[CarolinaGirlDFL]

Hello all,

I'm a healthy 24 year old, and I'm interested in becoming an ED for someone. I've never really seen children as a part of my life, but I think if I can help someone who doesn't have the choice, that I should.

I just started looking into donation, and I'm curious if anyone can relate on experience with finding donors via agencies, and via other routes. It seems, (from a donor standpoint), that agencies seem to make things a lot easier, but it also seems, (from an ethical standpoint), that they're trying to grossly take monitary advantage of people who are just desperate to start families - and that makes me a bit uncomfortable. I DO believe that donors should be compensated, but some of the things I've read are just rediculous/robbery.

Can anyone add a little insight??? I would definately appreciate it! Thanks!

Dana

[Poppycorn95]

Dana! I don't have any insight into becoming a donor, but I appreciate your willingness to look into it. You could be giving someone the greatest gift imaginable. I hope that someone on here can give you some information to help you with your decision.

I know from your message that you aren't trying to offer anyone on this group your eggs, and that you are just looking for information on the best way to go about helping couples. But I need to remind everyone that we are not allowed to solicit eggs/sperm donors on this group. Doing so could cause you to be permanently banned from this website!!

Good luck with your decision and I hope to see many more posts from you in the future!

[CarolinaGirlDFL]

Thank you for the welcome! You're correct - I'm not soliciting..I'm further researching, and trying to see the pros and cons from intended parents from searching the donor sites - as I'm having a couple ethical hiccups about them, as well as a few questions as the fertililty treatments I'd have to undergo, and the typical success rate of the eggs retrieved...

I look forward to getting to meet more of you!

[jencat215]

Dana! What a sweet thing to do. No, I don't know anything about donating eggs. I am sure someone here will be able to answer that for you. I thought I heard, long time ago, that for donors they would like you to have had a child(ren) previously? I could be wrong. I wish you all the best on your quest. Some people here have used donors and have posted what their donor has to do. I think they have to take the same meds as someone undergoing IVF and have to match cycles with the recepiant.

[hopeful2bmom]

Dana,
First I just want to say thank you. What you are considering, will truly be one of the greatest gifts you can give. My husband and i are going to be starting the donor process over the next 4-6 months or so and we are just utterly exhausted at the prospect of having to search for donors and wonder what and why their reasons are for becoming an donor. It is encouraging to me to hear your reasons for becoming an egg donor. You are willing to give up your body,mind and time, albeit temporarily, for someone else to have a miracle. You are a gem and I applaud you for the steps you are taking.

I also feel that the fees are a little ridiculous, but I guess you have to take into consideration that any type of medical treatment is somewhat risky and these just might be the proces we have to pay. I know that DH and I are wiling to pay just about anything to have a family. Thank you for giving couples like us a chance.
Susan

[CarolinaGirlDFL]

Oh of course, thank you for the feedback! I think I may have found, (he found me actually), the right person to start my process of becoming a donor. We're still talking and getting to know eachother, so things are VERY new. This will be my first time, and I'd really like to get some feedback on the course of fertility meds I'm going to be taking -more so of what side effects I can expect....out of everything, that's pretty much the only thing giving me pause at this point, even though nothing has actually begun yet.

Any words of experience/wisdom???

[babydance143]

[CarolinaGirlDFL]

Thank you for the welcome!! I'm getting my own boxer baby in a week! Flashy fawn female named Sheba :-)

[kblythe]

Hey Carolina Girl.

I don't know about all medical groups, but my group of Reproductive Endocrinologists here in Atlanta solicits egg donors for patients in their practice. The egg donors are compensated -- as they should be -- but it's not gross like an Agency that is just trying to make money. The doctors really want to see their patients matched with a compatible donor to reach their goal of becoming parents.

So you may want to contact some of the specialists in your area.

And although I can't afford to go the egg donor route, I still appreciate your willingness and generosity to pursue this for the fortunate mommy-to-be who one day gets your egg!

Kathryn.

[Babyblue]

Hello CarolinaGirl. I'm with Kathryn on the Reproductive Endrocronolgist avenue. DH and I are in the middle of our treatment using DE and we chose our donor at our specialist's office in Nashville, TN. We did not want to go through an agency because of the very issues you mentioned. We felt agencies took advantage of the receipients (who like us were at our wits end or down to the last straw to conceive). I am so proud of you for going into this donor process for all the right reasons and taking the time to research the different avenues. I wish you the best of luck in your search.

Kim

[Marie_SC]

Nice to see another Carolina Girl. I am 25, a SAHM, and have decided to donate as well. I have two children, 5 and 9 months. I have decided to donate b/c my family is complete (my husband has had a vascestomy) and I do not want my eggs to go to waste. I am very passionate about helping a couple know and feel the love that I am fortunate enough to feel everyday. I am working with REACH (www.reachdrs.org) located in Charlotte, NC. They have been great so far. I am a little scarred about the process but do feel that I have made the right decision. What could be better than knowing that you helped a couple have a child. Keep in touch!

Marie