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Old 05-02-2009, 11:37 AM
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You'll feel tired and crampy for a few days. The progresterone should make you sleepy and bloated too, it did me at least. Are you taking it yet? Sorry you've got a cold, that sucks! I have allergies so I know your pain. Since Saturday it was 85-95 degrees and today it's 58 out and chance of rain. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

I went into town today and bought 4 dollar tree tests, just did one when I got home and still on 12DPIUI. I would have gotten more but didn't have much cash on me. I don't think I'll have bloodwork done if I'm still testing negitive on Saturday. I really think AF is coming. I've been feeling that way for the past 8 or 10 days. Today I'm more crampy and if I'm going to get AF, she's due anytime-I'm thinking Friday, Saturday or Sunday. I just wish if she were coming, she'd come already so I can plan on having hubby with me on Sunday for CD3 bloodwork/ultrasound. The cramping and bloating is so uncomfortable and I'm a stomach sleeper and can't even sleep comfy on my stomach. All in all though, I really like the dollar tree tests and don't feel as guilty POAS as often. That one single pink like came up very fast and not even a hint of faint positive line, all white and very cold!!!

I hope you feel better soon! Get some rest
Awwwh lisa_kev! I am so sorry you are getting on POAS. Do you know how much HCG it detects? If you do I am surprised you are still having cramping and all. That is sometimes a sign of pregnancy. Or . When I did IVF I started the POAS on day 10 I think and did them until I went in for bloodwork, all BFNs. It is devistating! While I was in the room getting my bloodwork done on day 14, another lady was in there and was so excited, she had a bag full of like 10 tests (wow right) and they all had some sort of positive on them. Even the faintest line I have read means +. I asked her if she did IVF and she did IUI. I was sooo sad for myself after that. Now I look back and it makes me kinda hopeful. Also you could be a late bloomer with your HCG levels, implantation sometimes takes like 10- 15 days. I read HCG has something to do with measuring the levels of the placenta.

I know I already told you this story, but my Mom had me babysit so that she could go to the doctor because she thought she had a tumor or some sort of growth, or was starting metopause. She was still having periods, a little irregular and had taken 3 pregnancy tests before she desided to go to the doctor. She comes home and I could tell by the look on her face...she was pregnant. Not only was she pregnant but she was like 3-4 months along!!! Crazy right. Her HCG levels were just not registering on a POAS! Now I have a 4 year old little sister!

I am so bad for you, I feel like we have known eachother for ever and everything that happens to you totally affects me I am actually SO upset about Xytex and the count you ended up with after EVERYTHING you went through to do this!

As far as me, I felt SO sick after the insemination, like I was going to throw up and was so crampy before and after the insemination. I am taking the prostoserone gel once daily. It is called Crinone. I forgot to grab panty liners and my husband and son went up to the drugstore to get them. My son told the lady at the counter that they were buying dipers for his Mom, lol! He is at that age were everything I say or do he tells everyone! Embaressing! I know it's only day 3 of my 2 week wait, but I have no symptoms at all. I am crampy in my lower abs but that is normal, being that your ovaries are shrinking back to normal. Hhhhhh....

I would still go take your bloodtest just to be sure, but that is a personal decision you and your hubby need to make. I am so nervous for you right now and !!!! If you need to talk I am always here!
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Old 05-02-2009, 03:23 PM
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Hi and thank you for posting today. As silly as it may seem I feel as if I've known you all along and enjoy our chats. I'd be happy to offer you my email if you'd like so we can stay in touch. If nothing else, at least I have this board to come to for more support. Like you, I enjoy reading what you have to say

Today was still a . I cooked breakfast this morning then DH and I decided to go walk around the mall, something we enjoy-even if it's a coffee. I thought it would be good to take my mind off it all-it didn't help. I'm very sad. I've not cried today, surprisingly. Right now I'm having AF cramps, have been most of the day. As far as my tests, I'm not even getting an evap line. Just a single red line. I've used three different types, all-negative.

DH knows I'm having an off-day and he said to me, don't worry hon, we'll get 'em next time. We're still planning on doing 2 IUI's day after day so I'm just waiting for AF to arrive so we can concentrate on a new cycle. I cannot wait until Monday because I'm calling Xytex first thing, never heard from them on Friday. We're still using the same donor, if that donor is available.

