[Alicia_Baker]

I can't help but feel so depressed and it seems like EVERYONE is pregnant but me! Everyday I feel like I hear about a new celebrity or one of my friends or family members who are expecting a baby! I must admit my husband and I have only been trying 9 months but I just have this feeling something is wrong. I tried to call my OB/GYN this past month to make an appointment (it's been 60 days since my last period) and they are making me wait anothe month before I can call them again! I just feel like we are wasting some valuable time and I am really depressed. I can't talk to any of my family or friends about this so I am feeling very alone! I am really in desperate need of someone that I can talk to!

[Mom2MandyandTristan]

Have you thought about switiching your GYN? I don't think it's good that you haven't had a period in 2 months and making you wait another month is dumb.

[Alicia_Baker]

Yes, I have thought about switching but my husband said that they are the doctors so they know what they are doing and we should wait the month. But then I also thought about contacting a reproductive endoconologist but didn't know if it was too soon to do that. I just feel in my heart something is not right.

[Yolyvette]

Originally Posted by Alicia_Baker

I can't help but feel so depressed and it seems like EVERYONE is pregnant but me! Everyday I feel like I hear about a new celebrity or one of my friends or family members who are expecting a baby! I must admit my husband and I have only been trying 9 months but I just have this feeling something is wrong. I tried to call my OB/GYN this past month to make an appointment (it's been 60 days since my last period) and they are making me wait anothe month before I can call them again! I just feel like we are wasting some valuable time and I am really depressed. I can't talk to any of my family or friends about this so I am feeling very alone! I am really in desperate need of someone that I can talk to!

Hey there, I know the feeling, I've been triying for 4 years, now I'm going to a fertility doctor and we are starting more drastic methods to see if I finaly get pregnant. It bothers me a LOT that it seems that everywhere I go I at least see 3 or 4 teen age girls with their huge baby belly... I mean is like they blink and puff they are pregnant, and must of the time they dont even care about their child.
About your, doctor I wouldn't listen to my husband bc while is true that doctors "know" what they are doing, you are the one who knows your body. And if you feel something is wrong, you should get a doctor that listens to you. And I mean common 2 months and your period hasn't come and he doesnt want to give you an apointment?...He is not a good doctor in my opinion.

[Emilysmom]

YES!! Everyone is pregnant but me at work and on TV!!! It will be me soon. If you are under the age of 35 and have tried for a year it is time to see a fertility MD. if you are over 35 and have tried 6 months it is time to see a fertility doctor. My cycles in my twenties went that long but my OB/GYN would call in Provera to jump start my cycle again. I would definitely be asking some questions or consider seeing a fertility doctor. Good Luck

[Josephine]

Originally Posted by Yolyvette

Hey there, I know the feeling, I've been triying for 4 years, now I'm going to a fertility doctor and we are starting more drastic methods to see if I finaly get pregnant. It bothers me a LOT that it seems that everywhere I go I at least see 3 or 4 teen age girls with their huge baby belly... I mean is like they blink and puff they are pregnant, and must of the time they dont even care about their child.
About your, doctor I wouldn't listen to my husband bc while is true that doctors "know" what they are doing, you are the one who knows your body. And if you feel something is wrong, you should get a doctor that listens to you. And I mean common 2 months and your period hasn't come and he doesnt want to give you an apointment?...He is not a good doctor in my opinion.

I can completely relate. I recruit for a college so I am in contact with high school girls almost daily. I just don't remember so many pg girls when I went to school. Some of the schools I go into it seems like a status symbol.
My very good friend has been seeing this guy for 6 months and just found out she is 3 months pg. I almost died when she told me. soon we will have out chance.

[Yolyvette]

Oh 'm so sad right now... I've just been told about yet another pregnancy in my circle of friends... oh I need so bad to talk to someone who understand what I'm feeling rigt now... mean I cant talk to my friends because I know what they will say... oh God knows what he does... if its mean to be it will so stop trying so hard... oh that makes me so mad... I mean Is it Gods will that people who doesn't what kids have them without even trying and ppl who can really be good parents be childless??? is that what they r telling me??because the what I think when talk to me to "help me feel better"

[mindbind2]

I feel the same way you do. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years now. We went through invitro last summer and of course FOUR of my friends got pregnant when I should have . . .some started to avoid me so that wouldn't have to tell me. It just doesn't seem fair that everyone else is happy. We've been married 14 years and have a great relationship, but I want a baby of my own to love. What really sucks is having to host the baby showers. I just put on my happy face in public and fall apart when I'm alone. It's not an easy road and I don't have anyone to talk to about it. They truly would never understand the pain that we go through watching others get pregnant. I hope that I get through this without losing my friends.

