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08-02-2008, 09:16 PM
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Congratulations on becoming a parent, I'm so happy for you! We celebrate a family day and an adoption day for each boy as they are different days for us as well. Enjoy
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Michelle many moons ago ('99-'00)... one Clomid Challenge and 2 IVF cycles mother to Zachary and Alex born in Karaganda, Kazakhstan http://thebaldwinsjourney.blogspot.com/    
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08-20-2008, 07:34 PM
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Kari - Just checking in to see how everything is going with you and your little boy. Less than a week for the TPR, I am
 everything goes smoothly for you.
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Me (33)- PCOS (met,bromo), Uterine Septum (repaired, hopefully) DH (35)- low Morph? great count/motility  Cassius - fur monster (golden retriever)TTC #1 since 8-05 8/06 - Septum Resection 12/06 IUI #1 Clomid cd 3-7 BFN 2/07 IUI #2 Clomid cd 3-7/HCG trigger BFN 5/7/07 IUI #3 Clomid cd 3-7, Gonal-F 9-12,BFN 1-10-08 Uterine Septum surgery #2, RE said it worked, hope he is right. IUI#4 BFN IVF/ICSI #1 - 6-2-08 ER - 20 eggs, 11 mature - 10 fertilized. 6-7-08 ET - 2 blasts - snuggling in tight. 6-8-08 -freeze report - 5 snowblasts! 6-13-08 - + HPT 6,7,8 dp5dt - this is it.6-16-08 - Beta #233!, p4 175 6-19-08 - #720, p4 245 7-3-08 - 1st US - OMG - IT'S TRIPLETS! Three healthy heartbeats, Baby A & B measuring 6w2-3days, Baby C 6w1d 7-14-08 - 2nd U/S -Babies are all still on track! 8-15-08 - NT scan, babies are great. 9-8-08 - Anatomy Scan - THREE GIRLS!!!! 11-22-08 Hospital Bedrest 
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08-26-2008, 09:20 AM
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Today was supposed to be the TPR hearing. However, yesterday there was a big turn of events. His first parents told our social worker that they had changed their minds and wanted to take him home.
We were told we had to call them and make plans to meet. His first parents told us on the phone that they just wanted to take him to the park. We met them and they left with him and said it would be an hour. We sat in the parking lot for 2.5 hours, before they returned. We thought for sure we would never see our son again. I broke down and thanked them for bringing him back to us and asked if there is anything we can do to make this easier. I think we will have visits in the future which we have been open to all along. I know his first mom, too, is afraid she will never be able to hold him again, just as I felt last night. I feel for them and wish I could make everything better. Now the hearing will not proceed today. It will probably be another 2 weeks before the next TPR opportunity. For all of those thinking about domestic adoption, please be aware of the TPR waits - they vary per state. I, myself, would not recommend a state with a long TPR. It is too painful.
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Me - 31 PCOS DH - 30 low motility, morphology, and count TTC - for 3 years prior to bringing our son home Golden Retriever (8 yrs old) 10/06, 11/06, 12/06 - clomid, metformin, HCG, and timing (developed vision problems from clomid) 1/07, 2/07 - IUIs (letrozole, metformin, and HCG) IVF #1 - 6/07 - IVF/ICSI (fresh transfer cancelled due to OHSS, retrieved 21 eggs - 16 mature) 8/16/07 - FET  Starting adoption process...but will keep trying 9/18/07 - FET 10/21/07 - FET w/AH IVF/ICSI #2 12/31/07 - Fresh blasts w/AH Will become parents via domestic adoption 1/08 Adoption education classes and homestudy 1/29/08 - wait begins 7/2/08 - Matched! Boy due July 25th! 7/22/08 - Our precious boy was born! 7/24/08 - he's home! 9/16/08 - TPR - Jaxon is our son forever! 2/3/09 - Finalized the adoption! Our son, forever and always! Saving for child #2 - embryo adoption or domestic adoption 
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08-26-2008, 09:28 AM
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Kari, I can only imagine how hard it was to sit in the parking lot waiting for them to return. But it has to be equally hard on his birth parents. I just pray that God works it all out as it's meant to be.
