[Yolyvette]

yeah coming to this forum has helped me a lot, since there is noone around here to talk about my problems I find that this site calms my fears a little when I read about other ppl who went thru the same stuff I'm going thru and things turned out great for them. Can help but feel frustrated, anxios and nevous some time but coming here helps a great deal.

[Deb72]

Yolyvette -

The forum helps me too! Definitely love the "company" - it helps to have proof that you're not alone, doesn't it?

I also cannot help but feel frustrated, anxious beyond belief, angry at everyone around me who is pregnant and BEYOND SAD during this time in my life. But yes, there are things that help - this forum, good friends, family, television (seriously - funny tv helps), massage, acupuncture...

Anyway - welcome to the forum - glad to have you here...

[Yolyvette]

Originally Posted by Deb72

Yolyvette -

The forum helps me too! Definitely love the "company" - it helps to have proof that you're not alone, doesn't it?

I also cannot help but feel frustrated, anxious beyond belief, angry at everyone around me who is pregnant and BEYOND SAD during this time in my life. But yes, there are things that help - this forum, good friends, family, television (seriously - funny tv helps), massage, acupuncture...

Anyway - welcome to the forum - glad to have you here...

You are so right about funny TV is the only thing I can watch. For some reason I get so nervous and anxious watching dramas or acction or any other kind of movie that I just can't watch then anymore, I guess is bc I'm so stressed out that even watching that king of stuff makes me more tense. And now I just check in here almost everyday, it help me a lot, even more now that a friend of mine told me not too long ago that she was going to try and get pregnant and last week she told me she is due on december, I mean how mad I am that in 4 years nothing happened ith my tries, and she just says she will try and zaz is done.

[jessicap518]

My DH and I have are about to start IVF (tomorrow actually) and my SIL is prego and it has been killing me...not to mention a dozen of our friends....I try and remember it is not a personal attack on us....and while it stinks to have to go through what we all are going through...it makes us stronger and that alone makes me feel better....soon enough...in our own time...we will all have our babies...I focus on that!!!

Wishing you all

[showme]

NO YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT FEELS THAT WAY, I TOO FEEL THE SAME WAY, ONLY THING IS THAT I HAVE DID 2 CYCLES OF CLOMID AND A HSG AND EVERYMONTH I WAIT TTC 2YRS.

[jessicap518]

Originally Posted by showme

NO YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT FEELS THAT WAY, I TOO FEEL THE SAME WAY, ONLY THING IS THAT I HAVE DID 2 CYCLES OF CLOMID AND A HSG AND EVERYMONTH I WAIT TTC 2YRS.

I feel your pain....I did 3 cycles of Clomid at the end of last year and I know exactly what you are going through...the wait is the worst part...isn't it??? Best of luck that soon you will have your !!!

[Matika]

Originally Posted by Alicia_Baker

I can't help but feel so depressed and it seems like EVERYONE is pregnant but me! Everyday I feel like I hear about a new celebrity or one of my friends or family members who are expecting a baby! I must admit my husband and I have only been trying 9 months but I just have this feeling something is wrong. I tried to call my OB/GYN this past month to make an appointment (it's been 60 days since my last period) and they are making me wait anothe month before I can call them again! I just feel like we are wasting some valuable time and I am really depressed. I can't talk to any of my family or friends about this so I am feeling very alone! I am really in desperate need of someone that I can talk to!

I was so glad to read your message. I know that sounds bad, I feel the same way sometimes, and it helps to know that someone else is feeling the same way that I am. I want to slap myself for being so selfish...but I just can't help it. I have cousins, who's life is all screwed up, and they hold hands and become pregnant. Everyone at work is pregnant. My friend was scared she was pregnant and was already contemplating an abortion. It's unreal. It makes me angry, and it makes me depressed. I try to stay positive, and I know God has a plan for me, and I must trust in that. And most days...I do. However, there are just those times, where it all gets to be a little too much. I don't know what to tell you, but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone.

[kristyr41982]

I know how you are feeling. I went straight to a RE and decided not to waste any time. I was so depressed after almost 2 years with no success. I had 14 people get pregnant during my battle the first go around and since I have started my 2nd time there has been like 5. I try to always stay as optimistic as possible and focus on me and not everyone else. You will get your little miracle. Mine was worth all 2 1/2 years of trying.

[qweska8402]

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one. I feel SO awful when people tell me that they're pregnant and I want to slap them. I just found out another one of my good friends is pregnant and all I did was cry. When will it be me? I haven't been trying as long as most people (only 1 1/2 years), but it's just not fair. One of my work friends has been trying to have a baby for 8 years and she's the only person I have that feels the same way that I do. But then if I ever do get pregnant, what do I tell her? I know she'll be devastated!

[beans1078]

We have been trying for a couple of years to have a baby and no luck. I went to see my OB and she did an ultrasound and found a cyst the size of an orange and then sent my to a reproductive endocronologist. I went yesterday and now I have to have surgery. He did another ultrasound and it didn't shrink after 2 weeks. It is so frustrating going to friends houses for bbq's and they ALL have kids and babies except for us. One of my friends had a baby 2 years ago and when she found out she was in such a deep depression she was put on prozac because she didn't want kids. She didn't tell anyone until she was 7 months. Then when the baby was born she didn't didn't want to hold him. She has called me recently to tell me she is pregnant AGAIN!!! She has said that she is can't believe this. She won't even say pregnant. She knows how bad I want kids and how I have put my body through a lot to try to have them and she has said such hurtful things. She has said, "I don't know how you want this. This is like a curse. Not a blessing. I don't know how people get happy about being pregnant." That is something I just can't hear.

