[Andi]

I just need to get this out because this really sucks! It seems that everywhere I turn there is a pregnant woman or a baby. Last night while my husband and I were out with close friends they tell us that they are pregnant with #2, which was an oops. Their plan was 1 child from the get go. This was a pleasant surprise to them even though it wasn't planned. In fact using BC. My husband looks at me and says what about that? Here we are trying so hard, they are even trying to prevent it... We were still at a public event so I just shrugged it off to prevent myself from being over emotional but he said exactly what I was feeling. Thanks to all of you for listening. I just needed to vent to others who have similar feelings... Sometimes I feel like noone understands!
Andi

[ara79]

oh andi, i can so relate. i know everyone here can relate. it is so hard sometimes, every where we go there are pregnant ladies, babies and families. it is totally normal to get down about this. just know that your time IS coming. and when that time comes, it will be prefect timing! you will be that much of a better mom b/c of the struggle that you've been through. we're all here for you!
amy

[Poppycorn95]

We're right there with you as well. Everyone around us is getting pregnant. But our friends and family take it a step farther than just telling us they are pregnant. They seem to feel it's their place to tell us we're crazy to be trying. That we should be content with the kids we do have. I have one biological daughter from a previous relationship, two and a half adopted children (one is in the process of being adopted), and one foster child. They feel that we're stupid to pay all this money on a chance when we can just adopt children from foster care... But there comes a time when you just want to experience the entire pregnancy, you know?

[schrell]

i understand you i have no kids and my best friend just had her first kid and it is killing me i am so at the fact we been tryuing the same amount of time just feel so help what can i do

[Stacey4iu]

It can be so tough to hear that others are pregnant. It breaks my heart, and I find it so hard to be joyful. I am trying to remember that joy comes from God, and that I can't let others change who I am. I am trusting that the Lord is going to be good to those that are faithful! Wishing you the best...and a baby soon!

[imtrying2]

Andi, I totally understand how you feel. My best friend is pregnant with identical twins, my sister is pregnant with baby #8, and my co-worker just announced that she is expecting baby #3. It sucks to see and hear the pregnancy annoucement. I was watching Oprah last night and had to turn because they were talking about Halle Berry being pregnant. This is a great place to vent and let out all of your emotions.

[Shanna]

Andi-

I hear you on this one. Seems like every time I turn around, someone else is announcing a new baby. I work with very high risk people daily (lots of drug/alcohol use, criminal behavior etc) and at least once a week one of them comes in saying they are expecting. Drives me nuts! Mostly because they don't want another kid and don't really take care of the ones they have! ARGHHH!!! At least everyone here understands exactly where you are coming from. We've all been there! Keep smiling!

[kbarley]

Every time I've popped on here today I've read this thread but didn't post because I'm trying so hard to end my personal pity party. But this time I decided I'd post to see if anyone else ever starts to feel like their on an episode of "Punked" with Ashton Kutcher. Seriously, EVERYDAY someone else is pregnant and I'm always the first person they want to tell! URGH! Enough already!

[ladyb]

I completely understand as well.

One of my close friends (who's youngest child just turned 1 the end of Sept) and I decided we would try to get pregnant together. Since I was just starting to work with my RE, we were shooting for end of summer.

Well, we both got pregnant in August. She is doing great, but my hcg #'s stopped rising and I m/c. (We would have been about a week apart.)

I am so happy for her, but she seems so uncomfortable talking with me. I don't want her to feel any worse so I avoid any discussion of treatments and how things are going with me... which makes me uncomfortable and sad because I really want and need to talk to her.

That is why these forums are so important. We all need the opportunity to communicate with someone who understands.

Wishing good luck to all -- whereever you are in your cycles.

[Ladybuglee]

We all know exactly what you mean. I have four friends that have four kids each, and they're always joking about how fertile they are. Ha ha ha. I also work in a school where I'm surrounded by pregnant teenagers. It's sooo hard for me to look at them and know that their babies are all "mistakes" - I hate that word but that's what they say. It just kills me. Our babies will be so loved when we are blessed with them!

[Shanna]

Originally Posted by ladyb

I am so happy for her, but she seems so uncomfortable talking with me. I don't want her to feel any worse so I avoid any discussion of treatments and how things are going with me... which makes me uncomfortable and sad because I really want and need to talk to her.

I have really struggled with this too. My closest friend is now trying for baby # 3. When she told me they are trying, she said that she had been afraid to tell me because she thought I would be mad. I assured her that I am happy for her, and I truly am. But, I am like you, I don't mention ttc around her now or how things are going because I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I tell her everything else and it is sad that I don't have her to help me with this too. I need her support!

But, that is why we have this site and each other., I guess. Lots of people here who will listen and understand.

[dukie41181]

I can sooooo relate to this post! A few weeks ago I had the week from he!! struggling with this issue exactly! All in the same week my best friend found out she was pregnant (she was on BC and has 3 children) and then she miscarried, another friend found out she was pregnant, and my sister told me she was pregnant. I felt so awful that by the time my sister told me I just emotionally lost it. I felt so bad for having that reaction, but I just felt so emotionally spent that I couldn't control it. I kept thinking "what is so bad about me"...talk about a pitty party! I am so glad to see that I am not the only one that has a hard time with this!

[Celeste]

Hi All

I know how badly you all feel. We suffered greatly for more than 4 years watching everyine else get pregnant without even trying before our baby girl came along 18 months ago after 7 IVF's, multiple IUI's and FET's and 1 m/c and 1 chemical pregnancy. And now we have been trying for #2 with no success (1 failed IVF and a cancelled FET so far - in the process of another FET) and all my friends, including ones who never wanted kids and got pregnant by accident, are pregnant within the first month of trying, or not trying at all. It tests every ounce of stregth I have to say "Congratulations" with a smile that hopefully doesn't seem too fake.
And they all say that you should just be happy with your 1 - and don't get me wrong, she is the light of my life, but why should I be restriceted to one when I always wanted 4 or 5 and they can go on to easily have as many as they choose. It makes me want to scream.
You always hope that the pain will go away after you have a child but I don't think it ever does until you feel your family is complete or maybe it never does.
I hope that we can all find peace someday and I wish you all the best of luck.

[Andi]

So here I am again... My cousin in law, I guess that is what I would call her, is pregnant for the 3rd time.... She was going to begin trying after a little while for #3 but got pregnant earlier than she would have liked and when she was in to confirm pregnancy she is having twins. She is feeling overwhelmed, which is understandable but what I wouldn't do to be her. On top of that her due date is the date that I would have been due had I not miscarried... Some days it is easy to be positive and upbeat and others it is so hard. This is one of those hard days. Thanks for listening and understanding!

[CryingInside]

I can absolutely relate. Everywhere I look are pg women, especially my friends. I don't know what to do or how to feel anymore, really. It is depressing and upsetting.