It's comforting to know so many other women are going through the same thing. My stepdaughter became a cutter and cut for a very long time--many years of intensive therapy helped her stop cutting and deal with her stress in different ways. It's so hard to see a child go through something like that and not be able to hlep them.
What's hard is parenting a child like that knowing that you can't have one of your own. I know natural parents don't get a lot of thanks for their hard work, but I think step's get the brunt of it. At least that's how it works here--it's just easy for her to take it all out on me.
I just keep in the back of my mind that one day she'll see me in a different light and know I did the things I did for her out of love.