[wannabigbabybelly]

Mothers day has got to be my worst day of the year.

Well, the worst is usually a couple weeks leading up to it when I know it's coming and as it gets closer and closer I just fall apart.

Today was certianly my FALL APART day. I've been crying all day (well ever since my appointment earlier where I again heard some bad news). But I've felt it coming for a while now.

It's not just infertility it's so much more than that. It's just the one time of year when all the pain comes together and I'm forced to deal with it and re-live it.

From the death of my mom when I was 16, to my infertility, fostering/adopting journey, birthmother feeling/issues etc... it all just comes together and hits me.

Anyone else HATE Mothers Day?

[pearlsofia]

i've always been good about dealing with Mother's day. Although still sad i wasnt a mother yet, but i certainly was able to spend time with my mom and appreciate everything she's done for me.

however, this year is different. It was going to be different too, because i would be a mom by this time, but i am not. while i love my mom dearly but this year i'm boycotting all mother's day events. i'm just not in the mood for it this year.

i'm really sorry you're feeling down and i just pray that God comfort you in these ugly days.

[jenedens6102]

I am not a huge fan of it. Each year just makes me feel worse and worse, like am I ever going to be able to celebrate this day with the rest of the mother's in the world? I had a major breakdown last year on mother's day so this year I've warned everyone in advance that other then going to church I'm boycotting the day. I'm just going to rest at home like it's any other day. DH can go and spend the day with his mom if he wants. I've already given my mom her gift and we are going out to eat on Friday. Beyond that I'm lounging this weekend and trying to put away the thoughts that normally get me so down and out!

[Lori123]

Big ((HUGS)) ladies.
Lori

[FurBaby]

I am also bothered by it. Actually this year seems to be worse for me. I keep making negative comments about never being able to celebrate it. Making matters worse is that I've moved into a new subdivision, and it seems that everyone and their uncle is either expecting or just had a baby. This includes my SIL that lives right next door. She's due in October. (She was suppose to be my ED)

Any way's, I'll make it through, some how.

[Roxane]

Originally Posted by wannabigbabybelly

Mothers day has got to be my worst day of the year.

Well, the worst is usually a couple weeks leading up to it when I know it's coming and as it gets closer and closer I just fall apart.

Today was certianly my FALL APART day. I've been crying all day (well ever since my appointment earlier where I again heard some bad news). But I've felt it coming for a while now.

It's not just infertility it's so much more than that. It's just the one time of year when all the pain comes together and I'm forced to deal with it and re-live it.

From the death of my mom when I was 16, to my infertility, fostering/adopting journey, birthmother feeling/issues etc... it all just comes together and hits me.

Anyone else HATE Mothers Day?

I REFUSE to go to church on Mother's Day! Unless it is with my Mom in her ward.

[wannabigbabybelly]

Originally Posted by Roxane

I REFUSE to go to church on Mother's Day! Unless it is with my Mom in her ward.

It sounds like you are LDS too?

[Momitchi]

I've ended up boycotting most holidays for the last two years. It never fails that when I inform people of my non-participation, they come up with a hundred reasons why that holiday is just wonderful and should make me happy! Thank goodness mother's day is easier than things like Christmas. I can get away with sending my mom a card and making a phone call.

[kblythe]

I'm not a fan of mother's day either. My mom passed away 8 years ago, and every time mother's day approaches and I see all of the television ads touting mother's day, and it makes my heart ache. To add insult to injury, I also had the several YEARS of trying, unsuccessfully, to conceive.

Well, I've finally managed to conceive, but I don't think this will make me any fonder of mother's day.

Why don't you make it a "you" day, and schedule a massage and a cocktail hour with friends? Take back the day! After all, it was pretty much invented by Hallmark as a racket for selling cards.

Kathryn.

[ctolle1073]

Yes I also hate mother's day have been trying to conceive for several years had 2 failed IUI but am trying the invitro in June but I always wonder when is it my turn to be a mother.

[BabySteps]

I am glad I am not alone. I lost my Mom 4 years ago and it has never been the same. Since then I have met my DH and he is big on celebrating it with his Mom and gives me flowers and a card from my cats but it is not a great day for me. I 'suck it up' for DH so that he can at least enjoy it, but I think the day sucks. I am sure he will be extra happy this year because I am pregnant but no amount of our own happiness can take away the pain I feel about the loss of my Mother, my best friend.

[abbygail98]

I lost my Mom 4 yrs ago too. She was my best firend and biggest supporter. The TTC journey has been so much harder without her. But now with the Mother's Day commericals on and evey webpage I visit asking "what are you doing for Mother's day" - I just want to hide in a hole. In fact that is what I have done for the last 3. DH goes to visit his Mom and I stay on the couch covered in pillows and watch DVDs with a box of tissue. This year I am planning a simular event.

[J-LYN]

I'm with you on hating Mother's Day.

My heart truly hurts for those of you that have lost your own Mother. I dread the day that happens to me, too. I speak with my Mom every day and She is one of my very best friends. My Mom lost her Mom a year ago, and it hurts me so much to see her in pain on Mothers Day without her own Mom.

My friends and my wonderful neice go out of their way to try to comfort me with cards from my kitty's and Dogs, and as much as is makes me happy, there is no kiding the fact that my heart is broken because I'm not a Mom yet.

I have a ritual that I do on my own Birthday, I call my Mom and Dad at the time of my birth, and tell them "thanks for making me!!" Hope they both know how much they mean to me.

(((((Group Hug))))

Janet

[mrsbyrd03]

Yep! I'm with you guys! My mom died February 4, 2000 and while I love my stepmom, I'm not particularly close to her. I've got 3 fantastic stepdaughters, but I've never expected them to think of me as a "mom" because I'm not too terribly much older than they are. *L* (There is an 18 year difference between me and my husband.) They are wonderful to me, but I realize that I'm not their mom either. Thankfully I'm blessed with a wonderful mother-in-law that I can enjoy spending time with, but it's just not the same.

[Deb72]

To all you women who have lost your own mothers, I am so sorry and I send you my prayers on this upcoming Mother's Day. I can't imagine how hard that must be, in addition to going through infertility as well! I also dread Mother's Day. I never reallyt thought about it before this one, but I have been saying to my husband that I am feeling very sad about it this year. I've been trying to be a mother for 2 years, and I just never know if I ever will be. The not knowing is so hard, and seeing all my friends with their babies makes it even harder. My next door neighbor (attached condo) has a 1 month old and she is having a huge Mother's Day BBQ!!! I don't think I can stand it!