[rosaryforlife]

hi. i was 16 when i got pregnant with my first precious little boy and at that time both me and his birthfather were not ready to be parents so we formed an adoption plan for him....now i am in a solid marriage and have been trying to have a child for two years. we are still childless and i am very heartbroken. im angry with god and dont understand why i am not conceiving a child. any advice?

angry

[Kay]

rosaryforlife- I am so sorry you are experiencing infertility. I am an adoptive mother of three children so I can say from the bottome of my heart what you did at 16 was the most unselfish thing anyone can do. You are a brave woman who puts the needs of others first. I know you gave your adoptive family the most presious gift. I am so glad to hear you are now in a happy marriage.
Have you sought out help from an infertility specialist? This is the place I would start if I were you. There are women on this site from all over the country and some from outside the US. I am sure if you posted for a recomendation in your area you would get several to choose from. There are many reasons for infertility, but there are many medical ways to help most people.
Best wishes to you.
Kay

[jenedens6102]

Rosary, first of all welcome to the forum. Secondly, I am so sorry that you are finding yourself dealing with infertility. What a blessing you are in your choice to give your son life and bless his adoptive family with the chance to be a family. With that said, it's been two years - have either you or your DH started any testing? This is usually the first place to start and then hopefully the process will go quickly for you. Many blessings your way!

[wannabigbabybelly]

I just wanted to say the same thing.

There is help out there to find out what is going on and what can be done about it.

Don't give up hope. I can understand being angry at God. I have many times. I have also beaten myself up about it, thinking maybe I've done somethign wrong, maybe it's a punishment, maybe I'm just not good enough or deserving of this blessing I'm asking for.

But over the years I've learned that just isn't the case. God is there, he does love us, he wants us to be happy, and he would give us anything our heart desires if he thought it was best for us. And some things in life we must suffer through just because we are on this earth we are mortal and we have to deal with the problems and afflictions that come with it. I've learned to trust in his timing and his plan for my life. I know he can perform miracles...and if/when he thinks the time is right ...hopefully we'll see that miracle as well.

I've been so blessed through adoption. Without it my arms would still be empty. The choice you made back then was what you felt was right for your baby...I'm sure that must have been the most difficult thing you've ever done and I'm sure you'll have all sorts of feelings coming to you as your trying to conceive and even after you have your next baby. Your first little one will always be near to your heart.

But God loves you...and he does want you and your husband to to be happy and have that family life you desire.

I'd reccomend going in for some testing to see what you can do to increase your chances of getting pregnant. Good Luck!!!

[sarah16]

Please go to your doctor and get a plan in place. They can do tests for you and make sure everything is working correctly. Good luck and welcome!

[rosaryforlife]

thank you all for your encouraging words....as it turns out both me and my husband have been checked out and he is fine...i have something wrong with my ovaries...cysts or something that prevent me from ovulating. They put me on cholmid back in December...this was after we suffered a miscarriage in September. I lost my job due to new management coming in recently and now find myself moping around just waiting and longing for another chance to be a mommy. I dont know what to do with myself. I am continuing to look for work and just hoping and praying (on my good days) that we are given a second chance. I do love God. I know what you said is right about him...I just get frustrated and upset when people that probably shouldn't be parents have no trouble getting pregnant and people that would make great parents have to go through all this. It doesnt make sense to me. I have an appointment with my OB today so- i think i'll ask her about iui. i also heard about something called naprotechnology which is a natural way of learning about your cycle and trracking the best days for conception. I might look into that too. Again- thank you for your kind words....please keep us in your prayers.

[lovingwife]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. But, it sounds like you're working on a great plan! That will make you feel so much better. If it's possible, you might want to see if your OB/GYN can refer you to a RE. My OB/GYN said she wouldn't be insulted if we wanted to switch over to an RE to get pregnant. I don't know anything about cysts, but you must have ovulated at least once since you got pg on your own. An RE has the expertise to monitor you and figure out if and when you are ovulating. My OB/GYN is a great doctor, but she really didn't know much about the IF aspect of medicine.

