[futuremom2b]

It is a pretty neat story hu? We really haven't shared our IVF history with our family so I haven't shared that story with very many people! Thanks guys!
Anyway, if I had insurance that covered IVF I would do it as many times as they covered! until I started to go insane, which I think would be about at 2 or 3! Prayers to you and your DH and I will keep checking in to follow your story too!

Thanks Jen, your right full circle! God is GREAT!
Andrea

[amfandrmf]

I know the story I've had so far basically everyone in my family and my friends know it. I think because know one that I know besides this forum have had to go through this yet, so they have a lot of questions for me. I think this is a huge fear for all women wanting to become moms.

We kept our fertility problems a secret for about a year. We were hoping we could get pregnant and suprise everyone. Once we knew we were doing IVF, we decided it would just be easier to let the cat out of the bag. My family and my DH's family were very good at hinting on how much they wanted us to get pregnant (Xtreme pressure). It was starting to get hard dodging the questions without letting them know what we were going through. And, at the time, you are still adjusting to all that has been happening emotionally.

Once I told them, I only went to visit when I knew I was stable talking about what was going on. I knew they would have questions and I wanted to give them a straight answer without getting too emotional.

My family has been very curious about the entire IVF process and I love that they feel comfortable asking me anything. My aunt knew a friend of the family who went through it and would never say one thing about what she was going through. I can understand how it can be difficult to talk about. But, I see it as a good way to educate people on the obstacles that we really face becoming parents. I want them to appreciate how the process of becoming parents isn't the same for everyone.

I feel God is having me go through all of this to learn a few lessons. It has made me very sensitive to anyone going through a hard time. I think it has also made me slow down and enjoy life one day at a time.

[Anastasia]

I have heard of these loans as well. You certainly will be paying interest until you get your tax refund, but a few hundred compared to thousands isn't so bad; however, if the tax credit is only aprox. 11k, sometimes adoptions can be a lot more, even more than 20k.

Anna, I can't believe your husband's company pays for IVF, I didn't think there were any more in Wisco, I know my neighbor worked for an insurance company about four years back when they did IVF and it was covered. It worked with a FET after the second fresh cycle. Her company discountinued the benefits though and they adopted the second time and they are sooo happy with that decision. I am in Appleton are you nearby?

[jenedens6102]

My life is an open book so everyone who knows me knows of our struggle and where we've been.

[amfandrmf]

Anastasia,
I'm actually in Waukesha, but my mom grew up in Appleton and I still have family up there. I actually went to college at UW-Oshkosh. My husband works for a local bank. It's almost worth changing jobs and just being a teller to get this one benefit. We have paid maybe about $6,000 so far for both IVF cycles and all the meds we've used. It is truly a blessing to be able to afford this while we are so young. The company is actually being bought by a different bank at the end of the year, so I don't know if our benefits will change. I'm hoping it will all be over by then, though.

Jen,
I think it's a great thing to have your story out there for everyone to see. I think the more you talk about it with family members, the more they are educated and the more you feel the healing process progressing. At least I know that is how I feel.

[Anastasia]

Anna, It is a small world isn't it? Well, I really hope that this next IVF works for you, keep us posted.

Jen and Anna,
My life is an open book too. Sometimes I wish we would have been a little more closed mouth about the whole thing, but I do think it is good to educate people about IF and how it affects your life.

[amfandrmf]

AF arrived today!!!!! I'm so excited that it finally is here! I never knew it could make me so happy! My RE appointment is Monday. I'm hoping to start Follistim next week. I love that everything is starting to progress. It seemed like I was in a standstill for awhile.

[futuremom2b]

Thinking about you Anna and I hope this time is your time!


Hugs to you!

[Anastasia]

Jen,

I know you mentioned you were due for AF soon. Did she arrive? Or maybe not?