[Angieny2k]

My hubby and I have been having fertility issues for 11 years now. We can not afford to have the IVF done and he suffers from Retrograde Ejaculation. I have been trying for the last 4 or 5 years to convince him of using a Sperm Donor. He adimitly refuses. He says he does not want to see me pregnant with another mans child. I have tried to tell him that the baby would be both of ours but he does not see it that way. He keeps hoping to win the lotto. I don't understand this. He says he wants a baby but throws up a road block each time I mention this. I even tried bringing up a known donor. He did not like that idea eather. I just turned 28 and I know that in the 30's it gets harder to get pregnant. This is our only option due to the cost of IVF, we have looked into financing and it is not possable for us. I feel that time is running out.

I need some help! Please anyone who can share their experinces with this would be greatly appriciated.
angela_tomlinson1979@yahoo.com

[smiles2]

I'm sorry to hear that it is a sticking point to furthering your treatments. My husband was much the same but seems to be coming around. We have tried IVF due to sever MF and got a BFN. We don't have the financial where with all to handle another cycle and being 35 time is ticking. What seemed to bring DH around was going to counselling at the fertility centre. It took time but he has now agreed.

Some how telling DH that it wasn't someone elses child didn't work for me, but what ever the counsellor said did the trick.

Not sure this helps, but know there are always others in the same position and this is a great place to find them!

Good luck with DH.

Smiles!

[Sarah_84]

I have no advice but I just want to wish you luck and I hope he comes around to the idea soon.

[biggsista]

It is a very hard thing for anyone to accept not having biological children of their own. It took us a long time, alot of money and alot of tears to finally come to the conclusion that what we wanted was to have a family..regardless of how it was done. I still feel sad that my husband will have to face the comments without other people knowing the comments hurt..as I'm afraid after the baby is born them saying..he/she looks nothing like you..you know how guys joke around..anyway we will deal with it when the time comes, we decided to not tell anyone until later down the road when we decide to tell our son or daughter. I wish you well and I hope that hubby changes his mind. It is a tough decision.