[Yolyvette]

yeah I know!!!!!1 all of my friends that are married have children but mee is so unfair

[mindbind2]

Yeah, I'm tired of everyones advice too. It's God's will . . . is it God's Will to have a crack addict get pregnant, but not a women in a stable healthy relationship?? If that's the case, where can I get some drugs? Some even tell you to "Stop thinking about it so much??" Try being 36 with the clock ticking, seeing pregnant women everyone, and not think about it too much. Why haven't I thought of that before?? Just thinking about not thinking about it makes me think about it . . . crap! I really love hearing people tell me to do the ovulation tests from the drug store . . . oh thanks, I haven't thought of that . . . I guess they are trying to help, but they will never understand where we are coming from.

[Yolyvette]

Yeah I know I like a cruel joke... just to make u feel unhappy I mean the bread of the world is really unevenly shared... and we got the short end of the stick I hate to say it but I'm to the point that far from felling happy for a pregnant friend i just get mad.. today i felt like someone kicked me in the stomach and I realzed that i was a little bt in shock when my DH congratulated them and i followed him just because de did it firts... 'm I wrong to feel that way?

[mindbind2]

I guess we are not wrong in feeling this way. We are just taught to be "happy" for others. It's a very hard road. My husband and I seem to have the WORST luck in the whole world. If it can happen, it has happened to us. I'm not kidding!!! This week alone - we had kayak lessons, where they forgot to bring the kayaks for us - we ordered furniture a month ago - sold our old furniture and then got a call to say they forgot to order our furniture - we have to wait another month. We have been sitting on lawn furniture!!!!!! I went to the doctor to check on a plantar's wart - only to find out that it has spread and I won't be able to workout for another month or so. The doc said he had never seen anything like this . . . yeah, just my luck. I used to be a bodybuilder and an active runner. I gave all that up the last couple to years to focus on a baby. Only recently did I start back to the gym, only to be disappointed with this foot problem. I feel FAT and I have NO excuse to be FAT!!! I went to the gym with my friend who just had her baby 6 wks ago - everyone asked her where she has been and then asked me - I didn't know what to say. I think they assumed I was pregnant too. I did get pregnant last January - only to have an ectopic pregnancy - had to have emergency surgery with 2 blood transfusions. Then I did IVF - unsuccessful - but do I want to tell them that???? My friend spoke for me and said that I was "holding her hand through her pregnancy." Who will be there for ME???? I'm not sure what will happen next, but I KNOW something bad will happen. I am soooo depressed!!! I have suffered from depression for most of my life, but lately it has been unbearable. I got a call from my best friend today to tell me that her second child (6 weeks old) smiled for the first time. She went on to tell me that she just remembered why she wanted a second child - to see his first smile. I'd be happy to see the first poop!! I wouldn't even complain about morning sickness!!! Trust Me!!! Am I being selfish???? Where do I go from here??? I think I am rambling . . . . so much has happened this past year. I wish I could meet some of you in person - to see that someone is like ME. I don't have anything in common with my friends.

[Yolyvette]

Yeah I dont have much n common with my friends anymore... I hate when we r all toguther an someone new come to the group and see al the kid (there are like 6 alltogether and asks me which are mine and I have to say that I dont have any.

[Deb72]

Hey Alicia - You are definitely NOT alone. I have cried (actually, screamed) myself to sleep many times over ANOTHER friend telling me she is pregnant. IT IS SO HARD and there's no denying that - all I can say is do whatever you can do. Call your gyno, suggest/ask that you see an RE - even if you have to LIE about how long you've been trying! Then at least you can get the testing that you need to find out if there's anything wrong. Maybe there isn't though - don't lose hope too fast - many people try naturally for over a year before it works. I think that's completely normal. Also, eat well, don't smoke, lay low on the alcohol and caffeine - just take care of yourself the best you can until you can see the doc.

Anyway - with the friend thing - you are never alone. Just visit this forum! We've ALL been there, and we're there for you too!

[Deb72]

MindBind2 - I had to respond to your post. I have BEEN THERE. Everyone says "just relax" or "why don't you look into adoption" or yes, my favorite, "have you tried using an ovulation kit?" Um...what a great idea.

And yes, Britney Spears' 17 year old sister is pregnant, now Ashley Simpson is probably pregnant... Oh, and every single other celebrity, and your neighbor and your cousin and your best friend and your co-worker. UGH.

FYI, I'm close to your age - 35 - and I am RIGHT THERE WITH YOU. I get stressed out about thinking about thinking about infertility.

Good times.

Anyway, my thoughts and prayers are with you - and you're not alone...