I do know how you feel about moping around the house. I only work part time and find myself obsessing about ttc when I'm home alone. I never worried about finding a full time job when we moved here a year ago assuming that I'd be a stay at home mom soon (sigh).

Best of luck to you and DH.

[wannabigbabybelly]

I also have an ovulation problem called "polycystic ovarian syndrome" Which sounds similiar to what might be going on with you.

Clomid never worked for me even at it's highest doses, but using the injectables has been a God Send.

If you have PCOS you may also ask your doctor about putting you on Metformin. It may help you regain ovulation and it also decreases your risk of miscarriage. It can also help you loose a few pounds. Some people on here have lost like 40 lbs on it.

If you do indeed have PCOS ...it can be very frustrating...especially if your going it alone...because you may not ovulate on your own...or just very rarely and all that plotting of temperatures can be very frustrating. I know when I used to do that they never made any sense (since I wasn't ovualting) and my doctor said it wasn't necessary to waist my time on it anymore.

But there are a bunch of differnt symptoms and levels of severity with PCOS....I think I'm just one of the more stubborn ones for some reason.

[rosaryforlife]

again, thanks for all your support. it turns out i do have a tendency for polycystic ovarian syndrome. My Dr. recommended IUI and I have an appointment to see this specialist on thursday. hopefully all goes well....its just a consult but we'll see. I will ask about that medicine though....it sounds promising!
Thanks for the tip!

[mondk]

Rosary: I'm sorry for all you are going through. I would like to suggest an excellent fertility book to you if I may: Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Tony Weschler (I think that's the author/something similar). You can get good used ones at amazon.com

Blessings, Michelle

[hopingforfamily]

Oh my goodness Rosary, I am in your same situation. I gave up my first son 14 years ago. Then I had a child with my husband who died of cancer when our son was two. I was remarried 4 years ago and have been struggling to get pregnant very since. I am so devastated.

[TINKERBELL_202]

Originally Posted by hopingforfamily

Oh my goodness Rosary, I am in your same situation. I gave up my first son 14 years ago. Then I had a child with my husband who died of cancer when our son was two. I was remarried 4 years ago and have been struggling to get pregnant very since. I am so devastated.

i'm really sorry you going thorugh this

[SchmennaLeigh]

Admin note: a complete disregard for others situations is not acceptable on this forum. To call someone selfish or to belittle their experience will result in banning. I debated how to handle this all weekend. We all have vastly differing experiences. If you cannot respect vastly differing experiences, you are not welcome on our forums.

[FallenChild]

My best advice is to Pray Pray Pray!! I've had a similar circumstance as you - almost Identical actually, and after allllllllllllllllllllllll the infertility treatments, I realized there is really only ONE wy to conceive - and that is by God's will!! I know it sounds unscientific and very simple - but I believe that really it is - BECAUSE I can promise you, if thos e Docs in the white coats could have gotten you pregnant THEY WOULD HAVE!! The truth is, there can coax all the spermies with eggies that they wnt, but if the spirit life isn't there by the good grace of God you will NOT get pregnant - so accept the way things are, thank God for the life you have now and PRAY!!! Prays DO get answered- best, FC

Originally Posted by rosaryforlife

hi. i was 16 when i got pregnant with my first precious little boy and at that time both me and his birthfather were not ready to be parents so we formed an adoption plan for him....now i am in a solid marriage and have been trying to have a child for two years. we are still childless and i am very heartbroken. im angry with god and dont understand why i am not conceiving a child. any advice?

angry

[TyraK]

This is an old wives tale that really works for some, it worked for me. Geritol is a womans high profiency vitamin, which really helps balance the body of a woman, well if your hormones and body is balanced you are more likely to concieve................im not a doctor but it worked for me and others. I tried for 10 months and nothing, I went and spoke to some mothers and other women , they told me about Geritol...well i'll b......i took it for 3 months and conceived...i was amazed..i had such a hard time for a long time, the montoring and all, with no conception was heartbreaking...so plzzzzzzzz ladies

If you dare to try a vitamin which is healthy for your body and may make you fertil, plz do.....it has worked for many women over the years.........

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