hello. My name christine. I have been trying to have a child for about 4 years now. My husband has been told he has low morphology..sp? and I have endometriosis. I have had a laporoscopy in feb. of 2002 and went on clomid which put me into menopause for 6 months. I was going to start in vetro after that however my bank where i work was sold to another name so I lost the cigna insurance I had ehich paid for it, and got anthem blue cross which does not cover it. so now I am at a dead end. I dont have money to pay for the treatment, my pain is back, and my husband has been in prison over 7 years ago when he was 18 for breaking into homes.... before I meet him. He is a complete different person and learned from his mistakes but I dont think we would be able to adopt. Anyone have any advice for me or anything I could do at this point, or even just some support??? I think I need to know that I am not alone in the world....... thanks

Christine,

Sending hugs your way. (((( hugs ))))

It is sooo tough to not be able to have a baby when you have that yearning. I, too, had endometriosis as part of our infertility woes. I am surprised to hear that the Clomid stopped your cycles. That's odd. It just turned me into a raving hormonal lunatic, but the cycles kept coming.

You are definitely not alone in the world. Infertility afflicts thousands of couples, yet people are reluctant to talk about it in "real life." I think the anonymity of these forums helps people to open up a little better.

Have you talked to any agencies or the state yet? I don't know how they deal w/prison records. The worst thing they can say is "no," and, if you don't ask, it is an assumed "no," right?

Are you a religious person? If so, God has a plan for you. He doesn't close doors without providing a way to meet your needs. Perhaps He has a different plan to meet your needs to parent. Perhaps He wants you and your husband to get involved w/troubled youth so your husband can tell them firsthand about why NOT to follow the path that he did. Perhaps His plan is to foster parent or to adopt internationally. If you will seek God's will, He will show you the way to go.

Hang in there.

- Faith

I agree with the above poster, it doesn't hurt to ask. They have exceptions for records, it just depends on a lot of things. Also have you heard about embryo adoption? People who have done successful invitro have extra embryos and I don't know how hard it is to adopt them, but I saw a program about it on TV. Good luck and hang in there, God does have a plan for you and your family.

I had the same problem you did. My doctor did the same surgery on me. However, he went back in 6 weeks later to check on things. It turned out the scar tissue replaced the endo. and so he removed the scar tissue. Also, if you are still having pain this could mean that the endo is still there. You need to get this checked. As for your husbands history, some county agencies do make exceptions, you just have to explain it to them. Good luck!

I TOO HAD ENDO. FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET THAT TAKEN CARE OF. IT CAN MESS WITH YOUR MIND IF YOU LET IT GO TO LONG. GOOD LUCK.