I suppose it depends on your view point. First off they spent a small fortune trying different surrogates without any pregancies. Finally they had a traditional surrogate who after the birth wanted to parent the baby (he was biologically hers), she wound up relinquishing custody but to me reading it (remember this is the amother writing) it felt as if it was ultimately coersion that led her to follow the original plan (a lot of people telling her to "do the right thing.") I think the amother felt uncomfortable about the situation, although she adores her son. I recommend the article--perhaps my interpretation was colored by my pre-existing opinions about surrogacy.