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12-01-2007, 08:26 PM
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Who wants to adopt, is thinking of it, or in the middle of it!
I am gathering information on agencys right now in order to adopt. I have had some great advice from a couple of people on the forum who have adopted in the past. I was wondering if anyone was going through the process right now.
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 DH: 30 Beautiful daughter born 4-23-03 TTC since Feb 2005 - didn't ovulate Started treatment Aug 2006 6 rounds of clomid  tubes are open bloodwork is good 3 rounds of femara/follistim/HCG 2 IUIs 6 months of acupuncture Moving on to infant domestic adoption!  Officially waiting to be matched!! -- June '08 Our portfolio has been shown 9 times since June 2008. 
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12-01-2007, 10:34 PM
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I'm not in the process but I have adopted 2 beutiful kids.One girl 9 yrs old got her when she was 3 yrs old and a little boy 2 yrs old got him straight out of the hospital newborn...I also have 1 bio dd 6 yrs old and there is no difference in the love u feel for the adopted ones from your bio ones,it's a beutiful thing adoption but that's just my opinion,good luck!
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Me30 = tube damage DH 34 = perfect DD 9 = perfect DD 6= perfect DS 2 = perfect 2 fur babies  Roxie & Chase Chocolate lab&pikenese Full house I know but theres so much love! 2000-2005 many failed iui,ivf,icsi  11/4 natural cycle   11/5 beta 1200+  11/7 beta 1400 + 11/9 beta 1700 +  11/10 u/s no visible pregnancy e/p 11/12 second u/s still nothing  11/13 surgery lost right tube 12/8 first accupuncture appt 12/11 appt with RE to start FET 
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12-01-2007, 11:28 PM
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I began to look into it, but I am not quite there yet. I can't believe how much it costs....not that its not worth it...but jeez.
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Brandei Bangan "Unexplained Infertility" TTC Since June 2006 MC Sept. 2007@ 5 wks  -natural Sept. 2007-HSG (all clear) Oct.16-u/s 2 good follies, HCG shot 1st IUI w/Clomid October 24,2007 Beta Nov. 9th: another Chemical PG.US Nov.13th: All Clear- No Cysts Nov. Cycle Dec.20: Hysteroscopy/D&C Jan. 1: CD1 Jan. 14: Hysteroscopy check up from Dec.20-good to go
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12-02-2007, 02:51 AM
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We started talking about it a few months ago. We have one more IUI before we will probably be making the decision between going straight to adoption or trying IVF. I asked about it once before on here and got some really good information on agencies! Good luck and keep us updated if you don't mind!
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 Stephanie 27 DH 27 TTC-actively 3 years, not-not trying (hehe) 5 years before that. HSG-10/05 normal. LAP-10/05 endo (Stage III or IV), fibroids & polyps in uterus, and a cyst on left ovary-all removed. Pacemaker-08/06 LAP/Hysteroscopy-03/08 endo removed, tubes flushed, D & C. No fibroids, polyps, or cysts!
Dh wants to stay child-free for the long haul. I do not. On a break that I hope isn't permanent. 07/09-After 2-3 months of irregular cycles diagnosed with PCOS. Now 3 months of provera to regulate. www.myspace.com/stephaniehorst http://stephaniehorst.blogspot.com/
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12-02-2007, 06:29 AM
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We are 100% fine with adoption and was on that path until we realized the cost. It's almost criminal really. It's so frustrating because if our RE wasn't constantly giving us pep talks we would have stopped IVF and went for adoption. You know what they say about hind sight being 20/20. We lost SO much money on IVF (all of it was out of pocket). We should have went to adoption after IVF #1...we could have a baby right now...and we still could have still pursued IVF later if we felt we needed to try for our own biological baby. It just stinks because I realize now how uninformed I was when we were making all of our IF decisions. I've learned SO much on this board ...I just wish I would have found it sooner.
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Carie Me - 35 = Poor egg quality/DOR/Poor Stimmer/High CD3 FSH and Estrogen (bla...bla...bla) DH - 36 = Low & slow TTC >3 years Kitchen Sink Info: #1 IVF/ICSI & AH = BFN #2 IVF/ICSI & Thyroid meds = BFP (Ectopic) #3 IVF/ICSI & Metformin 03/07 = BUST 02/02/08 = Started taking Royal Jelly & Bee Pollen in honey (it worked for me!!) 03/03/08 = 100 mg Clomid w/ DS (PreSeed+Instead Cups) = BFN 04/02/08 = 100 mg Clomid w/ DS (PreSeed+Instead Cups) = BFP 1st Beta --> 05/02/08 = 232 (15dpo)2nd Beta --> 05/05/08 = 846 3rd Beta --> 05/07/08 = 1874 U/S --> 05/13/08 = (5w6d) Saw heartbeat/got pictures  U/S --> 05/22/08 = (7w1d) Heard heartbeat/141 bpm (measure 7w) U/S --> 06/02/08 = (8w5d) Saw baby moving arms and legs/179 bpm (measure 8w5d) Anatomy Scan --> 08/20/08 (20w) It's a BOY!! Delivered at 38wk6d = 7lb 9oz 20 1/2in  
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12-02-2007, 06:52 AM
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Hi ... we actually went to a general informational meeting yesterday at the agency we picked ... yes it's expensive, but totally worth every penny
 Good luck to everyone!
