down for the count. I've never told anyone we were ttc this time or the last besides RE clinic people and you guys here. I do constantly get asked when we're having another one and my SIL who has made comments like "you don't want you daughter to be an only child" and it really stings to hear it. I shrug her off like it's none of her business anyhow - which it isn't. Let's just say, she'll be the last to know.

[hopeful1230]

Originally Posted by bq122

I can relate to the rude comments people have said, dh and myself are 42, I have a dd going on 24, dd 15, & dd 10 and most of you on this forum know that my only ds passed away at 2 1/2 half from SUDS (form of sids, in children 1-3 yrs of age)
The passing of our son made us want a child more than ever. It is all my dh and my girls talk about it. We were shocked when we ttc and couldnt, and still havent.
But what really hurts me the most is when people find out after 4 kids "You are trying to have another kid, are you crazy" I have gotten to the point that I say "when you have a child pass away (god forbid) then you come back to me and ask me again" I know that is mean to say but why do people ask such cruel quetions. If a couple wants to love another child what does it matter to anyone else.
If they dont want another baby fine nobody is asking them too. So they should just say I wish you the best.
I always felt like my age is just a number except during this whole Fertility process. I am 42yrs young.
So I pray for there stupidity...

I'm sorry for your son passing but I do understand were you are coming from. I to have 4 sons from my first marriage. I remarried to a wonderful me for the pass 8 years and been with him for 11.He has helped me raise my 4 so now I want to give him own of his own. Alot of people say you have why have more. They just dont understand, thats why we arent telling his parents that we are doing IVF because we dont want the negative feelings around us. After we are passed our first trimster we will tell them. So if we get owr BFP in Sept thats a great christmas present for them. I'm sorry it kinda long. I wish you the best of luck and God Bless you with a healthy baby.