No, I didn't know your mom got pregnant not long ago! Wow! And the story about your son saying mommy’s diapers, that's too cute. Kids say the darndest things. It's sweet that your DH went to get the panty liners for you, not every man would offer to do such a thing. Like you though, I have a loving DH and has done that type of thing for me.

You'll probably have the cramping for a few more days. Mine was mild for the 1st week then gradually got worse on my right. But, everyone is different. I'm sure I'll be sore when this next cycle begins because of doing the back to back IUI's. I will take the pain; just give me a healthy baby!

Keep in touch. Enjoy the rest of your weekend, I'll be thinking of you
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Old 05-04-2009, 08:59 AM
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Just thought I'd pop in for a minute to let you know my Xytex answer. They are crediting my account!!! My next sample is free and I get free shipping Since DH and I are doing 2 IUI's back to back we won't have to pay for shipping on the other sample. She also said she would pull two of the best counts for me. Hmmmmmmmm, you'd think they'd do that each time since they know what they're sending out. Anyway, we're still using the same donor.

showed up early this morning. I'm actually OK though, ready for this treatment cycle to begin. I'm going in on Wednesday for my day 3. I ordered my meds and the only thing I'm waiting on now is to hear from my RE about where the samples should be shipped.

How about you? Any updates on your progress? I'm praying for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2 IUI's April & May '09 both

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ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
Two blasts made it to freeze, hold on frosties
9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

FET sometime in Jan/Feb 2010
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Just thought I'd pop in for a minute to let you know my Xytex answer. They are crediting my account!!! My next sample is free and I get free shipping Since DH and I are doing 2 IUI's back to back we won't have to pay for shipping on the other sample. She also said she would pull two of the best counts for me. Hmmmmmmmm, you'd think they'd do that each time since they know what they're sending out. Anyway, we're still using the same donor.

showed up early this morning. I'm actually OK though, ready for this treatment cycle to begin. I'm going in on Wednesday for my day 3. I ordered my meds and the only thing I'm waiting on now is to hear from my RE about where the samples should be shipped.

How about you? Any updates on your progress? I'm praying for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lisa,
I am soooo sorry!!! I can't believe it! I know the odds weren't the greatest being the sperm count, but I really felt in my heart it was gonna happen for you this cycle! I am so glad you are keeping a positive attitude! Your doc will let you do back to back IUI? Mine said I would have to wait a month so my ovaries could shrink down to normal. If it doesn't work, I don't want to wait!!!! Atleast you get to start right back up, in a month you could be !! That is hopeful! I think it is a great idea to do back to back insemination, I was not offered that but would feel much better if he had done that. I am glad Xytex was so willing to work with you! Double wammy on the shipping

I am not up to much...just waiting! The first few days went by fast, now it's just dragging. I am obsessing suddenly. Something in me tells me it didn't work and something tells me it did. I have no idea! I did have the tiny, tiniest spot (spotting) yesterday (day 5) but who knows. It could be absolutly nothing. You know you obsess and look for signs weather they are there or you just want them to be there! Do you have a facebook? I want to add you if you are! Try to take a deep breath and take care of you! Who knows next month you could be !!!!! {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}
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IVF #1: Nov. 2008
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1st IUI w/ donor sperm

Meds: Bravel, Medopur, ganarelix, and ovidril

4-28: IUI #1 today!!
-2 eggs dropped.
-donor sperm 109 million, 50% mortility, and 8% morphology.

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Old 05-05-2009, 08:12 AM
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Another update on me. Talked with my nurse this morning and she's going to talk with the doctor about putting me on a higher dosage of clomid and doing FSH injectables on CD 11. I'd also be doing the Ovidrel trigger. She's not sure if he will approve what she's asking, but thought she'd throw it out there. They're being careful about the clomid because I was told that sometimes it can thin the uterine lining. I had no idea.

I don't have a facebook. Have thought of it though. I had a myspace awhile back but never thought much of either of them.

Sounds promising about the spotting! I never had any of that, hope that's a sticky for you!!!!!

