[BabySteps]

Congratulations! This is the first time I have read about your journey. You are amazing and deserve much happiness

[Kari]

Congratulations on getting through the next step of this process! Try to keep yourself busy as much as possible during the wait.

We just completed our 4th and final agency social worker visit today. Now we can make an appointment with the County Register in Probate to fill out more paperwork and set a date for finalization!

Each step along this journey is something to celebrate!

[shb24]

Yay Julie! Congrats!!

[Gemmabean]

can I just say, if ONE more person tells me I will get pregnant now that we are trying to adopt, I am GOING TO SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I knew you'd understand....

Still waiting for the final home study report. One week and counting...

[jenedens6102]

Oh man did I hate that too. It's like as soon as I announced that we were saving to adopt (before I did actually conceive Ethan) it was everyone's first response. You'll adopt and end up pregnant and have two little babies to care for. My response was "yes, because you know once we adopt my husband's sperm is magically going to correct itself and work!" Argh!

[Annaandy]

whoo hoo for you!!!! good luck!

[sarah16]

Originally Posted by Gemmabean

can I just say, if ONE more person tells me I will get pregnant now that we are trying to adopt, I am GOING TO SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I still get that. I just smile and say, yeah like that is going to happen. Of course they always have a story of someone who it has happened to.

[mittons]

I understand completley. I get the whole speech as well. I just don't blink an eye when I hear it and say umm yeah I had a hysterctomy so I am sure I will be the next Virgin Mary. That pretty much stops them in their tracks!

[Gemmabean]

Originally Posted by sarah16

Of course they always have a story of someone who it has happened to.

yes, why IS that???? I get the same thing too....

[Gemmabean]

ok, so once again, I'm here because I KNOW you all will understand.

I had a note from a friend the other day telling me how blessed I am NOT to have children. It seems I am SO blessed to be able to go out with my husband (which we never do because of IF treatment debt and now adoption expenses) and how lucky I am to be able to go on weekend get-aways (never) and to go to England to visit my in-laws (once in 9 years).

She proceeded to tell me that she felt sorry for any child that gets adopted by me. That was the subject of an email which I DID NOT OPEN, but deleted directly.

Friend? Well, clearly she does not know the meaning of the word and I have been praying for her 2 boys ever since!

A little more of her history? She told me not to apply to Va Tech because I'd never get in (got in and graduated). And a few years ago she called me and told me I was too old to have children and it was time for me to face facts and oh yeah by the way she was pregnant with #2 (we are the same age).

So this was her third strike, and why I've stayed in touch with her this long I have NO clue.

I have no idea what would provoke anyone to say such things. I did have momentary flashbacks to an episode here, on the forum, when someone accused me of drowning puppys and kittys. (some of you old timers may remember that.)

Mean people suck!

I am trying to move on and realize she is the one with the problem, not me. I have blocked her from email and anything else.

I know I can be TOO sensitive, but this just about put me over the edge.

I had to share (vent?) because I know you all will understand because you know what I've been through these past few years.

I guess I still think basically, all people are good, and it just shocks me to come across a mean one. I truley feel sorry for here, but even more so for her boys.

Thanks for listening.

Love and hugs,
Jules

[CryingInside]

OKAY-that is too much! I would say be done being her friend, although she clearly needs some assistance and guidance with just basically being a decent human being from your wonderful self.

She appears to be nuts. That's all I can say because I can only imagine how DARN lucky any child would be to be adopted by you! I can't imagine anyone being so mean. I truly feel sorry for this girl.

On a side note: I don't remember the puppies and kitties, but maybe I'm not old-timer enough. I don't see you doing that either. What is with people?!?

[MaggieMoo]

OMG!!! The nerve of her!!!! Yah, I would def block her, delete from contacts and what ever else you can do to cut off all communication from her. Sorry you are having to go though this. Especially when this is the time you could have needed her support during the adoption process. Her loss, not yours!!
HUGS to you!!

[tulip23]

You know what Julie, I don't feel sorry for you that you had to listen to all that crap from your friend..I feel sorry for your "friend" instead. I feel sorry that she thinks the way she does. I feel sorry that she is so mean , that inspite of being a woman and a mom she does not understand how much it hurts to wait for a child . May Lord bless her with some more sense.
You don't need to pay heed to every single thing that someone tells you..try filtering out as much as you can so that you are left with good vibes only..difficult, I know but its worth giving a shot . AND most important.. you've had enough of this friend of yours, get away from her!

[sarah16]

Some people just don't get it. They have no filter. I'm sorry that you have a deal with someone like that. I don't know if anyone has watched PS I Love You, the movie. But she is talking to the guy played by Harry Connick Jr. And she is like they make a pill for rudeness? Well they should!!!

[Gemmabean]

thank you all for your support. I'm feeling much better knowing she can't contact me.

now for a home study update:

I got a copy of our home study on Friday. Our social worker wanted us to look it over. It was FULL of errors. We were shocked!!! DH's age was TEN YEARS OLDER, eye color was wrong, she had me working 2 full-time jobs at ONE TIME. Graduation dates were wrong, both of our sister's ages were incorrect... I could go on.

Needless to say, I've asked to review it again, so I don't think it will be done before Christmas, but I can wait a few days longer.

It's just been very frustrating.

I hope to get an 800 number and complete our profile over the holidays. Come January 1, it's go go go!

I have high hopes of being a mom by this time next year.

I saw someone mentioned the "Christmas Blues." I have them too, I miscarried during the Christmas holiday one year and another year our baby was due at this time, so I dread the end of the year holidays. Hopefully that will change. This year hasn't been as bad as past years, I think because I have hope again. A little hope goes a long way, lemme tell ya.

Happy holidays and love and hugs to all,
Julie