[MrsBiff]

yeah.. so, last night my dad told my brother he needed to find him a stable girlfriend with a little one for him to play with.





my dad knows dh and i have been trying. and he still says something like that.

gosh. i just need a hug.

[Deej]

Sorry your dad said that. How odd. He wants his son to date a lady with a child so he has a "little one" to play with? I would suggest getting your dad a puppy for christmas, to satisfy his desire to have a "little one" to play with. I would give you a hug if I could, and we would then have a good laugh over it! Some men just do not say the right thing, ever! He may be hurting for you and not know how to express it. Or it could be the complete oposite, he is an inconsiderate toot! Better to assume he cannot express himself and did not mean to hurt your feelings.
Hang in there, and do not allow your feelings of happiness or sadness be dictated by a silly comment!

[dream2bmommy]

Its going to sound crazy, and I'm not saying it to upset no one i just know deep in my heart i would love to have a dad and hear stupid comments from time to time (none of us perfect anyway). My dad didn't even recognise me when i went to visit him last time. He thought i was my brother's girlfriend for about 15 min. That's how much he has interest in me, my mom and my brother. Maybe your dad didn't mean any harm, he knows about your IF problems but he DOESN'T know how it feels. If i were you i would talk to him.

[stayingpositive]

I'm sorry you are hurting. Sending huge cyber hugs your way. I think your Dad's comment is completely insensitive but I don't think it was said to hurt YOU. Now, I don't know you or or Dad and I'm basing this on a Dad joking with his son and not factoring in anything else. I'm not saying it's right and he should be made known of it so he doesn't say things like this again. If your Dad is there for you and loves you, than this was just a poor error in judgement. We all say and do stupid things at times with out thinking things through. I know this doesn't lessen your hurt but talk to him. My guess, if he is a loving father, is that he will feel badly, apologize, and be more careful in the future.

[jenedens6102]

My dad took in another family! Found friendship with these people online they are a year to two years older the DH and myself and they had a 5 year old at the time. She calls them grandma and grandpa and he buys her all sorts of things, took them to a pro football game instead of us, etc. I was really hurt by it and did finally say that their child WAS not and will not be their grandchild. While I know that this family came from a bad place and that this little girl doesn't have a relationship with her actual grandparents it hurt me that they were so quick to grab on and forget about DH and I who at that point had been in the battle for four years. However, once I put it all on the table for my dad he felt really bad and was sorry, he didn't realize that it would affect me in such a manner. This family has since moved out but they still are on great terms and they still visit each other all the time with gifts and cards and holiday greetings. Still a little uncomfortable for me but at least I let myself be known!

[Sarah_84]

I'm sorry your dad said that. Sending a big hug your way!

[babyplease]

I'm sorry. I know it's even worse when your family is insensitive. Just keep your head up and keep trying. I am sending lots of hugs your way and I have you in my prayers.

[mrsrodgers]

I'm sorry your dad made such an insensitive comment. I do have to say though, if your dad is at all like mine - they are absolutely clueless....my dad makes comments all the time that bothers me but I just have to take it in that he isn't trying to hurt me but just doesn't get it....I haven't said anything because I know he doesn't mean it the way it comes out but there are times I think about saying it (but then I don't want another big discussion about IF) Good Luck!