I think it's crazy for someone to say you must get over the grief of the loss of your fertility over with before you adopt b/c I feel a part of me will always grieve for it. The desire to have a biological child is ingrained in all of us I believe. I have moved on to acceptance that maybe God's plan for me is to adopt and I'm looking forward to it, which adoption was always something me and my hubby had discussed even if we had bio children. Still there are some agencies who don't like it. If they only knew what I've been through already. I think grief is a process. It may take months, years or a lifetime and never be resolved. I mean my grandfather has been dead 12 years and I still miss him.
I think anyone considering adoption should find an agency they are comfortable with no matter the reason. There are many agencies out there. Some may not mind the treatments ecspecially since infant placement takes so long. They say the homestudy is the longest part of the process so me and my hubby want to get it done. After our final IVF we will know where to go from there.