DH and I talked last night and if this cycle doesn't work we are going to take a few months off to re-group and decide what to do next. We will tell my father and go from there. Telling my father will be very hard because all he's ever wanted is a grandchild (I'm the only child). He's constantly on us about having a baby. We're considering IVF, but only just talking about it for now. Shady Grove Fertility Center has the shared risk program. Patients pay $20k and they guarantee a delivery. If you're not pregnant in 6 cycles, they refund your money. Of course, the $20k does not include meds; which are upwards of thousands of dollars more.

I'm off to run some errands. Have a great day!
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2 IUI's April & May '09 both

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ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
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9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

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Another update on me. Talked with my nurse this morning and she's going to talk with the doctor about putting me on a higher dosage of clomid and doing FSH injectables on CD 11. I'd also be doing the Ovidrel trigger. She's not sure if he will approve what she's asking, but thought she'd throw it out there. They're being careful about the clomid because I was told that sometimes it can thin the uterine lining. I had no idea.

I don't have a facebook. Have thought of it though. I had a myspace awhile back but never thought much of either of them.

Sounds promising about the spotting! I never had any of that, hope that's a sticky for you!!!!!

DH and I talked last night and if this cycle doesn't work we are going to take a few months off to re-group and decide what to do next. We will tell my father and go from there. Telling my father will be very hard because all he's ever wanted is a grandchild (I'm the only child). He's constantly on us about having a baby. We're considering IVF, but only just talking about it for now. Shady Grove Fertility Center has the shared risk program. Patients pay $20k and they guarantee a delivery. If you're not pregnant in 6 cycles, they refund your money. Of course, the $20k does not include meds; which are upwards of thousands of dollars more.

I'm off to run some errands. Have a great day!
Lisa,
Did you not do a trigger this round? I thought you did. Now do you have fertility issues at all of just DH? I was only wondering why you would be considering IVF. Does your insurance cover any of it? I would say go for it! Only because I have done both and really there isn't much of a difference in the course of treatment except for those dreaded 2 inch needle shots in the rear, ouch. Actually it doesn't hurt that bad it's just the antisipation and the thought that is the worst! The success rates per cycle are much higher with IVF also. If I had the money to do it again I would. We are also offered the shared risk program. It is a great thing to do, if you can afford it because it takes some of the pressure off you if it doesn't work the first time. I am sorry you have to tell your dad, do you think he will help you guys out? My father-in-law said he would when we did IVF, I started the injectables and everything, and then he changed his mind, WTF!!! He said he thought it wasn't a good time for us to do it! Mind you he is extremely wealthy. I looked at it as you gave birth to your son and he has a problem and will be robbed of having children and you don't want to help him! Needless to say I hold a little anomousity! How are you doing and holding up? Atleast you get to start up again this month that is promising !

As far as my progress today is day 9 or 10 piui (do you count the day you had it?) and have POAS and I don't know what to think. It could still be early, but it's not looking good. Not even the faintest line. I really thought this was it for me! This was the month, but that lovely little test is contradicting me!
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IVF #1: Nov. 2008
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1st IUI w/ donor sperm

Meds: Bravel, Medopur, ganarelix, and ovidril

4-28: IUI #1 today!!
-2 eggs dropped.
-donor sperm 109 million, 50% mortility, and 8% morphology.

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Old 05-08-2009, 06:48 AM
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Good morning. I think you count the day after you have the IUI, so if you POAS on 9DPIUI, it's still REALLY early. At least you know the trigger is out of your system though. I'm sorry and I'm praying that you get your this cycle too!

Regarding telling my dad-it's tough on that one. I'm an only child, but have 2 step siblings (whom we don't get along). All I've heard since being married is "when am I going to be a grandfather?" Especially now since last summer we moved in right next door and it's his dream to have grand kids running around. We're not really telling him for the money factor. Although my father is well off too and would have no problem just writing a check, but I do not want it to come to that. I'd have that thought forever in my mind. My husband and I are blessed to have money put aside from the sale of our home last year, but that was going to be our life savings. We have some money, but we're not rich by any means and I'm a stay at home housewife. I felt if I were working, we'd be able to save more $$$ but what employer would put up with the woman who's missing 4-7 days a month? It wouldn't be any of their business. The way the economy is these days businesses don't put up with that sort of thing. Back to telling my dad: It'll be tough but it'll be a relief also because then maybe he will stop bringing it up so often and us having to lie about where we've been. Mind you, we travel anywhere between 2 to 3 hrs one-way for monitoring/treatments and with him next door, he doesn't miss much, LOL. Kind of a price we have to pay for having all this land and the only neighbor is my father, LOL.

