[wannabigbabybelly]

Our little one recently turned 9 months and I'm starting to think about when we are ready to start trying for our last.

I'd love to have our last two close in age. Plus I have lots of goals that I'd like to get started on (ie...going back to school and preparing for a career, when my little ones are old enough for school).

My only hold-ups are

1...my weight (still overweight of course, but currently 25 pounds heavier than when we concieved Logan).

2...need a new vehicle (our van holds us perfectly right now but if we have anymore we will need something bigger....and then of course that means more $$$ and figuring out what we can afford and what kind of payments we can afford...for what we want)

Okay...so the weight is more ME than anything else. Afraid that the numbers will continue to go up and up if i get pregnant instead of down like they should. Though I didn't have any weight related issued with my last pregnancy. I guess it's more a self esteem thing??

And the van....we need a new van soon anyways. And if we are planning to get a new one (which we are! Probably next year when taxes come back) then it would be nice to know how many we are having (in case it's more than one) and how many seats we would actually need....in our new vehicle.

So both hold-ups aren't too impossible or difficult to overcome.

Now just trying to figure out the right timing and to make sure Dh is onboard and ready.

[ballerinagirl]

to wanting to try for 3 or more, I did'nt think there was any of us out there.

We too need a bigger car and mine is paid for! This one really hurts. My twins are 6 months old and we have no I mean no trunk space for anything other than a double stroller.

I also have lost 4 angel babies along the way and hope God will grant us one more healthy baby to love for a lifetime.

I am a little worried about my age I am a "young" 42 my doc says. I feel like a dinosaur though in this arena.

The twin pregnancy was a breeze and our babies are wonderful.
I am trying naturally b/c I think I've had enough drugs so just waiting for the positive "O" test. I am still breastfeeding my son once or twice a day.

I wouldn't try to lose all the wieght right now it may hurt your chances of conceiving just breastfeed and all of it will melt away. go for it and get pregnant. What does your husband think?

How about you? Wish you the best and lets keep in touch.

[wannabigbabybelly]

Well, I was kinda afraid to approach the subject with him. We had talked all through my pregnancy how we were going to try for one more biological child (with medical help) and then just leave it up to fate after that if anymore would eventually join our family (since after 10 years we never concieved on our own, or really ovulated for that matter).

Our initial idea was to wait until Logan was at least a year or 2 before proceeding foreward. Mainly because I wanted to breastfeed him through the first year and beyond. Unfortunatley that wasn't in the cards for me and had to supplement and then weaned him between 4-6 months from the little he was still getting from me.

So that opened up the possibility of trying earlier than what we had originally thought of.

Anyways, I finally broached the subject with him last night and was pretty suprised by his response. Instead of hesitating and saying we should hold off, or wait because of this or that concern (I thought for sure financially he would want to wait).

But no. Instead he says "well we already are trying! Not preventing anyways". I told him ya, but it's not likely to happen without medical help again. Then he said "well you could be pregnant right now". I told him that I highely doubt it.

Then we talked a little about going back to the dr. and the timing of our next one. I pretty much gave him idea's of starting now, december or next april. His responce was "well, it would be best if you had it in 2010, the sooner the better".

I asked him if he meant got pregnant by next year or actually have the kid during next year. He said "had the baby".

I told him, well, than that would mean we would need to try between now and march and he agreed.

So it looks like he is definatley on board and ready to go whenever I am... .


So now it's just my weight hang up.

I did weigh myself today and I was about 8lbs lighter than I thought I was (When I weighed myself about 3 weeks ago).

I'm not sure if I'm ready to start TTC now or if I should wait until December.

Either way I'm trying to prepare my body now.

I just started back on pre-natal vitamins and I think I'll try and get the ball rolling with the fertility dr. so I can get all the referrals in place and start back on metformin etc.

So this is very exciting!!!

[wannabigbabybelly]

Our van is paid for as well. Which is why I've been holding off wanting to get something else (that and knowing we are doing fertility treatments I'd hate to get something big enough for our current family plus 1....when it could be plus 2 or 3...you just never know). Of course that's not our goal. We only really want one more. But twins are a possibility as well. I've already gotten pregnant with twins twice....once idenitcal that miscarried and once fraternal(that turned into a vanishing twin). So the real possibility is there.

