[MrsBiff]

yep, my SIL had her second son the other day. my MIL called and asked to speak to jeff and i could tell by the way she said "have jeff call me. nothings wrong, i just want to tell him something" so when i told DH to call his mom, i said "i think your sis had her baby" sure enough.

maybe the only thing worse than being the only couple in jeffs family NOT expecting, is when one set has their baby and its all baby talk... you know, boy or girl, weight, length, etc...

im so happy my SIL is in Japan... i didnt have to see her through her entire pg, and i dont have to see the newborn. makes it easier on me feeling so sorry for myself.

am i a terrible person?

[Jacklyn]

No, you aren't a terrible person. Everyone here can totally relate to how you are feeling. Yes, its good that you SIL is far away and that you dont have to deal with this physically.
Hang in there. You're time will come too.
Take care.

[jenedens6102]

No you aren't a terrible person. We've all been here at one point or another. I didn't want to go to Thanksgiving with Dh's family last year because his brother and his girlfriend were expecting in January and I didn't want to see her big fat pregnant belly after my IVF just failed. I've witnessed too many pregnancies and babies being born during my journey to make anyone NOT go crazy but in the end I'm blessed. Those children are my world and I have such a great relationship with them all. They are the light of my life.

[WishingforaMiracle]

No you're not terrible at all!! I would say that I am terrible!! DH & I just found out that our SIL (DH-DB's wife) is pg. When my husband came home and told me I locked myself in the bathroom (not for long though) and bawled my eyes out. They have KNOWN each other for a total of 7 mo and married for 4 mo and now they have an OOPS!! Plus, they have to go on assistance because they cannot afford to have a child!! It is really hard to be around them and be happy for them. So to answer your question you are not terrible!! At least there is a whole ocean separating you and your SIL, mine lives 10mi from us. Yeah me!!

[Stacey4iu]

I agree, you are not terrible! My SIL is pregnant and watching her belly swell has not been fun for me. We still have a while to go, so I'm not looking forward to the holidays. She found out it was a girl, and while working at a church dinner this weekend, I got to hear a million people congratulate my mom. Well, maybe not a million, but quite a few! My mom's wanted me to have a little girl forever...and now, my brother and SIL are having one. It makes me sad, so I completely understand.

Wishing you the best and a BFP this month!

[marilynn]

I agree with everyone else, that you are not a terrible person for feeling bad about SIL's baby. It took me awhile to even admit to myself that I became jealous of a close relative who became pregnant recently. I kept telling myself, "I do not get jealous or envious of people. I want my own baby and their baby has nothing to do with me." Well, after I finally admitted to myself that I was envious of my cousin who did not even want to get pregnant, I started to feel better, and actually less jealous. I don't know if this makes any sense, but I guess what I am trying to say is that it is good that you are honest with yourself and that you are allowing yourself to feel the things you need to. I would imagine it is a part of healing.

[SweetPea0626]

I think we all have these feelings, wanting to be moms doesn't make us superhuman in that we can just stop natural feelings. I am so happy for my friends who have children but it doesn't stop me from wanting them even more. I kinda know what you mean about family...I am an only child, only grandchild and my husband is the oldest of two boys...we will (hopefully) be having the first grandbaby on both sides...no pressure though

[MrsBiff]

Originally Posted by WishingforaMiracle

DH & I just found out that our SIL (DH-DB's wife) is pg. When my husband came home and told me I locked myself in the bathroom (not for long though) and bawled my eyes out. They have KNOWN each other for a total of 7 mo and married for 4 mo and now they have an OOPS!! Plus, they have to go on assistance because they cannot afford to have a child!!

I can agree with you totally on this assistance thing (sort of, anyway, its not exactly the same) but my BIL and his wife (could i call her my SIL?) found out they were pg a few months ago. they had a baby last april, and right after she got breast implants. she hasnt even finished paying for those and they had an "OOPS" as you call it. what made it really hard is when she found out we were trying, she made an insensitive comment about everytime she wants a baby she gets pg (this is their third) so for awhile we were the only ones not pg (3 kids in dh's fam, his sis had second last week, his bro on third) so im sure you can see why i have been so upset. and why i feel so self-pitying.

[WishingforaMiracle]

I am sending you some hugs!! I hope these types situations will make us stronger. It feels like everyone else in the world is gettting pg! There have been 3 babies born to employees where I work in the last 3 weeks. It is very hard when they come to me and tell me they need to added their baby to their insurance (I handle benefits.). I am happy for them I truely am. But at the same time it feels like I was just slapped. It just plan stinks!! Anyways, hang in there. We are here for you!!

[Unsure]

I totally relate. My husbands has 11 siblings and almost all of them are pregnant at sometime or another. I am also happy they do not live near so I dont have to faced with my inadequacy day in and day out.

to make things worse, One of my co workers is pregnant and due in Dec. this week I found out another one of my coworkers is preganant too. Everyone knows I am going in for fertility treatments. It is very difficult for me to deal. I have to put on a happy face when sometimes i feel like having a meltdown . I am excited for them but it makes me feel so sad and islolated. And like you when i feel this way , i get a guilty feeling to boot.

Hang in there... you are not alone.

[Heatha981]

I can understand where you are coming from. My sister told me a month ago that she is pregnant. She lives in the UK right now. As it was really hard on me exspecially since she only tried once! It is a little easier that she is all the way in the UK so its not a constant reminder. She is very supportive though which helps even more.

Keep your head up and try to be as strong as you can!
I wish you all the best!

[frymomma2b]

I just went to two showers on saturday after getting my that morning letting me know that i wont be having a baby this month. I got there and there were 6 there and i almost couldnt breath. And of course the question was " when are yall having a baby?". Then i would say "soon hopefuly" then they say " Why are you hoping for one girl enjoy not having one". I wanted to scream " You idiots! Its not your life. I want a baby now! and as for all of you getting prego by the guy you just met or by opps you need to realize what you got!", but of course i just left early and cried all the way home then got in bed and let the dh hold me. So no you are not bad and you are deffinantly not alone! . So i am sending hugs and out for all of us. They will be going to our showers soon. HEHEHE! for