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08-26-2008, 10:21 AM
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Wow! I can't believe they took off with him! Did you go through an agency (sorry if you have said that before and I am just too scatterbrained to remember!)? If so I would get them involved and I would definately say no visits unless you are all present! That is just too much for you to deal with!
I'm sorry you are having to go through so much during what should be such a joyous time!
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 Stephanie 27 DH 27 TTC-actively 3 years, not-not trying (hehe) 5 years before that. HSG-10/05 normal. LAP-10/05 endo (Stage III or IV), fibroids & polyps in uterus, and a cyst on left ovary-all removed. Pacemaker-08/06 LAP/Hysteroscopy-03/08 endo removed, tubes flushed, D & C. No fibroids, polyps, or cysts!
Dh wants to stay child-free for the long haul. I do not. On a break that I hope isn't permanent. 07/09-After 2-3 months of irregular cycles diagnosed with PCOS. Now 3 months of provera to regulate. www.myspace.com/stephaniehorst http://stephaniehorst.blogspot.com/
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08-26-2008, 11:18 AM
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Kari, my heart is so sad for you right now. This is exactly why our agency would not let us adopt from Wisconsin. The length of wait is too difficult for almost everyone.
I know exactly the amount of stress you are under right now and I pray for you, I am praying earnestly for you, DH and your son's birthparents. It is not easy for anyone. Thank you so much for updating us on this site, I know we all want to support you however we can. If you need anything at all, let me know. If you want to talk more feel free to PM me. By the way, let out the tears whenever you feel the need. Be sad, be angry, don't hold it in. I know you are loving that little boy right now and that is the most important thing in the world. My thoughts are with you.
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Me: 35 healthy DH: 44 born w/o vas deferens, did TESE once, opted out of more 10/2005 IVF unsuccessful, with TESE Adopted our baby boy: May 2006 IUI#2 3/18 trigger, one Big follie, 25.5, endo lining 12 3/19 IUI 101.6 million post-wash with 91% motility 3/20 IUI 82.1 million post-wash with 88% motility Did acupuncture and energy work - amazing. 3/31 & 4/1 POAS  4/2 1st beta 65! 4/4 2nd beta 158 4/8 3rd beta 1650!! 4/22 u/s saw one perfect bean, HB 146, 6wks, 5 days 5/1 first OB appt - u/s HB 174, 1.8cm - all perfect 5/23 appt, switched to Certified Nurse Midwife 6/24 Heartbeat strong and clear at 150bpm 7/2 amnio 7/7 results confirm Healthy Baby Boy! 7/29 21 week u/s, baby weighs 1lb 10/2 decided on home birth - so excited, can't wait 12/25/08 Tucker Robbins born at 9:53am, 8lbs, 7 oz, 21 inches  
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08-26-2008, 01:04 PM
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Kari, I'm so sorry to hear this. I was silently following along with your process as we are also thinking about adoption. I am
for you all through this difficult time. It seems cruel for them to be able to take him back after he's been with you all for a month or so. I understand this is hard for them too so I hope you are able to come to a workable solution for all involved. Take care and keep us posted.
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Kristen Me: 30 - No known issues DH: 31 - Klinefelters Syndrome Zoe - 3 year old PuggleMarried: 9/23/2006 Started TTC 6/2007 Dx: NOA due to Klinefelters 6/2008: SA=Zero sperm 8/2008: Klinefelters dx, FSH=44, T=158 1/2009: mTESE - no sperm found  Tx: IUI with donor sperm 1/2009: HSG - all clear 2/2009-5/2009 - 4 IUI's - all BFN 6/22/2009: IUI#5 - Clomid 100mg/lining=13.0/2 follies - 23mm (L) and 20 mm (R)/ 11.8 million/52% motile 6/29/2009: P4 check - 12 / implantation bleeding 7/6/2009: HPT 14dpIUI 7/8/2009: Beta #1 = 197 7/10/2009: Beta #2 = 421 7/27/2009: 7wk u/s - one little bean/ hb 146 bpm 8/11/2009: 9wk u/s - hb 175 bpm and baby waved hello!! 8/31/2009: 1st OB appt! - hb 165 bpm IT'S A BOY!!!! EDD: March 15, 2010  
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08-26-2008, 02:59 PM
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Kari, I'm thinking of you and hope everything works out the way it should.
