[Tinkerbell13]

andi,

it's so hard sometimes specially when you heard this from friends who don't even want a baby.... but have we got the choice?
afriend of mine have an abortion while i was trying so hard to have a baby.... it was hard to conceive but that's the way it was...
You were right to let it go here, i think it's a natural feeling in our situation

good luck, keep the faith

[MSUamber]

Reading this thread is what triggered me to join today. It seems for me as well that every week someone else I know is pregnant. I am happy for them all but the first week or two after hearing the news I'm upset. A close family friend recently found out she was pregnant, her and her DH decided to give it two months - if she wasn't pregnant they were going to stop trying. They got what they wanted right away. I was angry then sad - now I'm happy for her, but still going through the constant roller coaster of emotions everytime someone gets pregnant is hard to deal with.

My family couldn't understand why I reacted that way and told me to "get over it". I'm so glad I'm not alone in the way I feel. What a huge relief.

[Andi]

I think it is hard for anyone to understand if they haven't been through it. I am sorry that your family is being insensitive but I would bet it is lack of understanding. I am so glad that you have found this forum because it is so supportive and loving and you don't feel so alone. Keep your head up. It is amazing when you want a baby so badly and so many people around you are conceiving so easily. Sending . Good Luck!

[allIwant]

I truly understand, I have three brother and I'm the 3rd oldest. My oldest brother was the first to have and child and then my second oldest, and I was wow ok this child then is working its way to the line from oldest to youngest.... and then my baby brother informs everyone that he is expecting a child, the air went out of my balloon very quickly, it just skipped right over me and I was so angry and resentful to no end, I would stay away from family gatherings and still do for the majority of events, it is just too hurtful. But keep your head up and one day both you and I can post our pics of our little bundles of joy. Take care!

[yamensleh]

Girl, everyone on this web site knows what you mean. I can remember days walking through a store and looking at pregnant women and thinking why not me. I just want what is natural to every women. I even would feel uncomfortable if I was with my DH and a pregnant women would come by because I did not want him thinking what was wrong with his wife. We all feel you!!!

[littleblue]

Hey ladies i understand all too well. My sister-in-law is now 2 months pregnant with her second child. When I found out about that it really put me in a jealous-bad mood. She is also my neighbor so i see her a lot and hear all the talk. There is also talk going around that my DH and I don't want to have children. All of our friends and relatives and neighbors seem to have babies already. I try to be cheery when we see them, but !!!

[redoak]

Wow!

It really is helpful to read these forums and realize your feelings are right on track with others with the same problem. This problem makes me feel emotionally unstable and that I'm a complete nut case:-)

We just found another IVF cycle failed and I'm devesated. We're too emotionally and financially drained to try again, so we're done. I'm wondering how I"ll ever get past it. All around me are the pregnant women on their 2nd, 3rd, 4th child.....all easily conceived. It doesn't seem fair.

I'm so bitter and angry at the world right now I don't want anything to do with anyone. We prayed and prayed and hoped and it feels like we got abandoned.

I know my family and friends want the best for us, but I'm amazed by the insensitive and hurtful things people say. My husband says people just don't know and to give them the benefit of a doubt.

Logically, I know we'll get past this. I know we have a lot to be grateful for and there are many people with much worse problems. But...right now...I just don't feel grateful.

Thanks everyone for letting me vent. Best wishes and hopes for all the ladies with this problem.

[hoping4bundleofjoy]

I know how you all feel. We have been trying for a while now and I have done lots of research, changed my lifestyle and am doing whatever I can to get pregnant. It makes me so upset when I hear of people getting pregnant without even trying or by 'accident', when we are trying and nothing. It is not fair that some people have it so easy. Sometimes when my friends are pregnant with 2nd, 3rd, etc.. and are complaining about it or how they are feeling I get so mad. Do they not understand that I would give anything to be pregnant. I am happy for them, but sometimes I just don't want to hear about their pregnancy, it makes me sad. I have found that I have started to distance myself from my pregnant friends or friends with kids because it is hard to be around them. I am trying to be positive, but it is so hard sometimes. Sometimes I feel like a horrible person because I am finding it really hard to be happy for my friends.