[che_girl]

Christie, vent away girl! We are here to listen, cry and laugh together.

Shellie and Holly, I have been an emotional wreck too. Tears come out like it is a lottery drawing. I don't remember where I heard this, maybe in a movie? they said that when an expectant mom cries, the baby cries as well. Hearing this made me even more emotional and upset
Also, DH is usually very sweet but I feel that he is moving very s . . l . .o . . w to do simple things and lately, almost everything he has been doing in the past that used to make me giggle, now I find them annoying. . . .like when he yawns, ugh, I can't stand it. I think he yawns too loud. Also, the way he chews his food, I can't watch him because it makes me loose my appetite. I really hope this is just temporary.

We went to our cesarean birth class/maternity tour earlier today. Part of the class was to watch a testimonial video of a couple who had their baby by c-section. I thought that I was prepared to watch this after all the birth shows I have watched i. e. "Deliver Me", "Birth Day", etc. The video started being very informative and easy to watch, until we got to the part where after the baby came out . . . the doctor removed the uterus to check everything was fine and then put the uterus back inside. DH and I were not expecting to watch this. I didn't even know that this was done as part of a c-section. I now have a list of 20 questions ready for my OB when I see him this week. The scene of the uterus is still in my mind. Another thing I learned is that we can't bring our laptop to the hospital. So it will be four days where I will have no access to my dear cyber world.

[blaze6333]

Thanks ladies. I feel some better today, I cried awhile last night and again this morning. I managed to do alot of work in the nursery and the kitchen today, Dh got up early and has been gone all day. I think I needed the time alone, just with my thoughts. Part of me is so afraid that he is not going to be "involved" when the baby gets here, he acts now like I am not even pregnant. That is what makes me so easily angry, I want him to be excited and as ready for her as I am. I know they really can't understand fully, I just think he could understand more. I haven't cried until last night, maybe I managed to get it all out and I just pray that tonight is better.

On a lighter note, my family are all 10 hours away except one of my sisters who is 2 hours away. Thank goodness for her, she has made tons of trips up here to help me since I have been pregnant! My mom and my other sister will be coming on first notice that I am in labor or will be here if I have a scheduled C-section. I plan on a vaginal delivery, so they may not make it before the baby is born, but will be here a week or two after. Then all of Dh's family is here, so we will have lots of help. I am thankful, I love help!!

Amy, congrats on getting to see your new nephews. I bet they are beautiful. And yes, don't forget the pictures!

Tabitha- I hope you had a good visit today with George and I am thankful you have your parents there for you too. Let us know how he is.

I hope everyone is having a good day!

[che_girl]

Christie, this one is for you
Your fear is my fear too. Although I think DH is going to be okay, there are times that I feel he is not into this journey as involved as I have been. For instance, he has received two baby books as Father's Day gifts from our family, so he can be prepared for our baby, until this day, he has not touched them. In the meantime, I have read all ten baby books that were given to me as gifts, plus other materials that I collected from the dr's office and the library. I have been asking DH numerous times to install the candelabra in the nursery and this is something that only will take him no more than an hour, maybe less. Instead of installing the candelabra, he prefers to waste time watching his History Channel series or Discovery shows. Today, in our maternity class, he was yawning the whole three hours. To me, if you yawn, I take it as you are bored and not interested. I can't excuse his yawning for being tired or hungry because the class was early so he should be very awake and hungry, he was not, as I made him a mean size omelette and served him two cups of coffee. I can go on and on. . .and on with my ranting. . .
I think I am going to start ignoring these details and not let them bother me because I will get very upset and not enjoy the rest of the baby's "cooking" time.
I'd wish you and I live closer to go for a pedi or some other girl's stuff and forget DHs for a little bit.

[norcal]

Netty - I so apprecitate your posts! I enjoyed a good laugh at you describing how every little thing annoys you about DH because I could have written the same thing.

Christie - I'm glad today is a little better.