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 DH: 30 Beautiful daughter born 4-23-03 TTC since Feb 2005 - didn't ovulate Started treatment Aug 2006 6 rounds of clomid tubes are open bloodwork is good 3 rounds of femara/follistim/HCG 2 IUIs 6 months of acupuncture Moving on to infant domestic adoption!  Officially waiting to be matched!! -- June '08 Our portfolio has been shown 9 times since June 2008.
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08-26-2008, 04:33 PM
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Crying Inside - we did go through an agency. Actually, our social worker was the one who first called us in tears to let us know they were changing their minds. Until the TPR has occurred, his first parents can take him home or on visits when ever they want without us present. At this point he is their child, and we are in a sense, babysitters until they choose they do not want to be parents. After the TPR, the agency makes us his legal guardians until it is finalized 6 months after we brought him home. I think in the future we will really look forward to visits because we really like his first mom and we will all be present.
In WI and a few other states the TPR has to occur anytime within 30 days (though it has actually been longer for us already). Most states have a 48-72 hour window.
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Me - 31 PCOS DH - 30 low motility, morphology, and count TTC - for 3 years prior to bringing our son home Golden Retriever (8 yrs old) 10/06, 11/06, 12/06 - clomid, metformin, HCG, and timing (developed vision problems from clomid) 1/07, 2/07 - IUIs (letrozole, metformin, and HCG) IVF #1 - 6/07 - IVF/ICSI (fresh transfer cancelled due to OHSS, retrieved 21 eggs - 16 mature) 8/16/07 - FET Starting adoption process...but will keep trying 9/18/07 - FET 10/21/07 - FET w/AH IVF/ICSI #2 12/31/07 - Fresh blasts w/AH Will become parents via domestic adoption 1/08 Adoption education classes and homestudy 1/29/08 - wait begins 7/2/08 - Matched! Boy due July 25th! 7/22/08 - Our precious boy was born! 7/24/08 - he's home! 9/16/08 - TPR - Jaxon is our son forever! 2/3/09 - Finalized the adoption! Our son, forever and always! Saving for child #2 - embryo adoption or domestic adoption
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08-27-2008, 07:25 AM
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Oh, okay I understand now! Wow-I was just so angry for you!
I think our state's TPR is 24 hours and the finalization is 6 months. Although one agency said they give the Birth Mother 48 hours if she's had a C-section. I was just confused for a second. I pray that it all works out for all of you.
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Stephanie 27 DH 27 TTC-actively 3 years, not-not trying (hehe) 5 years before that. HSG-10/05 normal. LAP-10/05 endo (Stage III or IV), fibroids & polyps in uterus, and a cyst on left ovary-all removed. Pacemaker-08/06 LAP/Hysteroscopy-03/08 endo removed, tubes flushed, D & C. No fibroids, polyps, or cysts!
Dh wants to stay child-free for the long haul. I do not. On a break that I hope isn't permanent. 07/09-After 2-3 months of irregular cycles diagnosed with PCOS. Now 3 months of provera to regulate. www.myspace.com/stephaniehorst http://stephaniehorst.blogspot.com/
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08-27-2008, 07:59 AM
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Kari, I am so sorry you are going through this. I pray this all works out for you.
