[inhishands]

Hey girls...
so when do you think its time to move on to another RE? ive been with mine for over 2 years and i know he's a good dr but im thinking maybe he's missing somehthing or maybe another RE may have a different protocol or approach with me? Soooo Dh and i decided to start "interviewing" RE's. so far i have met with 3 and this week coming up i am meeting with 2 more... NOW im really confused, the 3 have all different advice and now i dont know what do and i think.. hmmm maybe i should stay with my current RE..(after i just spend a good amount of money on consultations) Our issue is mainly Male infertility, and i was just diagnosed with mild PCOS and im on 500 mg of metformin (my cycles have been consistent since the age of 10) anyway, would you move on or stay with the same RE??

[kbarley]

Chrissy,

It seems like your situation is similar to mine and I went through the same thought process when my FET was unsuccessful. So, given a part of my (our) issue is on DH side, I let him make the decision. He is not one for doctor's and hospitals anyway but he seemed to develop a level of comfort with my RE and the urologist his referred us to . So, since this time he will be having MESA or TESE I felt it was important for him to feel comfortable. However, we both agreed that if this round is also unsuccessful we're moving on! The pessimist in me want to start having consultations with other RE's in the area but most of them want all of your records, etc. and I didn't want to offend my current RE while he's treating me. So my question to you is, does your DH have a strong conviction one way or the other?

[happythoughts]

Please don't take this as a smart remarks, it IS NOT meant to be one. You move to another RE when you asked thequestion, WHEN IS IT TIME TO MOVE ! An old old man told me one time, you answer your own questions about things like that when you start to ask them.

May blessing come your way,

Lori

[inhishands]

kori - i have to say, my dh always says to me "whatever you want to do" he never ever disagrees to go to a dr.. we both are willing to do whatever it takes to get our results... i think we've become numb to all the doctors... meaning if we see 100, thats ok with us, we just want a baby. plus we work in a hospital so i feel that helps us too.... i too felt like maybe i would insult my RE if i ask for my records, but then i thought, oh well, i need them i need to ask for them so i did.... they didnt ask me any questions.. plus i kept a copy for myself.....

lori-no i didnt take it a wrong way..... i wanted other opinions, cause like i said above, my dh is always saying whatever you want, so i feel like im always making the decisions pertaining to getting our baby and just wanted to see what others thought... (our families do not know what we have been doing)....

thanks ladies.... and good luck to both!!

[elainek]

[quote=kbarley]Chrissy,
The pessimist in me want to start having consultations with other RE's in the area but most of them want all of your records, etc. and I didn't want to offend my current RE while he's treating me.

OMG this is exactly what I was about to post, and I was trying to find where to post it when I found this !!

So yes I have had 3 ivf cycles in 7 months at the same clinic (all failed ) Needless to say they all know me in the clinic now and I am really comfortable in there... I always see the same nurses and the same doctor. The doc (who has wrote a fab book about sucess versus diagnostic very interesting!)...is so nice and really down to earth. I feel I have really made a connection with him. However they do have low sucess rates compared to some of the city hospitals. (they are also half the price too !) So as the previous post said should I take my emotions out of it and try elsewhere ?

In the back of my mind tho I keep thinking well everything up to the eggs implanting in me goes well (producing 7-14 eggs each time, fertilised ok + 5 good for implants) ...so what else could another doc do ??? Surely its my body and its then left up to whether my body wants to accept the fertilised eggs ??

Oh dear I dont know what to do...part of me feels like I am keeping my pals happy if I go elsewhere as they have done it at hospitals and had sucess and keep telling me to try elsewhere

Ideas /suggestions anyone? Sorry for the lenthy chat !

[kbarley]

I'm so glad this thread is thriving again because I have to make this decision in the next week or two!

Chrissy - What did you and your DH ever decide after all of the cosultations?

Elaine - I think Chrissy probably has had the best idea. We should at least go for the consult with other practices in the area. Although I haven't gone for any consultations yet, I have been doing my research on the web and I think that's another good idea. I actually found the boards on IVF Connections to be very helpful because they have boards by location and I found a pretty active board for my area. As far as my original concern about offending my RE, I don't feel as worried about that anymore because I think that after all of the time I've been with him he will respect my need to make a wise financial decision.

Good Luck!