As far as IVF-we're still on the fence about it. DH and I agreed that if this IUI doesn't work we would take a breather and figure out what our next step will be. Insurance will offer to help 50% with the IVF, but ironically, our fertility clinic offers global fees that are actually cheaper than submitting to insurance. Case in point, last IUI cycle cost us $1200 just for the monitoring/IUI alone and this month its $1000. Not counting the donor sperm and meds.

My nurse told me on CD 3 that the RE didn't want to jump to FSH injectables just yet. I don't know why, but I figure he's the doctor and knows what's best.

I do have fertility issues. I don't ovulate on my own and don't have many follicles that mature. Last cycle, I had none on my left and only 1 follicle at 18.5 at time at trigger.

My next step is CD 11 next Thrusday.

Have a great weekend and happy mothers day
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2 IUI's April & May '09 both

#1 IVF w/ICSI

ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
Two blasts made it to freeze, hold on frosties
9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

FET sometime in Jan/Feb 2010
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Good morning. I think you count the day after you have the IUI, so if you POAS on 9DPIUI, it's still REALLY early. At least you know the trigger is out of your system though. I'm sorry and I'm praying that you get your this cycle too!

Regarding telling my dad-it's tough on that one. I'm an only child, but have 2 step siblings (whom we don't get along). All I've heard since being married is "when am I going to be a grandfather?" Especially now since last summer we moved in right next door and it's his dream to have grand kids running around. We're not really telling him for the money factor. Although my father is well off too and would have no problem just writing a check, but I do not want it to come to that. I'd have that thought forever in my mind. My husband and I are blessed to have money put aside from the sale of our home last year, but that was going to be our life savings. We have some money, but we're not rich by any means and I'm a stay at home housewife. I felt if I were working, we'd be able to save more $$$ but what employer would put up with the woman who's missing 4-7 days a month? It wouldn't be any of their business. The way the economy is these days businesses don't put up with that sort of thing. Back to telling my dad: It'll be tough but it'll be a relief also because then maybe he will stop bringing it up so often and us having to lie about where we've been. Mind you, we travel anywhere between 2 to 3 hrs one-way for monitoring/treatments and with him next door, he doesn't miss much, LOL. Kind of a price we have to pay for having all this land and the only neighbor is my father, LOL.

As far as IVF-we're still on the fence about it. DH and I agreed that if this IUI doesn't work we would take a breather and figure out what our next step will be. Insurance will offer to help 50% with the IVF, but ironically, our fertility clinic offers global fees that are actually cheaper than submitting to insurance. Case in point, last IUI cycle cost us $1200 just for the monitoring/IUI alone and this month its $1000. Not counting the donor sperm and meds.

My nurse told me on CD 3 that the RE didn't want to jump to FSH injectables just yet. I don't know why, but I figure he's the doctor and knows what's best.

I do have fertility issues. I don't ovulate on my own and don't have many follicles that mature. Last cycle, I had none on my left and only 1 follicle at 18.5 at time at trigger.

My next step is CD 11 next Thrusday.

Have a great weekend and happy mothers day

Thank you for your support!!! You are the sweetest! Yes you should definatly tell your Dad just for the fact that when he asks you it has to break your heart! I had a sister in law that has 3 kids constantly asking me and asking what are you waiting for? I finally told her and now she has laid off the comments As far as money goes, we use to be well off, but when the economy took a crash, so did my husbands work. He is a mortgage broker. We live in Michigan and it is aweful here. So many people without jobs and so many forclosures!
I am having cramping like is coming, is it still to early for her ugly face to show up? Humm....I was thinking of doing a unmedicated cycle this upcoming month but know nothing about it. We paid $23,000for testing and IVF and for cycle monitioring and IUI it was $2,300!!! W;hy was yours so much less? Humm..Well if I don't here from you have a great weekend too!
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IVF #1: Nov. 2008
2 embryos transfered
0 to freeze



1st IUI w/ donor sperm

Meds: Bravel, Medopur, ganarelix, and ovidril

4-28: IUI #1 today!!
-2 eggs dropped.
-donor sperm 109 million, 50% mortility, and 8% morphology.