Hugs.. Nancy
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Nancy, 39, Low egg reserve, MTHFR C677T mutation (found after 3rd m/c) single (donor sperm) Edison Yukon3 M/C  Nov-2000, Nov-2001, Sep-2007 1st IVF May 4th 2007 450 UFollistim & 2AMPs Repronix Continued till May 11 3 follies 2 eggs at retrieval Cancelled May 15  poor qual egg  2nd IVF Lupron, follistim and Repronix ET Aug1 2007 Aug 15 Sept 7 u/s No heartbeat.. m/c  3rd IVF Letting Go of IVF Adoption Domestic, Ethiopia & China China: waiting for referral since Jan 30, 2007(long wait another 4yrs) Ethiopia: waiting for referral since Feb 25, 2008 (looks like another year or two) Domestic: Jack Frankie born Oct 9, 2008
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09-09-2008, 03:57 PM
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TPR postponed for one more week
Today was the court hearing for TPR. Our son's birthmom got nervous when they stated that the open terms we agreed upon are not legally binding. So, she would like to meet with us again to discuss the terms and more visits. We have always been very vocal about wanting visits and for him to have a relationship with her - so in a way this is good. However, now the judge postponed the hearing again until next Tuesday. Our son will be 8 weeks old at that time....we are still holding our breath!
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Me - 31 PCOS DH - 30 low motility, morphology, and count TTC - for 3 years prior to bringing our son home Golden Retriever (8 yrs old) 10/06, 11/06, 12/06 - clomid, metformin, HCG, and timing (developed vision problems from clomid) 1/07, 2/07 - IUIs (letrozole, metformin, and HCG) IVF #1 - 6/07 - IVF/ICSI (fresh transfer cancelled due to OHSS, retrieved 21 eggs - 16 mature) 8/16/07 - FET Starting adoption process...but will keep trying 9/18/07 - FET 10/21/07 - FET w/AH IVF/ICSI #2 12/31/07 - Fresh blasts w/AH Will become parents via domestic adoption 1/08 Adoption education classes and homestudy 1/29/08 - wait begins 7/2/08 - Matched! Boy due July 25th! 7/22/08 - Our precious boy was born! 7/24/08 - he's home! 9/16/08 - TPR - Jaxon is our son forever! 2/3/09 - Finalized the adoption! Our son, forever and always! Saving for child #2 - embryo adoption or domestic adoption
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09-09-2008, 04:10 PM
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Oh Kari--so sorry that you are in limbo right now.
Thank you for keeping us posted... Sending you positive thoughts for next week. It must be really, really difficult.
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09-09-2008, 07:18 PM
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Kari--- thinking of you.
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DH: 30 Beautiful daughter born 4-23-03 TTC since Feb 2005 - didn't ovulate Started treatment Aug 2006 6 rounds of clomid tubes are open bloodwork is good 3 rounds of femara/follistim/HCG 2 IUIs 6 months of acupuncture Moving on to infant domestic adoption! Officially waiting to be matched!! -- June '08 Our portfolio has been shown 9 times since June 2008.
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09-09-2008, 07:27 PM
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Oh Kari I can so relate to your pain & fears. We went through 2 yrs of court hearing with our grandson having to give his birth parents more chances than they deserved to try to work with child welfare in order to get him back. They finally terminated their rights in July it was such a relief to know that we can now adopt him & know he is staying forever.
We were terrified at every court date that they would somewho convince the court that they deserve to have him back when they truly were in no shape to care for him at all. I pray that your TPR happens next week and you can breath a little easier knowing your son is staying with you. It is amazing how quickly you bond isn't it? I can't imagine loving a biological child more than I do our little boy, I just see how it could be possible.
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 Staci______________ Me- 38 no known issues DH - 46 Reversal with antibodies present on tail/low motility 1 DS - 2 yrs old - adopting thru childwelfare(been with us since 2 wks old) 4 stepchildren (28, 26, 23, 22 yrs old) 5 Dogs - 4 Catahoula, 1 Aussie4 horses, chickens and cattle TTC since reversal in 2002 IUI #1 July 08 = IUI #2 sched for 08/14/08 for a 8/12 - 3 follies largest 15.3 so have to go back on Thurs & change IUI to 8/16 -- was not able to do IUI this month Waiting for AF to schedule next U/S & IUI. On to IVF next - maybe IUI#3 - 1 folicle 27, wow but levels were low enough to do it, BUT sperm count went down to 8M with 2M motile 9/25 showed upHoping to start IVF# on Nov 22nd we that the Lord blesses us with His miracle.
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