[Jenny06]

Ok so my husband and I have been trying to conceive for more than 2 years. I have PCOS, he's fine. My best friend got and of course while being depressed and feeling like life was being completely unfair (she wasnt even trying, and in fact had just moved in with her boyfriend a few weeks before getting .)I was still happy for her. Well today she calls me, the baby is almost 9months and she's 18 weeks !! She tells me "since you're still not pregnant, why dont you be godmommy to #2!" I couldnt even speak, I was shocked. How hurtful words can be sometimes. I just hung up. I couldnt say anything that wasnt hurtful, I felt somewhat betrayed by life. How long is it gonna take to get over this!

[wannabigbabybelly]

I'm so sorry. That was so rude of her.

You did the right thing!! I would have hung up on her as well. But, I would also write her a letter stating how much her comment hurt me.

Something similiar happened to me several years ago.

In the midst of trying to concieve "for years" I met a woman who just moved to our base. She was pregnant and I became one of her only friends out here at the time.She knew of our struggles with conceiving and our desire to try and adopt.(but we weren't really close...I helped her out a lot but I soon noticed that her and her husband were well...."wierd" to put it lightely. The more I hung around her the more annoyed i was with everything about her, her husband and even her new baby).

Well a couple months after the baby was born she just comes out and tells me..."we just made up our Will and listed you as the beneficiary to have our baby if something where to happen to us" I was floored. I guess I should have taken it as a compliment. But at the time I didn't. I was angry. What kind of person would list someone else for that kind of a "position" without even speaking to the person about it first and asking them if they "want" to be that person in the childs life.

It's like just because I was wanting to adopt/TTC she automatically thought, I'd want her baby or that I'd be so excited for her kindness. I basically told her that I thought a family member would be a better person to fill that role and we didn't talk much after that...I kinda avoided her like the plague.

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