So dh agreed that it's best we wait until we know what our family will eventually need.

Though I HATE the thought of getting stuck in a car payment when we already have this van paid off. But it has problems and needs replacing anyways.

[Mom2MandyandTristan]

I am on #3 and I can tell you we were ready when Tristan was 6 months. This was a natural and unexpected BFP for us. We had a canceled IVF cycle right before and I had stopped charting and testing and figured we would wait until after our house was built and we were settled to try again but it was apparently meant to be now.

I wanted these 2 to be close...my first DD was 8 when Tristan was born and while she was/is a great big sister it was sad they weren't closer in age. I see my niece and nephew and I saw the difference. She did everything for him while my niece and nephew learned from each other.

You will go thru a wide range of emotions. I can honestly say as I sit here 27 weeks almost 28 I still get my little thoughts of I am doing the right thing, will Tristan be mad, will the new baby get enough attention since we have another little one who needs us, will Mandy feel left out with 2 other little ones needing us, etc but it is all normal.

I hadn't lost all my baby weight from Tristan when I got pregnant this time. I was 175 and now I am 168. I am not dieting or anything and the baby is growing on schedule so maybe my body didn't need to gain so much weight this time, I don't know. It's possible you may gain light or not as much as with Logan.

As for the Van....DH just bought me a new car cause my other Nissan's alternator went and we got stuck on the highway and I freaked out! I was so scared we were gonna get hit by someone not paying attention and I was freaking out what if I had both kids with me when it happened. I paid the 400 to replace it but on the last day of cash for clunkers DH took his truck just a year older than my car and traded....he figured it would be the only time his car would be worth 4500 and he bought me a new car.

Since people are not buying cars and homes now is the time to buy one (that's why we did it). With all the incentives and stuff you can get a great deal. We are a single income household now and can still manage our bills which some budgeting on my end :-) It was scary going from 2 incomes to 1 and it was a little nerve racking going from no car payment to one but it is all worth it especially now.

If another baby is really what you want and it's in your heart there is a way! They weight worry about it later...you have many years to lose it not so many to have a baby (even if we didn't have IF issues). Money...I know you are religious so you know HE will provide for you and won't give you more than you can handle.

Good Luck to you (and everyone and anyone) going for #3 or more!!

[CaribbeanQueen]

Hey Jessica--it's great to see you! How is everyone?

Can you believe that our due date buddies are trying again (or, in Traci's case--preggers!)? This year is just flying by!

It's terrific that your hubby is ready to try again too. Isn't it wonderful to have a big family? :-) Are you getting any sleep? Miss Annelise is still not sleeping well--in fact, she hasn't had a 4-hour stretch of sleep since birth! Other than that, everything here is absolutely great.

DH and I are submitting our dossier for international adoption before the end of the year, and we should have our LO home next summer/early fall. I will also need a new vehicle as I just have a sedan and don't see getting 3 car seats in the back!

I haven't had AF yet --and not wishing for her to come back either! Still EBF here. Didn't get the witch until DD #1 was 11 months... That means she'll be back soon--ugh! We didn't use any BC after DD #1 was born and will do the same this time. I don't think that there's a chance that we can conceive on our own, but heck, we'll still try! I've seen stranger things happen on this forum!

I hear ya on the weight issue. I am up 15 lbs. from my pre-preg size from DD #1. I log all of my calories and exercise faithfully on SparkPeople (love that site!), but the weight is slow to come off this time around. Part of it is the retained weight from BFing, but part of it is that I don't have as much time to exercise.

Would love to hear any tips that you have for managing the day-to-day stuff with a big family. DH and I are hoping for one or two more before we get too old!

-Leigh

[wannabigbabybelly]

lol....well if I wanted to know Dh honest opinion about Another Baby...I got it.

He got home early and happened to see the bottle of Pre-natal vitamins I bought earlier this morning on the table.

When I walked in the door with my younger son (who doesn't miss a beat) he ran and grabbed the bottle off the table and asked what it was.

