[Heatha981]

Hello everyone... This is my first time on a message board for infertility. I really need to talk to someone who knows where I'm coming from. I'm 26 and have been married for 2 1/2 years and ttc for 2 years. This past August we had our first appointment at our fertility clinic which the doctor said our only chance of getting pregnant was to go straight to IVF. We will have our first IVF in about 4 weeks or so. I am VERY nervous about giving myself shots and what to expect through the whole process. My friends and family are very supportive of us but it seems as though we are the only ones dealing with infertility. Since we have been trying 5 of our close friends have had the Ooops pregnancy and 3 others have gotten pregnant on their first try! Then just a few weeks ago my sister called to say she's pregnant and it only took one try! I'm trying to be happy for everyone but its killing me inside! Everyone tells me to be patient and it will happen but its so hard to go to baby shower after baby shower, which I can't just skip because they are my close friends/family. Another thing thats fustrating is that out of everyone I know my husband and I are the only ones with an extra bedroom for a baby! The only ones prepared but yet we are the ones who can't have one yet.
How is everyone else handling these situations?
Anyone else have advise on giving yourself shots?
Thanks for letting me vent!

[Poppycorn95]

It stinks that everyone around us can just get pregnant while we're still waiting on our miracle. I don't have any words of advice, except to say that everyone on this group has experienced the exact same feelings you are dealing with.

Heck, just a month ago I was having major "why not me" jealousy when my cousin announced that he and his wife of ONE MONTH were expecting a baby. *Sigh* I know I should and I AM happy for them, but in the back of my head is this jealousy that they can so easily have a baby like that.

Welcome to the group. I know you'll find lots of support on here! If you click on Infertility Treatments you'll find a link for IVF. There is a wonderful supportive group of women on there just waiting to walk you through your procedure.

[Celeste]

Hi Heather
I know how badly you feel. I've absolutely been in your position. We bought the 4 bedroom house as soon as we got married in 2000. And we started trying for a baby right away. We suffered greatly for more than 4 years watching everyine else get pregnant without even trying before our baby girl came along 18 months ago after 7 IVF's, multiple IUI's and FET's and 1 m/c and 1 chemical pregnancy. And now we have been trying for #2 with no success (1 failed FET and a cancelled FET so far - in the process of another FET) and all my friends, including ones who never wanted kids and got pregnant by accident, are pregnant within the first month of trying, or not trying at all. It tests every ounce of stregth I have to say "Congratulations" with a smile that hopefully doesn't seem too fake.
I had always hoped that having one would erase the pain - and while she absolutely is the light of our lives, it is something that I will always struggle with. It is supposed to be the most natural thing in the world - so how come we had to suffer so much and nearly go bankrupt just to have what everyone else gets easily and for free.I
And don't worry about the shots so much, believe me, they are not nearly as painful and difficult as is the process of waiting for your child. You will get used to them very quickly because what you hope to get out of them is far more important.
Good Luck and stay in touch.

[ShellyO's]

Hi Heather !!
It TOTALLY sucks, I know! It's hard enough dealing with IF but then when everyone around you is pregs it makes it that much worse. The good news is that you and dh are working on this and seeing a specialist to help you out. This is a big step toward your goal and I'm sure you'll find yourself pregnant with the rest of the women around you before you know it!
Don't be nervous about starting ivf. It is overwhelming at first but you'll get the hang of the shots in no time!

You've come to a great place for support! Good luck to you and keep us posted!

[mia23]

Everytime I turn around someone else is pregnant. Sisters-in-law, cousins, friends, aunts, even neighbors. I told my husband that if one more person gets pregnant I am moving away. We too are the one's with the extra room that we call the baby's room even though right now it is just a storage center. And everyone else is getting pregnant effortlessly or on accident. It is so frustrating and I am glad you posted, not that I want you to feel this way too, but because it is nice to know we are not alone.
Dont worry about the shots, they are not that bad at all, most of the time I dont even feel them go in and when I do it is just a tiny prick. You will be fine and you are now on the path to your baby. Stay in touch maybe we could vent when we both go to these baby showers (if were not pregnant by the next ones which I am sure we will be). Good luck !

[Stacey4iu]

I have found this website to be such a blessing. We, like so many others, have the bedroom, have been blessed with the finances and have such a desire to love a child. However, we are also the ones who hear about our friends and family being pregnant, again and again. I have found it extremely difficult to be at showers...and to hear the excitement in everyone's voice (knowing I would love that to be me). I am so pathetically jealous...ugh! It's nice, although I am sad that so many of you struggle like I do, to know that I am not alone. May we all be blessed with precious children soon!!!

[Heatha981]

Thanks everyone for your kind advise. It is so nice to know that I'm not the only one who feels like this. I actually got to see an hour long special on a woman who went through IVF and got pregnant with twins! It was very imformative and helped put me at ease with the procedure.

THANK GOD FOR TV AND THE INTERNET! I'd be very lost without it!

Keep in touch everyone!