I think part of my stress is coming from obsessing about how we only have 9 weeks left before Jaden's due date and I feel like all the things that are left to do are things that DH needs to do so I'm stuck thinking about them and then getting upset because he chooses to sleep in while I have insomnia.


*shrug* one day at a time. I did text my 2 gf's on the east coast and told them I wish they were here because I could use some girl time to help with these hormones.

[flamingpajamas]

I am so glad you guys are all posting about hormones. Mine have ramped up too. I have been having crazy dreams and I woke up this morning (after getting up every 1 1/2 hrs to pee all night) after having a dream about my dad who died 18 years ago and I just broke into tears. I just take everything so hard right now.

A friend of mind made some comment about our baby registry being all "diaper covers". If she had looked at it she would see they weren't diaper covers at all but cloth diapers and if she thought about it for 3 seconds she would have realized that all babies do is pee and poo all day so we need a lot. Not to mention there are plenty of other things to chose from on the registry. If she doesn't like the registry she can buy something else or nothing at all. I don't know why this irritated me so much but I am really annoyed by it. It took a lot of research to figure out what we are going to need. Buy something from the registry or don't, but don't criticize what is on it. Grrrr. I do not feel very flexible or forgiving.

Sooooo. Christie, Netty and Holly: I TOTALLY understand. Give yourselves a break, feel how you feel and please vent to us, because we all know what you are going through.

Laura I love your pics! How fun to see your little guy...

Go baby George!!!!!

[che_girl]

Oh Claudia, I hear ya girl! I feel like kicking your friend's arse, can I? Please say yes! Just j/k. . . yeah, it must be the hormones because not only is DH that I am after, I feel like this is also transformed when I am driving . . . I can't stand slow drivers or crazy speed racers and everything that comes out of my mind is not pleasant. I know, I have a potty mouth and I am not proud of it.

[Tabitha]

hi ladies - yesterday I was able to do kangaroo care with the baby. this is where I hold him on my chest and he is only wearing a diaper, and then I cover him with a blanket. with preemies this is supposed to help regulate their temperature. it felt really good just to be able to touch him so much. he kept moving his head around with his mouth open, so I feel like he was looking for my breast. he can suck on a pacifier, so hopefully he will be able to nurse soon.

hope everyone has a nice, relaxing sunday.

[Eriksgirl19]

You gals are cracking me up! Isn't it nice to know we aren't alone in moments like these? Netty - I completely relate to the road rage...mine has grown so much worse lately!

Tabitha - I'm so excited that you were able to do Kangaroo Care! It sounds like it was an amazing experience. Will you get to do it again soon? A good friend of mine had a premie and said that the Kangaroo Care was absolutely magical.

[flamingpajamas]

Tabitha! Little George is making so much progress. I am so happy for you. It must have felt wonderful to have him against your bare skin.

Crummy night's sleep last night. Hip pain, that numb/painful spot under my ribs hurt a ton, my cats kept waking me up and I got up to pee every hour and a half. Grumble Grumble Grumble. A nap is in order....

[fossie]

Tabitha - so glad you got to do kangaroo care - it sound like things are moving along wonderfully.

You guys are too funny but I definitely relate. I have had thoughts of wow, I hope dh annoying me is only temporary. He is really taking everyone's (even my docs) advice to heart and playing golf every chance he gets since he won't get to for a while and it is driving me insane just because he isn't getting anything done that want. Everything is logical - like I want to go ahead and put carseats in because we have been told my car is too small and his had seatbelt issues but he says there is no need to drive around with carseats in the car for a month which I understand but this lack of control and no solid plan is really nervewracking. He says that if the babies were to come now we would not be taking them home and since we live 20 minutes from the hospital we should be able to take care of some of these things like carseats, packing bags (another things I am stressed about), etc. He has been wonderful but he is just not in a constant state of anxiety and worry like I am - he just lives in the moment and realizes that everything will work out and that there is no way to know exactly what we will need and want when they get here but I just can't stop thinking about it.