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 June 9, 2008 - transfered 2 morula embryos on day 3 June 19, 2008 - beta 124 June 21, 2008 - beta 352 July 2, 2008 - one perfect little bean saw the heart flicker July 16, 2008 - little pooh-bear measuring perfectly hb 144 July 28, 2008 - obgyn apt. measuring 10 weeks, our little pooh-bear was moving around August 13, 2008 - nt scan, measuring 12w3d hb 157 August 22, 2008 - obgyn apt. pooh-bear's hb 160 September 24, 2008 - obgyn apt. October 14, 2008 - 20 week u/s scan ... we are having a BOY! November 11, 2008 - obgyn apt. parker's hb 145, measuring 25 weeks December 10, 2008 - 1 hr glucose test (failed), measuring 33 weeks December 22, 2008 - 3 hr glucose test (passed) December 29, 2008 fetal growth u/s, 4 lb 15 oz measuring 34 weeks February 10, 2009 - cervical check February 23, 2009 - edd February 21, 2009 - PARKER WAS BORN 9 lbs 4 oz
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12-02-2007, 11:15 AM
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With the health problems I had during pregnancy (and still dealing with) we will adopt in a few years. I have the agency picked but dont know at this point if we will do international or local. (I dont think I could deal with the stress of ttc again even if I didnt have the blood pressure/iugr issues)
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 Kelli -30: endometriosis (stage 3), anovulation, irregular cycles DH-34: fine Cats: Crackers, Stubby (live with my mom) Dogs: Dori (standard schnauzer) TTC Naturally 357 days: (testing with next af) CD 27: 3/23/07 HPT X 2 Beta 1015 Induction at 37w 1d: 11/12 (high bp & IUGR)!!!!!!  TTC #2: 3/09 back to back then constant  3/29 Missy the most amazing dog, my fur sister went to heaven. 4/29 gyn 5/4-13 provera cd 3 & 21 bloodwork, possible clomid in 3 months (af finally stopped 5/8) 5/16 CD1.....here we go, finally!5/19 CD3 bloodwork FSH 5.6 5/25 Boomer the wonder dog went to heaven 6/3 6/5 CD21 bloodwork progesterone 1.5 Start Clomid days 3-7 with next cycle #2 on hold www.myspace.com/KelliRhodes http://caitlinsmommy.blogspot.com Last edited by Kellileanne : 12-02-2007 at 11:17 AM.
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12-02-2007, 02:20 PM
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Thanks ladies! I am literally just reading everything I get my hands on for domestic adoption. The cost is big but it's scary how much information you need to know about each agency. I'm afraid I'm going to forget it when I go to interview the different agencys.
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DH: 30 Beautiful daughter born 4-23-03 TTC since Feb 2005 - didn't ovulate Started treatment Aug 2006 6 rounds of clomid tubes are open bloodwork is good 3 rounds of femara/follistim/HCG 2 IUIs 6 months of acupuncture Moving on to infant domestic adoption! Officially waiting to be matched!! -- June '08 Our portfolio has been shown 9 times since June 2008.
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12-02-2007, 07:36 PM
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Is there a local adoption group near you? They often have opinions on good agencies, fair prices, etc. If you want hand holding, pick an agency that does that. There is nothing worse than finding out that you don't like your agency when you are too far in to change. We had issues with our agencies, but know that they led us to our boys. Remember too, that there is a tax credit for over $10,000. You will have to pay the money to the agency, but you'll get that back at tax time.
Best of luck and keep us informed!
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Michelle many moons ago ('99-'00)... one Clomid Challenge and 2 IVF cycles mother to Zachary and Alex born in Karaganda, Kazakhstan http://thebaldwinsjourney.blogspot.com/    
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12-02-2007, 08:48 PM
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I don't think there is an adoption group. The closest adoption agency is about one and a half hours away for classes. We live on the border between Iowa and Illinois and I found the same company just across the river but I don't know if they will do the classes for us. We only have two foster to adopt agencies in our town.
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DH: 30 Beautiful daughter born 4-23-03 TTC since Feb 2005 - didn't ovulate Started treatment Aug 2006 6 rounds of clomid tubes are open bloodwork is good 3 rounds of femara/follistim/HCG 2 IUIs 6 months of acupuncture Moving on to infant domestic adoption! Officially waiting to be matched!! -- June '08 Our portfolio has been shown 9 times since June 2008.
