[nursebetty74]

I'm having trouble deciding what to do and need advice. I know people usually wait till 2nd trimester to tell people about pregnancy. does everyone?

The thing is i'm a hospital nurse on a cardiac unit-older and sicker patients than most. I' m trying to hold out telling just in case.... but i'm afraid people are going to start asking ?'s if they see i'm not my usual workaholic self. Do I deny it for a while or fess up? My best friend is my boss so at least she knows. what to do??? any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! btw i'm just 4 weeks 3 days first us is not untill 3-9.

[ImHis]

As you probably know from the Feb thread, we have told everyone. I could never wait till the second trimester to tell people. I think most people dont tell anyone just in case something happens, that may work for them, but for me...if something happened, then there would be more people for support. Plus we are pretty active in our church, so for us we covet the prayers now and would if something happened.
I really dont see anything wrong with telling so soon but it is a personal decision.

[colsxjack]

My wife is also a nurse in a trauma ward. We decided to wait until 11 or 12 weeks to tell people EXCEPT for close family and a couple of close friends. I wanted to tell people who I would want the support from if we had a miscarriage.
She also told people at her work on an as needed basis. If she was given a patient in isolation or had to lift a heavy patient, etc. For us it worked out well.

Our SIL also got pregnant at the same time we did. They told everyone from the day they got the BFP on the HPT. Unfortunately they then had a miscarriage at 9weeks and would have people asking about the pregnancy for weeks afterwards. That would be hard for us.

I say that you may want to tell people who it would be easy to get the word out to if (god forbid) there were any issues. Just so you wouldnt have to deal with someone coming up to you and asking how the baby was doing if (god forbid) there wasn't a baby there anymore.

[CTdoglvrs]

During my last pregnancy, we told everyone when we got the BFP at about 6 weeks, and then I miscarried at 14 weeks, so I have been a bit trigger shy about telling everyone. Otherwise, I would probably have told everyone.

I am 14 weeks tomorrow and plan on telling the general population at about 16 weeks. I have told two of my sisters, my MIL who has been so helpful throughout the IVF process, and two close friends.

Not to give you negative feelings about telling anyone, it was just easier this time for us to keep it a secret. I have not told my boss either... but have been able to work from home through the sickness...

[flavordelight33]

i also work at a hospital and have to lift heavy patients. im not pregnant yet, but im doing my 1st ivf this year. i want to tell them that i am but dont want to wait too long either. i know what you mean about teling someone about the pregnancy, but at the same time i don t want them to think i dont want to do my work either. but you also have to look out for the safety of your baby. i would say just try not to pull up and lift on patients,m it might be kinda like your slacking on work, but at least until u get further along in your pregnancy, u should take it light. thats what im going to do, because i have waited too long for my baby and dont want to do anything to risk it.

Originally Posted by nursebetty74

I'm having trouble deciding what to do and need advice. I know people usually wait till 2nd trimester to tell people about pregnancy. does everyone?

The thing is i'm a hospital nurse on a cardiac unit-older and sicker patients than most. I' m trying to hold out telling just in case.... but i'm afraid people are going to start asking ?'s if they see i'm not my usual workaholic self. Do I deny it for a while or fess up? My best friend is my boss so at least she knows. what to do??? any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! btw i'm just 4 weeks 3 days first us is not untill 3-9.

[Sweetpea]

We told people who knew about the IVF (very close family) when we had our doubling betas, and everyone else after twelve weeks.

This time around, we are telling NO ONE for after twelve/fourteen weeks. (if we get pregnant) THis is because last time we lost a twin early on, and I hated having to tell the people who initially knew there were two, all about it. I dont like sharing my sorrow somehow.

If we lose a pregnancy this time, we will tell people about it after the fact. Its just easier for me that way somehow.