[tygerlilly]

I am new to all of this so bear with me if I'm not in with the "lingo". So this is the first time in over 7 years of infertility problems that I am online discussing my fears, concerns, and feelings in regards to my husbands infertility.

The year we were married, we found out my husband has a zero sperm count. We both knew this was a possibility as he is a cancer survivor and had a kidney removed when he was 5 years old. Since then we have been on an interesting path to becoming parents.

I waited until my husband was ready to do IVF, and I told him that if he did not wish to venture down that path, adoption is always an option. He approached me, so now I have an estimated retrieval date of 11 June. But I am scared. The reason why is because we attempted IUI's eleven times and they all failed so I cant help but think it is me as well. I am assured that I am fine, but still the thought is there in my mind.

I know some of you may hate me for saying this, but why does adoption and IVF cost us so much? I understannd the medical costs affiliated with IVF, but adoption? It costs more to adopt a child than send it to college. Wouldn't those funds be better used towards that cause? Think about young couples without a lot of money that would like to start a family but cannot because of the financial concerns (I understand having children is expensive, but the inital cost is what I am talking about).

So those are my thoughts, I can't help but feel negative that this isn't going to work, but who knows. I am trying to stay positive, but there is only so much disapointment one can take, and I think I am close to that point.

Sorry I rambled...I guess I really needed to write it all down.

[Jen403]

try to have hope....even if your iui's failed, there is a much better chance with ivf. If you had any tube issues that would be bypassed, and they have the ability to see what your eggs/embryos look like. I know ivf is very financially and emotionally draining, but when you get your it will all have been worth it.

Don't get me started on the costs, either. The problem for me has been no insurance coverage for any of it. Unfortunately this limits the number of times we can do this.

Best of luck to you!