Mother's Day present...
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Not sure why ours is less money. We're using their global fee, which is set up for those who don't have insurance. Are you submitting to insurance? Does your insurance cover any fertility meds? Could be because you're just in a different region-who knows? Things seem to be higher in the mid-west and west anyhow. Our insurance co did approve us for 1 IUI and 2 office visits (50% co-pay) but we're doing 2 IUI's this month and will have approx 4-5 office visits, so it would end up costing more money in the long run if submitted to insurance. Crazy! $2,300 just for monitoring and 1 IUI? I think we'll have a total of $1,800 total for monitoring, 2 IUI's back to back, 2 vials of donor sperm and meds. I'm really concerned for the time when my RE puts me on FSH injectables, they're like $675 for just a few per cycle. Boy am I thankful then. I had sticker shock at what we were paying. I'm sorry you're paying so much more. Even still at what we're paying it won't take long to put a serious dent in our finances. It's scary.

Yes, it'll be a nice feeling to be "out" in the open about our fertility. The only thing we'll mention is my issues, because people react differently when told it's male factor, and I don't want my husband looked at differently. Nor do we want our future child to be treated any differently, people can be so cruel. Yes, even family.

My mom has known since day one. Mom and I get along wonderful, but since we've been active in the fertility thing she's not been as supportive as I thought. She's gone with me once, like I requested, but won't call me for days on end and when I ask, she says she's just giving me space. I know she's trying to help by staying away. I talk to her about medications, appointments and how I'm feeling and I don't really have much support. It's kind of in one ear, out the other. I suppose it's hard for her to understand. Unless someone has experienced the pain, there's no way for someone to understand. Having this site to pour my feelings into has really helped. My husband is there for me, but is dealing with his own issues with going to work full time and being a student. I'm starting to ramble, so with that being said.......

Test on Sunday and maybe by then you'll have a more definative answer. I'm thinking of you and wishing you nothing but the best.
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Married to my best friend since 12-05-1998
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2 Himalayan fur-children
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Zero fertility coverage due to DH's diagnosis
2 IUI's April & May '09 both

#1 IVF w/ICSI

ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
Two blasts made it to freeze, hold on frosties
9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

FET sometime in Jan/Feb 2010

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Not sure why ours is less money. We're using their global fee, which is set up for those who don't have insurance. Are you submitting to insurance? Does your insurance cover any fertility meds? Could be because you're just in a different region-who knows? Things seem to be higher in the mid-west and west anyhow. Our insurance co did approve us for 1 IUI and 2 office visits (50% co-pay) but we're doing 2 IUI's this month and will have approx 4-5 office visits, so it would end up costing more money in the long run if submitted to insurance. Crazy! $2,300 just for monitoring and 1 IUI? I think we'll have a total of $1,800 total for monitoring, 2 IUI's back to back, 2 vials of donor sperm and meds. I'm really concerned for the time when my RE puts me on FSH injectables, they're like $675 for just a few per cycle. Boy am I thankful then. I had sticker shock at what we were paying. I'm sorry you're paying so much more. Even still at what we're paying it won't take long to put a serious dent in our finances. It's scary.

Yes, it'll be a nice feeling to be "out" in the open about our fertility. The only thing we'll mention is my issues, because people react differently when told it's male factor, and I don't want my husband looked at differently. Nor do we want our future child to be treated any differently, people can be so cruel. Yes, even family.

My mom has known since day one. Mom and I get along wonderful, but since we've been active in the fertility thing she's not been as supportive as I thought. She's gone with me once, like I requested, but won't call me for days on end and when I ask, she says she's just giving me space. I know she's trying to help by staying away. I talk to her about medications, appointments and how I'm feeling and I don't really have much support. It's kind of in one ear, out the other. I suppose it's hard for her to understand. Unless someone has experienced the pain, there's no way for someone to understand. Having this site to pour my feelings into has really helped. My husband is there for me, but is dealing with his own issues with going to work full time and being a student. I'm starting to ramble, so with that being said.......