I heard my dh in the other room and looked up and he had a HUGE smile on his face and asked if I had some news for him. LOL So funny.

I told him no....just preparing for when we TTC again, since your supposed to be on folic acid before you get pregnant.

I did do a pregnancy test right before I left "just to make sure" and it was negative like I thought.

But after seeing his face, it's got me a little excited to start trying sooner rather than later.

[wannabigbabybelly]

Originally Posted by CaribbeanQueen

Hey Jessica--it's great to see you! How is everyone?

Can you believe that our due date buddies are trying again (or, in Traci's case--preggers!)? This year is just flying by!

It's terrific that your hubby is ready to try again too. Isn't it wonderful to have a big family? :-) Are you getting any sleep? Miss Annelise is still not sleeping well--in fact, she hasn't had a 4-hour stretch of sleep since birth! Other than that, everything here is absolutely great.

DH and I are submitting our dossier for international adoption before the end of the year, and we should have our LO home next summer/early fall. I will also need a new vehicle as I just have a sedan and don't see getting 3 car seats in the back!

I haven't had AF yet --and not wishing for her to come back either! Still EBF here. Didn't get the witch until DD #1 was 11 months... That means she'll be back soon--ugh! We didn't use any BC after DD #1 was born and will do the same this time. I don't think that there's a chance that we can conceive on our own, but heck, we'll still try! I've seen stranger things happen on this forum!

I hear ya on the weight issue. I am up 15 lbs. from my pre-preg size from DD #1. I log all of my calories and exercise faithfully on SparkPeople (love that site!), but the weight is slow to come off this time around. Part of it is the retained weight from BFing, but part of it is that I don't have as much time to exercise.

Would love to hear any tips that you have for managing the day-to-day stuff with a big family. DH and I are hoping for one or two more before we get too old!

-Leigh

ya I'm happy he's so excited about it.

No, not much sleep around these parts. Logan WAS sleeping through the night while dh was away in Iraq (for the most part, thank goodness). But right before he returned he started teething 4 teeth all at once and it through off his sleeping schedule, then we went on a trip to disney world for a week and now he's sick (fever, ear infection, croup ) so he's definately not sleeping which means I'm not either. But it's alright. I don't mind. I'm used to it.

I can't believe Traci is already preggers. Can't wait to hear if she has twins in there. So exciting to see so many trying again so soon. I really wasn't planning on trying again until he was a year old...but I got the itch to try again right before dh left for Iraq and now that he is back I feel it again (since I'm not breastfeeding like I had hoped).

That is so exciting that your adopting. What country? Adoption can be such a blessing. We weren't planning on adopting anymore (at least until all our kids are grown). But we may have some choices to make in the near future, as my troubled younger sister is pregnant. She wants to keep it, but if she doesn't change her ways she will likely loose it to the state and we will have to decide at that time wether we will step in or not. Still up in the air on that one....hoping it won't come to that though.

I still haven't technically had my period yet either? I was having some pretty predicatable ovulation type pains and period type cramps and some extremely light spotting but nothing that I could definatuvely say...it was a period.

So when we want to TTC again I'll need to get some meds from the dr. to get my cycle flowing.

As far as day to day stuff....I don't know...we just have a daily routine, and list of chores for the kids to do, so everything is laid out for them and they know what to expect.

ie...

get dressed, hair, teeth, make bed, clean room

home from school....homework

dinner

chores, bath, pj's, teeth etc.


(it also helps that we have a family meeting every sunday to discuss the week and any issues, goals, etc we are having. We also have family home evening every monday where we eat dinner together and have some sort of activity, lesson with each other. Though we try and have dinner together everynight, plus scripture study every night, plus church on sunday. Keeps us close and active doing lots of things together.)

[wannabigbabybelly]

Dh is definately ready for another. He made several comments today wanting to with the purpose of TTC. I told him I wasn't TTC just yet, but I think he's still hoping that it will miraculously happen naturally.

I asked him "Your really excited about having another aren't you?"

He said " I love having you pregnant with my baby."

Awww...I never expected this kind of response from my simple question to him of when we should try for another.