I heard somewhere that a woman becomes a mom when she becomes pregnant and a man when he first holds his baby and I have to keep reminding myself that he doesn't have the constant reminder that we have babies on the way to make him think about it constantly like I do.

As much as little things have been annoying me lately (like yawning - I feel like he is doing it on purpose even though I know that he wakes up and entertains me when I can't sleep at 4:00 AM so I know he is tired too) I did have a royal meltdown in Target today - I was looking at anniversary cards (our 7th is tomorrow) and was just bawling reading all of them because I just feel so blessed to be with someone that I love so much and that we are finally starting family - *****y to sappy in no time at all - that's me these days!

Wow, sorry such a long post - I guess it is because I have been sitting here watching a golf tournament for hours with dh :-)!

[CatIz1]

Tabitha - glad to hear George is doing so well. Have they indicated when he might be able to come home?

Hormones - I can totally relate. I start crying or getting teary eyed at the drop of a hat. I was watching the Olympics and almost started crying when Phelps was getting his gold medal - don't know where that came from. Then today DH and I were at Barnes and Noble and there was a booked called Someday. Let me tell you that is one of the most heartfelt books a Mom can give thier little girl - I started bawling right there in the child's section. We left shortly after. I am going to buy the book next time I go there.

DH has been really great but there are times that I just want to ring his neck. Poor thing has had to put up with alot the past few months but come on use your brain and don't annoy me. :-)

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

[mum2abbylily]

Haha.... seems like we are all in the same boat with the lovely hormones!!! Add in tiredness, achiness, bloatedness etc etc..... aren't we a fun bunch to be around!?

I feel myself being so grumpy and unreasonable sometimes...... it's usually when I'm hungry though, and after 8 years together, DH is used to my irrationality when I'm hungry - pregnant or not!!

Ah well - all worth it, and I think our DH's would agree there

BTW - I've really started having some BH contractions these last few days, and I'm still sooooooo uncomfortable with pain/pressure down below. I have an appt this next Friday, so I'll wait until then so long as it doesn't get worse......

[che_girl]

(((Tabitha))) how amazing it must have been to feel your little prince so close to you. He is growing healthier by the day. I hope soon he will be coming home with mom and dad.

Christie, how are you doing today sweets? I hope today is a better day for you.

I am watching Saturday Night Fever with John Travolta, one of my fave movies and baby Ella is kicking like she is having a ball! Next I am going to watch Carlito's Way, another favorite movie. I am in such a mood to bring good ol' time memories. Also, for the past three days I have been cooking comfort meals that my mom used to make when I was little. . . such a nesting mode.

DH is working hard today and that makes me very happy. Also, my shower is next Saturday and I am so looking forward to it because I hope to have the house nice and ready to bring some guests home after the pawty!

[Celeste]

Christie - Don't worry about DH, once that baby girl is born, he will be in love. Men don't have the capacity, it would seem, to really anticipate with excitement the birth of a baby like we do. But I assure you, from someone who had a totally disinterested DH before DD, he is now totally wrapped around her finger and loves her more than life. Men are just a bit slow.....

And very frustrating. i spend all day, 31 weeks pregnant with twns and taking care of a 2 year old and working and clearing out the to be babies room and I ask DH to carry the stuff downstairs and he moans and groans and then complains that the room isn't ready yet. They are such an irritating species....

Tabitha - I'm so glad to hear that the baby is doing well! It must have been wonderful to hold him. I can't imagine how difficult it is for you, but hopefully he'll be home soon.

[Eriksgirl19]

I cannot sleep!!! It is getting so bad. I think I got a total of 3 hours last night...but not in a row. I am just out of solutions, my preggo pillows aren't working and not even the couch or recliner is comfy. I actually slept on our family room floor last night. My hips & legs just hurt so badly. Any suggetsions?