[keagy54]

Well I have finally come to the point that I realize how jealous and p-o'd I am. My pregnant sister in law has been living with us for 6 months now waiting for her house to be built, this has been so stressful since she got pregnant only 3 weeks after stopping her pills!!! My best friend got pregnant a month later, which was the same month we started TTC, and it was her first month trying and wham, BFP!! Then a week later I found out my cousin who I am quite close to got pregnant withing 3 months of trying and is also due in January!!! How's that for in your face! And to boot my sister in law keeps saying all these things I should try and monitor and uggggg, how the hell would she no, she blinked and was pregnant. It's so hard to watch all these people you're best friends with be pregnant and all due at the same time and you started trying when they did and had about 25 negatives. And to add on to this all my period hasn't been regular at all, which was never a problem before I started TTC. Well venting feels better, since I have no un-pregnant friends to vent to. I feel bad for it upsetting me but it's hard when you live with a pregnant woman and wish you were too, and I have to go in with her for the delivery as well, I hope I am pregnant by then because it might kill me, and while I'm thrilled for her and can't wait to be an auntie it just hurts to know it's not happening for us.

[slogsdon]

Originally Posted by keagy54

Well I have finally come to the point that I realize how jealous and p-o'd I am. My pregnant sister in law has been living with us for 6 months now waiting for her house to be built, this has been so stressful since she got pregnant only 3 weeks after stopping her pills!!! My best friend got pregnant a month later, which was the same month we started TTC, and it was her first month trying and wham, BFP!! Then a week later I found out my cousin who I am quite close to got pregnant withing 3 months of trying and is also due in January!!! How's that for in your face! And to boot my sister in law keeps saying all these things I should try and monitor and uggggg, how the hell would she no, she blinked and was pregnant. It's so hard to watch all these people you're best friends with be pregnant and all due at the same time and you started trying when they did and had about 25 negatives. And to add on to this all my period hasn't been regular at all, which was never a problem before I started TTC. Well venting feels better, since I have no un-pregnant friends to vent to. I feel bad for it upsetting me but it's hard when you live with a pregnant woman and wish you were too, and I have to go in with her for the delivery as well, I hope I am pregnant by then because it might kill me, and while I'm thrilled for her and can't wait to be an auntie it just hurts to know it's not happening for us.

I understand how you feel, my brother-in-law girlfriend has had 2 children within 2 years now, and it's like it's shoved in your face since it's within your family and you can't walk away from it!

[keeppraying]

ugh... that sucks. I am sure that it is hard. Whenever I see my preggo cousin and best friend- I try to keep a positive face. But I couldn't imagine how hard it would be to be living with them- you can't escape!

[mihlya]

I just found out today that a very close friend of mine who has been ttc since Jan of last yr, is prego. They had a miscarrage in March, and were forbidden by the RE to ttc for 3 months. That means with my math that it took them 7 months to get prego. Why can't the rest of us be like that??

Sometimes I think what the H*** did I do to deserve this?!?

I am terrably sorry if I made anybody depressed on Fri aft, but I just had to vent.

Mihlya-

[leelee]

I can't imagine having to live with a pregnant woman. That must be rough! Most of my friends got pregnant the first month after stopping the pill, I remember when I stopped mine-7 years ago!!!!!!!! I truly hope you get your BFP soon!

[jenedens6102]

You don't HAVE to be in the delivery room with her if you don't want, it's up to you. I know how it feels to have so many pregnancies around you, they seem to happen in threes around us and we've been trying for four years. Not everyone is blessed with everything falling into place right away, some of us take longer then others. First of all how long have you been ttc? If it's been over a year you should see a specialist and hopefully try to figure out why your cycles are abnormal, it may be that you aren't ovulating either and thus your chances are slim...but there is hope. First you have to figure out what is stopping you and your partner from conceiving then pick the plan that works best for you two and get to work. Then you'll be on the path to mommyhood!

[Lentabbate23]

Keagy54- I completely know how you feel with the whole sister in law thing. My sister became pregnant suprisingly and had the guts to call me crying about how she didnt want "it" amd didnt want to be a mother and she knew full well that we were trying extremely hard-at that point I couldnt even bring myself to talk to her. Well then she moved home with us and I had to see her everyday, take her to her apointments and all that fun stuff. Well she had asked me to go in the delivery room with her and I avoided answering her knowing that my mom would be around for her when it came down to it, well she had to go in for a ceaseran and my mom couldnt handle it so it was up to me. At that point I was so crushed because I had just found out 2 days before that my IUI didnt take and I got the lovely AF while she was in labor. I couldnt stop crying, I knew being there would be so amazing but at the same point I was just so devastated. It was probably one of the hardest things I ever had to do. I love my nephew with all my heart and soul but it was just so hard. If you dont think you will be ready for it I would explain to her before it all happens. Hopefully she will understand with everything that you are going through that it would just be so hard for you. And I really wish you the best of luck with becoming a mommy. Just keep your head up.

[anirtak]

3 months ago a coworker and close friend found out that she was Pregnant. The following day I took a pregnancy test and got a positive result. I miscarried. I have to go to work everyday and see this friend. It is a constant reminder of how far along I would be if I would not have miscarried. I know what if…. Some days I am really strong and other days I can’t even talk to her. I can only imagine how it would feel to be living with a pregnant woman. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

[Lori123]

UGH! I hear ya sista! I really have a hard time with advice on how to get pg from those who never even had to "try". ((HUGS))
Lori

[Go-Getter-Girl]

Hi Keagy54,

My heart goes out to you.

I know how hard this can be.

I myself have been very tearful lately with dealing with not being able to have children of my own.

I am saying a prayer for you right now.

[CryingInside]

I totally understand those feelings! I couldn't imagine being in the same house with a pg woman! I would go nutty! Just keep your chin up and remember that you are trying and one day you will be a great mommy who appreciates that baby so much more because of this experience!

[JennyR]

I feel your pain. My sister in law just gave birth to her first child on 12/12/2006. She has caused nothing but problems for me in the last 6 months. Her and another close friend love to talk behind my back about how unfair it is that I cannot handle their pregnancies. I try to share my feelins with them about it and they just don't even want to understand. I do not know how to handle this situation. I could not handle living with one of them!!!