[SadWanaBeMom]

my best friend decided to begin trying 3 months ago she found out she was pregnant in december. I put on a happy face for her but really i was devistated. Ive been trying for 8 months. Im so depressed i really could use some support right now or a someone who understands how im feeling. please share your stories with me. Because im feeling so alone right now i need someone to talk to. please email me or message me.

[lovingwife]

I know exactly how you are feeling. Everyone around me gets pregnant the first month trying. I'm going on 2 years and no baby. I had been trying for over a year when my cousin who is 2 years older than me got pregnant after one month. She is due next month and I have been really hoping I would have my bfp before her baby arrives. Doesn't look like that will happen. I just tested this morning and got a bfn. We all experience these feelings at some point and it's hard for anyone who isn't going through IF to understand. My family thinks I am evil for being upset about my cousin. I just can't help it. I'm glad you found this site. It has gotten me through some pretty rough days.

[melarooni17]

Unfortunately it is inevitable. The minute you start trying or have been trying for a few months, the news starts flying everywhere. Everyone is pregnant and you can't get away from it. Two of my best and closest friends both got pg within a few months of each other and they both knew that DH and I were trying. They didn't know about our IF issues, but it was absolutely crushing to hear their news, although you have to be super happy. I was happy, but so sad deep down inside because I wanted it so bad. Just know that whatever is going on with you and DH...it has been only 8 months too - it may take longer...but just know that if there is something, the technology is so awesome these days and dr's are so knowlegable, that know you will have good news soon!! Feel free to vent on this forum anytime - it is really awesome to talk to all these people. They are all great!! Good luck and try to stay as positive as possible!!

[PN01]

Tell me about it,we have been trying for almost 4 years now,last year we sought,infertility treatments,went for IVF the first time,BFN and then 3 IUI's all BFN,and if my follicles grow enough this cycle,may go for an IUI this cycle.

Last month my friend called me,crying that her test came -ve ,but the funny thing is they have been trying for only a month now,i dont know if i should laugh or cry.........

And to tell you guyz i have a lot of family pressure(in-laws pressure),dont know how to deal with them.

Hope we all have BFP's in 2008,touchwood.

[CryingInside]

We all have been there. In the eight years that we have been not not trying we have seen everyone we know become pregnant. Even some of my cousins that I never expected to have babies so soon are now fathers and mothers. It is really devastating to watch everyone else get what you want, but in the end you will be a better parent for your trials. You can lean on us anytime!

[frymomma2b]

I know how you feel, I think we all do. I got pregnant in June (m/c) and my sister had been trying for 3 years (6 m/c) and she was like "whatever your lying" and then was "happy for us". i soon realized after i m/c what she really was feeling when i got the call from a friend a week after the m/c (by the way she is not married Way young and its her second). I quickly called my sis and told her that i was sorry for what i had done (i.e. not thinking of my bfp hurting her). No one understands the actuall extent of pain that the other feels until they experience it. They are just so over joyed that they have nothing else to talk about. Its not their fault and it is their right but it doesnt make it any easier for us. We will always face this and always have to put on a smile and nod then go home, crawl in bed, let dh hold us, and let it all out. Till we get our bfp's either for the first time or 5th and shout it from the roof tops!

[sunshineshimmers]

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. Please try to stay positve and know that your time is coming soon!!
hugs and prayers,

[3Years+]

Can anyone suggest something, anything really, that will keep me sane in the foreseeable future? DH and I started our 1st round of IUI today, learning to do the injections and all. Tonight he tells me that his best friend and wife are pg with baby no.2. I swallow my tears, post them a congrats note on facebook, then log into my email to see a forwarded message from my aunt saying that my cousin who is separated from her DH is pg too. Can't stop the tears this time, and don't know how to begin facing any of these happy parents to be. I wish my bed would swallow me whole. And DH just says I need to stop upsetting myself.

[libragirl72]

I think most of us have experienced this feeling. You are not alone.
In the almost 4 years of trying, my brother has had two kids, my sister one, and my best friend is on her second. Each of them got pregnant immediately upon deciding they were ready. It doesn't get easier, but you learn how to accept it.

Have faith, your turn will come. Good Luck!

[msnoonoo]

We have all been through this. It seemed like when we were not trying, nobody I knew was getting pregnant. Now that we are having IF issues, it seems like everyone around us is popping up pregnant. All my college friends who got married after us have either gotten married or are pregnant at the moment. I never thought that I would be the last one of our circle of friends to get pregnant especially since we were married first. To make matters worse, I work at a high school where I see on a daily basis pregnant teenage girls. So, I completely understand that you are upset, but we just have to remember that someday our time will come. Don't know when it will happen, but I know that it will happen one day. Until then we just need to keep our spirits up.

[aburk]

It does seem like when you're TTC conceive that every other female you know is pregnant. I think we are just ultra sensitive wanting it so badly for ourselves that it hurts. I actually just had the same experience tonight. I logged onto facebook and checked on one of my college guy friends to find out that he and his wife are expecting. I should have known. He told me they were just starting to try in July and now she is due in April or May. Figures. It seems like it comes so easy for everyone else. (I know not EVERYONE, but it feels that way sometimes). I get upset wondering why I was cursed with endometriosis etc. But, somehow I know God has a plan for us and I'm trying to trust that he knows best. Keep trusting and trying! Hoping for lots of for all of us!

[kerben]

Tell me about it. We made arrangements to have brunch with a couple (my DH's friends) and their 2 year old. We hadn't seen them for months and I was looking forward to talking to them and their little girl. Well, at the table, they announced they were pregnant. I swear, I thought I was going to lose it. I congratulated them, but I felt tears swelling up my eyes. At one point, I even held the menu high to cover my face so that I could have a few seconds to recover. Also, my brother and his wife (who are both younger than me) is expecting their first child in April. I will be an aunt!!! At this point, I can't even talk to them without the fear of crying. I am afraid to come see them when the baby is born. Is that silly or what??

This IF thing sucks!!!!

[Hana]

I can totally relate to you.. I just learnt my little sister is expecting her second baby.. It is great to know that we will have another adorable niece/nephew but I still don't manage to call her back to congratulate her.. I am being a bad sister and I really hate myself for that..

[Jacklyn]

Sorry that you are feeling this way, but dont feel alone. We're all in the same boat. It is totally natural to feel devastated and helpless on hearing news about some one else's pregnancy, not matter now close they are to you. Sometimes, the closer they are, the worse the feeling is.

I've been there so many times. I feel awful to hear people who "weren't even really trying" or who never had really thought of babies intimately get pregnant so easily. I have dreamt of babies ever since I was 20. I never thought I wouldn't have any even at 35.

This is a great forum to be at and you'll get all the support and understanding here. You are not alone at all. Sending prayers for your turn to come soon too

[Deb72]

I know exactly how you are feeling! My husband and I have been trying for a year - treatment for past 5 months - and I have friends that started trying in July, in August, in October etc... and they are ALL pregnant. Co-workers, cousins, you name it. It's KILLING ME. In fact I am at work right now with a co-worker whose wife just gave birth to their 2nd baby (on 1st try) and he's whistling outside my office and I want to tear his hair out. So, I know EXACTLY how you feel. You are NOT alone. If you want someone to talk to, you can always contact me! God bless and good luck to you...