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12-03-2007, 06:24 AM
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You don't have to go local to adopt. As long as you take the required classes somewhere, your agency just has to be licenced in your state. I have also heard of private agencies that work within all state foster systems to help place children with families. A coworker of mine went that route and she adopted a son from the foster care systen in New Jersey (we are in upstate NY). It opened the field up and gave them more options than just their state. If you're not sure if there's an adoption group ask an agency, they'll know. Good luck!
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Michelle many moons ago ('99-'00)... one Clomid Challenge and 2 IVF cycles mother to Zachary and Alex born in Karaganda, Kazakhstan http://thebaldwinsjourney.blogspot.com/
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12-03-2007, 10:07 AM
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I have always been really torn between whether or not to do IVF or just move on to adoption if this last IUI doesn't work. Reading Carie's story made me think, thanks for sharing Carie!
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Stephanie 27 DH 27 TTC-actively 3 years, not-not trying (hehe) 5 years before that. HSG-10/05 normal. LAP-10/05 endo (Stage III or IV), fibroids & polyps in uterus, and a cyst on left ovary-all removed. Pacemaker-08/06 LAP/Hysteroscopy-03/08 endo removed, tubes flushed, D & C. No fibroids, polyps, or cysts!
Dh wants to stay child-free for the long haul. I do not. On a break that I hope isn't permanent. 07/09-After 2-3 months of irregular cycles diagnosed with PCOS. Now 3 months of provera to regulate. www.myspace.com/stephaniehorst http://stephaniehorst.blogspot.com/
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12-04-2007, 11:33 PM
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Sarah and I have been talking a lot, but I just wanted the others here posting to know that we just adopted with finalization being Nov. 26th so if any of you have any questions at all, feel free to ask or PM me if you'd prefer...
Blessings, Michelle
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1 ds from prev. marriage, 12 y.o. (Bradley) 1 adorable adopted son, adopted at birth, in July of 2007 (Joshie) Me: 37 poor ovarian response; hypothyroidism Dh: 38 and testicular failure (no sperm) TTC since 1999 Many failed IUI's and a couple chemical pg's IVF converted to IUI 8/06 (poor response) BFP Ended in m/c of twins at 5-6 weeks Last medicated IUI this June; can't now, dh changing jobs and health insurance, have to wait 90 days for new ins. to kick in, argh!...but I don't expect it to work...if BFN, we will adopt again when Joshie is of school age (domestic and hopefully a biracial or full AA little girl)  www.totsites.com/tot/joshiedale 
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12-04-2007, 11:36 PM
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Oh, plus I forgot to say...we plan to adopt again when Joshie is around age 3-4...if my dh gets his pardon, we may go international because we'd like an older child next time around....babies are fun, but a lot of work! We'd really like a toddler age girl next time.
Blessings, Michelle
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1 ds from prev. marriage, 12 y.o. (Bradley) 1 adorable adopted son, adopted at birth, in July of 2007 (Joshie) Me: 37 poor ovarian response; hypothyroidism Dh: 38 and testicular failure (no sperm) TTC since 1999 Many failed IUI's and a couple chemical pg's IVF converted to IUI 8/06 (poor response) BFP Ended in m/c of twins at 5-6 weeks Last medicated IUI this June; can't now, dh changing jobs and health insurance, have to wait 90 days for new ins. to kick in, argh!...but I don't expect it to work...if BFN, we will adopt again when Joshie is of school age (domestic and hopefully a biracial or full AA little girl) www.totsites.com/tot/joshiedale
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12-05-2007, 07:50 AM
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Deff. thinking about it
I have a stepson that i have had from the age of 14 mths. He does not know his mother and I am mommy. I can imagine the love i have for him being ANY different then for my own child if i was to have them. I am crying just thinking about the love i have for that little boy, he is the most amazing and lovable little boy. I met him before i met his dad (I was the daycare teacher. heehe) and i loved him and knew he was meant to be mine. I then met his father and loved him after time. So i think i will be perfectly fine with adopting a child now that i know the love is just as great as long as i have a house full of screaming children!!! Nothing else in the world is more important to me
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ME- Lorry DH-perfect DSS 12/24/2003- Collin (full custody) DSS 12/24/2003-5/27/2004- collins twinTTC- 1/13/2007 7/13/2007- @ 6 weeks 02/18/2008-beta #35@ 6 1/2 weeks, u/s No sac 4/3-Genetic and blood testing =Everything fine 7/24/08-8/17/08-clomid 50 mg 9/29/2008- lap and hyp. -Found sever scaring on uterus and one blocked tube and a growth on open tube HOPE WAS LOST!!!!! 12/5/2008-sdp 4 days before 12/9/2008- Beta 140!!!! 12/12/2008- Beta 585! 12/22/2008- 1st us gestational sac and yolk beta 20,000 1/2/2009-hb 140 MOST Amazing moment of my life! 1/20/2008-U/s Hb 174 Turkey butt was jumping around and waved at us (or so we like to think)Its a GIRL!!!! Aniston NOel Fry!!!!     
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