[clikm]

My husband and I are having a hard time dealing with our struggle to have children. We just found out that his best friend and his wife are now pregnant. That makes 5 people close to us that are now expecting. My two sisters are included in that count. He continues to blame himself for not being able to give me the one thing that I want. I'm having a hard time making him understand that as long as we are together, we will be ok. So everytime this comes up, we argue and it makes the situation worse. I hate bringing it up, as it causes tremendous strain on our relationship.

Any advise from those guys out there that are in similar situations are needed.

[bunniswife]

I went through that situation too when my husband's sister got pregnant right after our second miscarriage. I was so sad and depressed because of what we were going through, I couldn't share in her joy, in fact it almost felt like a slap in the face. In time I came to realize that I wasn't unhappy for her, I was unhappy for us and I was able to make peace with the fact that this was OUR problem and not hers. Who knows what difficulties in life your sisters or friends will face, their's obviously isn't fertility. It does seem unfair but try to keep it in perspective, either you will eventually have your baby or you won't and the fact that everyone around you seems to be conceiving has no bearing. Warm Hugs

[clikm]

Thank you. I appreciate your words. The sad thing is my husband believes that it is his problem, not ours. I'm struggling on how to make him understand that it's our situation to overcome, not his. And everytime someone new has the good news, we try to avoid our feelings because we end up fighting. It's really not healthy, but I don't know how to handle it. Don't get me wrong, I am truly happy for everyone who receives this special gift, especially my sisters.