Test on Sunday and maybe by then you'll have a more definative answer. I'm thinking of you and wishing you nothing but the best.

Well it is over! Happy Mothers Day to me...evil showed up to reck my day! I spent the whole day sobbing. It is not so much that it didn't work, but that we don't have the money to keep trying anytime soon It is just devistating. I KNOW you understand! I just don't know what to do with myself now. Life is so unfair. I am so sick of people saying "it will happen when it's time" or "be happy for what you have in life" or "just pray" WTF!!! I hate people right now. lol, how are you doing? Have you talked to your father yet? Hope all is well
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IVF #1: Nov. 2008
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Meds: Bravel, Medopur, ganarelix, and ovidril

4-28: IUI #1 today!!
-2 eggs dropped.
-donor sperm 109 million, 50% mortility, and 8% morphology.

Mother's Day present...
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Awwwww, honey....I'm so very sorry Not a good Mothers Day present that's for sure, but I hope you still had a good day with your son. This one was tough for me. I tried to be all smiles for my time with my mom, but it was hard. I didn't get anything, I'm not a mom to a child, but do have 2 cats...so that would make me a "cat mom" LOL.

I replied to your post this morning, but for whatever reason...it didn't get applied. I really don't have that much good of advise for you, having been thru a recent myself the only thing I can do is offer the same support I've always given. If it helps, try what you can to take your mind off of it. When I'm having a bad day, which is pretty often I like to indulge in the little things. Sounds silly, but a walk helps me. Now that the weather is warmer I go outside and enjoy sun.

A quick recap on me. I go in on Thursday for CD11 and will go from there. I'm pretty sure they'll have me come back either Saturday or Sunday because that's what happened last cycle. Going by last cycle, I could very well have my IUI early next week. We're doing two, back to back. I cannot wait to hear the donor count after what happened to me last month.

You mentioned you might wait awhile to continue because of funds. When do you think that might be? If I'm understanding your post, today would have been your CD 3? Did you go in today?

Hubby and me are still unsure what our next step will be if this cycle doesn't go well.

I hope you're better now. Please know that I'm thinking about you.
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2 IUI's April & May '09 both

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ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
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9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

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I just have to vent

I get an email from my cousin who's 6 weeks pregnant and she says she had her ultrasound. She said "it was vaginal, so get ready for that when your pregnant". Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. If she only knew how many times I've had one of those.

I hope she's not one of those who complain all the time about being pregnant, I may just have to kill her.
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DH 38- Perfect, but no swimmers-cancer survivor
Married to my best friend since 12-05-1998
TTC #1 for over 9 years
2 Himalayan fur-children
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Zero fertility coverage due to DH's diagnosis
2 IUI's April & May '09 both

#1 IVF w/ICSI

ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
Two blasts made it to freeze, hold on frosties
9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

FET sometime in Jan/Feb 2010

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I just have to vent

I get an email from my cousin who's 6 weeks pregnant and she says she had her ultrasound. She said "it was vaginal, so get ready for that when your pregnant". Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. If she only knew how many times I've had one of those.

I hope she's not one of those who complain all the time about being pregnant, I may just have to kill her.
Oh Lisa,
She probably will be! People who haven't dealt with IF have NO idea!!!! I know I didn't, but I certainly wouldn't have talked about my pregnancy to someone having trouble concieving!!! You might have to put distance between yourself and her, for your own sanity. It is your time to be selfish right now!!
I am so excited for you to do your IUI!!! It seems like yesterday that you started your new cycle! I'm sure you don't feel that way...everyday seems forever long!! How are your eggs growing? Are you doing injectables and if so which ones? I think the back to back idea is great, I wish I had done that. It just seems to cover more turf!
As far as my next cycle...I don't know. As of now never. We are now dead broke, and I don't see it getting any better anytime soon My DH does mortgages and that business has gone under. He is talking about finding a new profession, he does have a business degree. In the mean time we have 0 communication, he doesn't talk to me about anything. I feel so down and he doesn't even give me words of compassion. I am now wondering if our marriage can survive this. If we were broke and I was pregnant I would feel differently, I could deal with that. But not being able to do another cycle in who knows how long is so hopeless to me I am going in for my follow-up appointment to discuss "what the doctor thinks" on Monday. DH hasn't even offered to go. I'm so sad.
Thanks for letting me vent a little(or a lot, lol)! I am routing for you !! You not only are going to have better counts this month but also back to back!! It's your turn my friend! !!!!
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DH-31 severe MF