Thanks for letting me vent........

[myGoliath]

Originally Posted by mindbind2

I feel the same way you do. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years now. We went through invitro last summer and of course FOUR of my friends got pregnant when I should have . . .some started to avoid me so that wouldn't have to tell me. It just doesn't seem fair that everyone else is happy. We've been married 14 years and have a great relationship, but I want a baby of my own to love. What really sucks is having to host the baby showers. I just put on my happy face in public and fall apart when I'm alone. It's not an easy road and I don't have anyone to talk to about it. They truly would never understand the pain that we go through watching others get pregnant. I hope that I get through this without losing my friends.

I feel exactly the same way! We have also been TTC for 3+ years. We have been seeing our RE for 13 months and in that time I have had about 12 friends who have had babies. I feel like they pity me. I tried to participate in the baby showers and then just got to where I stopped going so I didnt have to answer questions about why I dont have kids yet. We have been married for 6 years and most people expect you to have kids by then. They never consider how hurtful their probing questions can be. I have to fight feeling angry at teenaged mothers, neglectful mothers, all mothers who dont cherish their children, and God! My sister is going to have her second child any day now and of course she was pregnant within a month of deciding to expand her family! It is so unfair!

[Dee2008]

I have not only been surrounded by pregnant women but I dreamed of these pregnancy before they conceived. I have raised my step daughters and now they are having their babies before me. How about that. I do want my own child and I know that God will bless me with a child or children and I also have meet with women who were my age when they found themselve pregnant after years of marriage and trying.I also want to adopt a couple of children from Africa. I always since alittle girl wanted to adopt a child an bring them to USA for a better life. So to all of u. Life is beautiful I have learned so much that i was still able to install good mother and pregnancy. Watching and reading and praying. So learn as much as you can. I have seen women who wanted to get pregnant and did not expect that it could be difficult and demanding. They would look like they were dying.
me 38(pcos-anovulatory)
dh 44
married 14years
IUI#1
IUI#2
IUI#3 hopefully this month
I have decided to enjoy life until another life is born then we all will enjoy life. I have two grandchildren who are 8months and 3 almost one month old.

[Pennycuff]

You ladies are so great...it is so nice to know we are not alone.

In the past year, I have had:

2 employees get pregnant
One friend have twins (unplanned pregnancy)
One friend have a baby (unplanned pregnancy)
3 employees daughters get pregnant
One couple friends of ours got pregnant while on b/c and was on antibiotics (didn't want kids)
...and just last month, my DH's neice announces she is pregnant-- no job, no place to live, no job/bum boyfriend.

Oh...and I only have 8 employees....so the odds are unbelievable that all of these people are announcing pregnancies and DH and I are STILL ttc for almost a year.

Some days, I want to just sit down and cry over all of this.

Thanks for all your support gals...and best of luck to ALL of you ttc.

[Highopes]

Hello everyone - I just wanted to say that reading all of the posts I agree with what everyone has said & I can completely relate. It's also comforting to know that I am not alone here! My dh & I have been ttc for 2 years now (& my clock is ticking according to remarks from family.....don't you love them!) but we haven't told anyone that we are ttc because I was worried if I didn't get pregnant straight away I would get asked all the stupid questions (as people have already posted on here) & they would pity me and I didn't want that.

As I have no one other than my dh to talk to about this there are times when I feel lonely & cry but I'm so thankful for finding this site as I've felt that it's helped me get through some hard times. As someone else put it I wish some of us could meet & just be a strength for each other in person as well. to everyone ttc

Sherry

[molls57]

My dh and I became good friends with a couple almost 2 years ago. Come to find out they were married a week before us and we actually announced to each other the same night we were ttc. We would talk about how we seemed to be in the same place in life and how great it would be for us to be pregnant at the same time. Come to find out we both were facing infertility. It took her several rescheduled appointments to get into a RE. I was fortunate enough to get in the same month I was referred. At my first appt. the RE could not find anything wrong and we did our 1st IUI a couple days later. Our friends were less fortunate and it looked like it might be a long road of treatments for them. Some how this story reversed. They are now expecting their 1st baby at the beginning of the year and my dh and I are waiting for the time for our 4th IUI. My dh told me their good news the same day of a negative test. Since then we have gone out with this couple a few times and I wish we didn't. It seems like all we talk about is their good news. I feel that they are not sensitive to my feelings especially when they were in the same place just a few months ago and know how it feels. My dh does not understand why I do not want to hang out with them anymore. I hate feeling this way but I cannot help it I am upset that I lost the one person I could talk w/that understood exactly what I was going through. That sounds so selfish.

me - 24, endometriosis
dh -25, great
ttc -18 months
2/08 - hsg. everything clear
4/08 - 1st appt w/RE after only waiting a couple wks
nothing found wrong
4/08 - 1st IUI w/no meds
5/08 , began repronex, 2nd IUI, 2nd
6/08 cyst found on ovary, began bc pills, began
repronex again after bc pills
7/08 3rd IUI on the 4th of July! resulted
8/08 1st laparoscopy. cyst removed worse than
thought. more endo found. damage to a tube.
Waiting for AF to begin repronex again & 4th IUI