[manyblessings]

hey ladies. I've been reading your thread and I'm just checking to see how things are going for you. I think you just have to do the best thing for you guys. My opinion is that we aren't getting any younger, so we may as well just go for it. We went through infertility for both of our love bugs....the oldest is 5 and the youngest is 9 months....and we are thinking of trying again also. We shall see what God has in store for us.

Take care and good luck.

[amyccb]

Looks like I am ready to add to our family!!! I can't believe I am even thinking about a third child things are crazy as it is. I was initially thinking of not having anymore until a few months ago. I was not sure my husband was in the same boat but when I called to tell him that insurance will not cover IVF till 2011 I could hear the disappointment in his voice he said but thats a long time. That is when I knew he was ready to embark on this journey again. We will be doing medicated IUI for a while in hopes that they work because we can't afford IVF a second time. If all else fail we will wait till 2011 when my employer is going to pick up IVF on the insurance package. Good luck to u ladies. I just made an appointment with the RE and I can't believe we are even going to try!!!

[wannabigbabybelly]

Yay, That's exciting!!!

Well we are working on it...

We just bit the bullet and bought ourselves a new car that will give us room for one more. (which is kind of frightening in case we get multiples...I didn't leave any wiggle room) but I guess we can always trade up for a bigger vehicle if need be. But I love my new car and hope that wouldn't be the case...but then again twins would be awesome too...so I guess we will just leave that up to God/fate.

I also decided that for our next I want to do cloth diapers. So I went ahead and started them now. I bought some that grow with baby from newborn through potty training and have started using them on Logan. So far I LOVE THEM!!! and I'm so happy I made the switch. Plus we will be saving soooo much money buy using cloth now and in the future and they are just so nice and cute on his little bum.

I've started back on my pre-natal vitamin, but haven't made the appointment with my PCM yet to get the referral for my RE again. It usually takes a couple weeks to get all that set up and the appointment so I guess I should get started on that soon.

Actually...I think I'll call them real quick.

[amyccb]

When I called I felt I was a little scared it is like leaping into a journey of ups and downs again. I just started the prenatal vitamins the other day and had my husband start his vitamins. It just sucks that we can't just flip the switch and get pregnant when ever we want but I am trusting that God will get us through this crazy process again with another little blessing! I think that it is great that u have so many little ones, I grew up with a family of six and we have all been so close I don't know what I would do without my brothers and sisters!!! That is part of the reason I want another one! If we end up with twins we will be needing a new van or something bigger. Right now I have a Honda Pilot and I think that will be just enough room for the three little ones with some space in the back, see I am already talking like this is going to happen for sure.

[wannabigbabybelly]

It is kinda scary. Setting the appointment is like saying we are ready and actually doing this thing.

I don't know why that scares me. I'd love to be pregnant again. I'd love to have a sibling close in age to Logan.

I guess it is the ups and downs, highs and lows I'm nervous about. I feel confident that I will get pregnant again. Now that we know what works for me. But, I've had a lot of losses. I'm not ready for that again. I'm not ready to get that BFP and then go in and find out it will end in miscarriage, then get pregnant again get excited and then find out we are loosing another one again and again etc.

Given my history I know it's a big possibility. But just today I was out for a walk and was talking to God in my head about all my concerns and stuff and I could just feel this confirmation that he had another one up there ready and waiting for us. Actually to be honest it wasn't just one. I felt that there were a couple up there. Which brought tears to my eyes. I really felt like this would be our last time TTC, but maybe that isn't the case or maybe he does have twins up there for us. I don't know.

But I feel comforted that what ever his plan is for us he'll provide a way and everything will work out.

[wannabigbabybelly]

I thought I had to see my PCM to get another referral to the RE. I've been trying to call my dr's and finally got a call back today.

Apparently they just gave me another referral as of 10/19 so I'm all set and ready to make my appointment with the RE anytime...AHHH

I think I'll call them tomorrow and see what they say, How soon they have available.

Funny thing is I think I may be ovulating? I've had some EWCM the last couple days but today it is looking and feeling much more like it should. Very slippery and clear. I wish I would have been testing with OPK's to know for sure. I hate PCOS...it can be so decieving...and yet nothing happening. uhg.