[anirtak]

Well I recieved a phone call tonight from my sister....and she is pregnant. She just got married April 14 and three months later she is pregnant. I am so frustrated with God right now. Why does He do this to us. If it isn't bad enough that we have to struggle with IF but then it seems like all of the people close to us can get pregnant with little to no effort.
I am thankful that she called me and told me over the phone rather than telling me in person...at least I could break down in the privacy of my own home. To be honest I saw it coming....the past week she as been asking me so many questions about where we are at and what the next step in so I knew something was up because she normally isn't like that...but it still didn't make it any easier. I just really am at a loss for what God wants me do and how He expects me to handle this.

[inhishands]

i know, hang in there, just doesnt seem fair at times... but God does have a plan for us, it may take longer, but what is meant to be will happen. Im really trying to stay positive, we've all been through so much heartache and pain, seems like nothing ever goes our way, and it always comes so easy for others.... my only advice is to keep trying, never give up, this will make us stronger. Come on Lord, please send us our miracles SOON!!!!

[dyidyet]

I don't know what to say ... just hang in there ... I know it is frustrating when some women have it easy and here we are struggling to have one. Stay positive and have faith that we will have our turn to hold our little angels. I will pray for you. Take care.

[mrsjanowski]

Awww, it's sad to say but it crushes us everytime we find out someone new is pregnant and we still aren't. It may seem a little selfish myself sometimes, but it's the truth. That thought of "when is it my turn?" always ponders in the back of our minds!! One of my best friends gave birth about 7 months ago, when she told me I felt so jealous (she wasn't even married and she was dating the guy for less than 3 months -- so it sort of pissed me off) I thought how selfish was I? But then her married sister who happends to be even younger than I is pregnant with her second child. Again, crushed! She is due in November. Her childhood friend, a long time aquaintance of mine, just found out about a couple weeks ago she is pregnant. Another friend of mine is also due in November! UGH! Could it get any worse? There is a aquaintance at my work who should have given birth by now. Another co worker who is on Medical leave is about to give birth as well.... Let's see I'm sure I could scramble a few more but get the point? It's SOOOO HARD!!!

I hope this is your time!!!! Good luck!!! I'm sorry I didn't mean to turn this into my problem

[Angelwithhope]

I'm sorry Sweetie! there isn't much to say, it's so hard! I don't understand God a lot lately either, especially after our second loss but anyways. We're here for you as much as possible!

[foxxy]

I'm sorry you are feeling bad! We've all been there, and unfortunately there is nothing anyone can say or do to make it feel better. Chin up though as it will be your turn soon!! You have to be positive and keep telling your self that to help you get over your sadness!!!

[jenedens6102]

Katrina, I'm sorry to hear that you have another blow. But don't be angry with God, He's not doing this to you. No one knows why things happen the way they do but you have to believe they are happening for a reason. I was told that sometimes it takes a little refiners fire to make the precious jewel in life that we've been waiting for. It isn't always easy but it's worth it. Keep your chin up!

[Angel0226]

I'm sorry that you are struggling right now... we all know this feeling too well. I know we want to be happy for all these friends and family members who get pregnant so easy... but we can't help but feel the way we do. It does seem unfair... and it's okay to feel the way you do. In time, you will get there to. It may take a different method and a longer amount of time... but you will be a mother too someday! Try and focus on that. I know for my dh and I, infertility has been a serious blow in our lives. We have struggled and struggled and have went through two IVF's completely and totally draining our bank accounts. There are so many things we can't afford and do in life because of this... but it may have taken 7 years, but I'm finally happy, does that make any sense??? I thought I would never be happy at one point. God works in mysterious ways, that's for sure! Good luck to you!

[TiffanyW]

I am so sorry you feel like this. I know what it is like to be surrounded by pregnant women. Two of my good friends are pregnant and my SIL is as well. I am happy for them but at the same time I would really love to be preggo. And it is hard to hear all the pregnancy and baby talk all the time. But you have to look on the bright side. You are going to have a niece or nephew to love and spoil. And when you get pregnant (because you will) you will have an automatic friend for your child. And everything happens in God's time, not ours. I know that stinks to hear but it is the truth, God knows exactly when your baby will be born and everything about him/her. I always think that God must be trying to teach me patience. Heck maybe I will have a child that requires lots of patience, lol. Okay I rambled a bit. But I hope things start to look up for you and you can announce your own pregnancy very soon! *hugs*

[prairiegirl]

I know exactly how you feel! My husband says sometimes he feels like there must be no God at all, after hearing of people who leave their children to die in hot cars, or newborn babies found in dumpsters or mall bathrooms..I just can't handle all the people around me getting pregnant while I try to keep faith. It definitely hurts, so don't feel selfish, or alone. It's okay!! We all feel the same, this process wears you down.

Here's my worst jealousy story: my best friend got pregnant with her son FIRST try. Then she said, "Oh, I think I want babies a year and a half apart, just like me and my brother" and guess who is pregnant and due with a baby, exactly a year and a half after the last one...I love her but it is maddening. I am working with a girl who has been trying for a little over a month and she keeps saying things like, "I feel pregnant" and I can't help hoping she is NOT, even though I wish her no harm. If I hear one more person tell me that I just have to stop thinking about it and boom, we will get pregnant I will go bonkers!!

Thank you for sharing how you feel. There has to be hope for everyone, and we would all be lost without faith, but it is natural to feel angry and lost as others easily get what we are working so hard for. I am praying for you!!

[sarah16]

Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you!