[wannabigbabybelly]

Just wondering how many LDS gals we have on this forum?

[Melanee2255]

Yes, I am!!

[wannabigbabybelly]

Cool!!!

I saw you just had your IUI not too long ago. When is your Beta scheduled for? Are you going to POAS before hand?

I'm not supposed to test until sunday...but I'm planning on testing early on thursday or friday...and then save my last test for sunday.

I hope this is a for both of us!!!

[Roxane]

I too am LDS.... and I have had such a hard time just going to church and hearing about family,family, family! It is so hard because I live in Utah and I swear if you dont have a baby by 21, people ask you "what's wrong?" I feel totally out of the loop lately. All the friends Ive made in my new ward,have play dates or go walking around the neighborhood during the summer. I'm to the point that I dont even want my visiting teachers coming over anymore because they bring thier little babies and thats all they talk about! Seriously.... can I just lock myself away from the world?

[griggsy]

One more here

[runswithtwofeet]

Hey I am. I just barely joined last week and imagine my surprise to find other members of the church here

[Roxane]

Welcome, Runswithtwofeet! This forum is awesome. Hope to hear more from you! Sending some baby dust your way

[cyclesister]

Sorry, this is a very late post, but add another to your list.

[wannabigbabybelly]

and GOOD LUCK!!! We're so excited to be apart of your TTC journey.

[Roxane]

!!!! This would be a fun group if we could get more action on here!!! I actually do check it every once in a while. Congrats on another step in your journey through IF!! We are happy you are here!

[jessiebessie]

Me too, me too!! I am LDS and I am having a realllllly hard time dealing. On top of the why don't you have children question, my dh is deployed alot so I have actually had people ask me if I need directions to the singles ward!!!!!
I could really use the added support, I am not too proud of myself but I have stopped going totally, which is sad. I enjoy church, I was working in the temple, but I just wanna stay home and make people leave me alone.

[wannabigbabybelly]

Jessie-

I know it's hard. But it will only get harder if you stop going to church. Believe me. We went through some hard times where we didn't stop going but we'd miss a couple sundays here and there and even when we did go, I only went for my kids, because I wanted them to be there, but my heart was not in it.

Those were some of the hardest times. I could feel myself on the verge of falling away if I didn't step up and start putting my heart into it.

Once I went to my bishop and let him know what was going on and how hard it was for me to even be there he helped to put a lot of things in perspective and also encouraged me to start reading my scriptures and praying again and things started to change.

Things were still hard after that. I finally was able to get pregnant....several times but we lost each pregnancy. It was devestating, but honestly without the gospel there and my testimony that I was getting back it would have been completely unbearable.

Instead, having the gospel and church friends who had also suffered miscarriages there to help me really made a difference. It gave me peace. It gave me hope for next time.

This last mothers day was the best day of my life....I was finally able to get my temple recommend back (my mothers day present to myself I guess you could say) and I was again starting another pregnancy...this time with twins...but we knew fromt he start we might be loosing one.

I went to the temple very shortly after that and it was so special. The next week we lost our smaller twin, but everything was going great with the remaining twin. Again I recieved so much peace through that hard time, because of the gospel.

I'm now 26 1/2 weeks pregnant and to my suprise, while it changes everything...it also changes nothing. I'm still the same person I was. It didn't take getting pregnant to become that strong person,or to know that I was finally a worthy person. It took me being me...and faith and continued obediance to "enduring to the end" and holding strong during trials to realize that God loved me and I was worthy of not only being a mother but of his love.

Please go back to church, even when it's hard. Talk to your bishop, get back to the temple. Find some friends in your ward that have experienced some of the same things with infertility, or with deployments.

Don't let infertility destroy you, rise above it and have faith that in Gods time you will be blessed with all things.

It will be worth it in the end. I promise!!!

[jessiebessie]

Thank you for that. I know I need too, uugg, it would be so much easier if I had support at home, dh has stopped going too. I think I will try to schedule an appointment with the bishop and just let it alllll go.

[tobypup]

Hi, I am new here. We are members too. I just read the last two posts. wannabigbabybelly : you are awesome. I loved your advice to jessiebessie, you are truly a strong sister. we are just starting the process of foster care in our area. (the director is LDS too). We never before considered this option because of the risks involved. I thought you may have some advice on that.
jessiebessie : I have been TTC just as long as you have, I know it's not easy to go to church with all those kids there and prego people. I still can't go on mother's day even now, but I still force myself to go all other sundays because I know it will make me happy and I am always glad I went to get that spiritual uplift that I need so much right now. It helps to have someone to talk to. I don't think I could have made it this far without support. Let us know how it goes.

[wannabigbabybelly]

Foster-Adopt can be a dificult road, I won't lie to you.

We could have gone through LDS social services and done a straight adoption. But in our hearts we felt those children would already be placed in loving LDS families.

We wanted to help a child we felt truly needed us and be able to offer the gospel to them as well.

Our main goal or hope was to be lead to a child that was meant to be ours forever. In the end we were blessed with 4 forever children.

But every other child that came into our home we knew was meant to come to us(for that period of time).. and to touch our hearts forever as we also touched theirs and their families.

Fostering is like one big emotional roller coaster it can be a challenge but also a great blessing.

Fostering isn't for everyone. But if you feel called in that direction, like we were, than it's for a reason and I'd go for it.