Mother to precious 6 year old from previous relationship

IVF #1: Nov. 2008
2 embryos transfered
0 to freeze



1st IUI w/ donor sperm

Meds: Bravel, Medopur, ganarelix, and ovidril

4-28: IUI #1 today!!
-2 eggs dropped.
-donor sperm 109 million, 50% mortility, and 8% morphology.

Mother's Day present...
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Mayebaby1:

I'm so sorry you're sad. The fact that your husband doesn't talk about it is disturbing to me. Men are weird when it comes to showing their emotions. Perhaps he's just as frustrated as you and the way he's dealing with it is mums the word. Have you tried really talking to him? Infertility can make it very difficult on couples. I can't say we've been in your situation, with the not talking part, but it does take a toll. I wish I could give you big 's.

My CD 11 was today and the doctor came in the ultrasound room! Shocked and scared me a bit at first, since this was the 1st time I've seen him since October. It was just on a whim, as he was doing his rounds and I happened to be in the room at the time. As the ultrasound girl was doing her thing, he was in the background telling me everything is looking good and mentioned that I was an over acheaver this month. I asked if that was good, he said yes....looking good. My follicle size is 13mm, which is 1mm more than I had last cycle on CD11. I guess that's good. I had several others on my right that were just behind that size and more little ones that might not amount to anything on my left. He said let the clomid do it's job and left the room.

My nurse just called and bloodwork looked ok for this stage in the game. They want me to come back in on Sunday *CD 14 for a repeat of today. Looks like it'll be just like last cycle and I'll probably trigger (ovidrel) on CD 15 and do my IUI's on CD 16 & 17.

We still don't know what we're going to do if this cycle doesn't work. I know we'll do something, because taking a month off wouldn't make any difference in finances at this point. There will be a time though when we will have to say "maybe it's just not meant to be". Neither of us want to be bankrupt after treatments. I just don't know when we'll say "whoa, that's enough". I have prepaired myself for that, it'll be heartbreaking so I try not to think about it and see the positive.

Have that talk with hubby. I'll be thinking of you.
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DH 38- Perfect, but no swimmers-cancer survivor
Married to my best friend since 12-05-1998
TTC #1 for over 9 years
2 Himalayan fur-children
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Zero fertility coverage due to DH's diagnosis
2 IUI's April & May '09 both

#1 IVF w/ICSI

ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
Two blasts made it to freeze, hold on frosties
9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

FET sometime in Jan/Feb 2010
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Maybebaby1:

Hi, I hope you're doing better today. Please post when you get your info from your doctor. How are things with you and hubby?

A little update on me:

I had more workup done today (CD14) and was told I'm all ready for my B2B IUI's. I will trigger tonight and go in Monday and Tuesday for the IUI's.

Was told my estrogen was 221, LH 5.95 and I have one follicle on my right (like last time) but this time, it's bigger at 20. I had two they thought on CD 11, but the other never matured passed 14.

My guess is I'll take a BETA or HPT anytime after June 2nd. Please keep us in your prayers. and I'll do the same for you.
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ME 31-Irregular cycles, otherwise OK
DH 38- Perfect, but no swimmers-cancer survivor
Married to my best friend since 12-05-1998
TTC #1 for over 9 years
2 Himalayan fur-children
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Zero fertility coverage due to DH's diagnosis
2 IUI's April & May '09 both

#1 IVF w/ICSI

ER 9/12/09 got 21 eggies, 14 mature, 13 fertilized
ET 9/17/09 we transferred 2 (grade 1) blasts
Two blasts made it to freeze, hold on frosties
9-30-09 1st beta (13dp5dt) 405 10-26-09 D&C @ 8weeks

FET sometime in Jan/Feb 2010
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