[futuremom2b]

This is a great support group, I am finding (as I am new too). I didn't want to tell my friends or family about the infertility because it's just so hard to talk about, and most people just "don't get it anyway, and they ask dumb questions! I hope the talking helps!
Welcome to the group...

Andrea (32)
DH (31)
Adopted son (19 months)
3/5 ~ 5 day transfer (2 embies)
3/14/07 First Preg test +@77
3/16/07 Sencond test @105
3/19/07 Third test @155
3/23/07 next preg test, and scared

[danicaart]

Welcome! I am new here too.
I am so sorry for your loss, although not as tragic, the older generation in my family has been passing on pretty steadily since 2000. I find it hard to be around and go through so much death without any of the good parts of the cycle of life ie having babies and creating the new generation. I think it will help when the adoption process does go through and you have a child to add to your family.
Counceling is a great idea and I hope you find the right person for you. If you don't fully click with the first person you see, continue to look and try others until you find one you can work with. Don't get discouraged if your first encounter is not what you thought it would be.
As for every friend being pregnant. I am in the same situation and it seems like it has made me feel more urgent about the whole IF journey - not neccesarily a good thing. It has gotten so bad that my DH has been afraid to tell me about friends who are pregnant that he has found out about because of the way I have reacted with the other ones.
It is OK to protect yourself and stay away from those subjects and or those people. I don't have the luxary of staying away because the pregnant ones are best friends and close family but I definitely try to stay away from where I am at in my journey and just be happy with where they are at in theirs.
Good luck and there are some amazing stories and very caring people here who are willing to listen and try to help.

[kbarley]

Jess...

You've found one of the greatest places on earth. The support, guidance, and conversation found on here will help you make it. I'm glad to hear that you've decided to explore counseling. I've been working with a counselor for a while now and it's been helpful. Like someone else said, "take each day as it comes". Take care of yourself, be good to yourself, and don't feel like you have to appologize to anyone who may not understand.

God Bless!

[Tripp]

Welcome! You have come to a great place full of women who understand what you are going through. My refrigerator is plastered with all my friends' beautiful little babies. It's comforting to know there are women in the world struggling with similar issues. We're all here for you to lean on.

[LineaLI]

I have to say that for me it doesn't help for me to avoid my friends with children, I love their kids. Most of my friends at least no that we aren't having an easy time conceiving. The pregnant friends are tougher. I have a friend with a beautiful 10 month old girl who just announced number 2 is one the way. She is generally a spiritual person who tries to do no harm but she doesn't take to pregnancy well and complains about it non-stop. I was with her yesterday chaperoning a youth group re-treat and had to walk away from her several times choking back tears. I actually told her husband that he needs to ask her to keep the complaints away from me. I can't imagine she would want to be inflicting so much pain but I know that to her , her situation seems tougher than us just trying. It helps me sometimes to report ridiculous behavior to a friend who will listen and tell me if I'm over-reacting or have a valid issue. Sometimes I can actually muster the strength to view it as a character builder(this is rare, but does make me feel better). My best advice is don't force yourself to endure things(people, situation) that cause more pain than they bring joy. Positive thinking is a skill to practice. Surround yourself with people who speak positively and believe that you deserve good things in your life.

[jessalynhope]

Thank you everyone! My friend was so great about me needing space so I'm very relieved...It's nice to have people like that in your life
As for pregnancy, granted I always think I'm pregnant, and after two years I feel like the little boy who cried wolf, but I honestly think I'm pregant. I know that may sound silly, and there's a good chance I'm setting myself up, but my body feels completely different. I've been cramping non-stop the past two weeks, and usually my chest is on fire and panifully sore for atleast a week before, but I'm due my period in four days and I have no chest pain...Plus I'm exhausted! And I don't feel like eating chocolate(which trust me is a big sign of something). It may just be horomonal changes, but in two years I've never felt like this!
My husband thinks I may be setting myself up for a let down because what are the chances? But I think this really might be it...

[nedege24]

you are in the right place at the right time, all these wonderful women will help pull you out of any situation you might fine yourself in.

[AlyKroes]

Hey, I know just how you feel. MY husband and I have been trying 2 years and 7 months. Feeling pretty down. My grandfather recently passed away, and I live 3000km away from my family living across Canada. Its hard when its all in one package.
I am looking for someone to share the same feelings as me...on here I think I found a few!

[nedege24]

It funny you said that because my grand mother just died, and i have been going through IF for 5 yrs and more, and now it's just faith that keeps me going

[kerimarie]

Hello. I have actually been visiting this site for a while and reading the posts. I guess I have been in denial (we've been trying for about 2 years) and I am just now able to face the fact that yes, indeed we are going through infertility issues..stubborn huh?

Jessalyn...I am sorry for your recent losses. I cannot imagine how that must feel, but I can certainly relate to your other issues. I have endometriosis (have had 2 laps to remove) and was recently diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure (POF). It seems everybody around me is pregnant or just had a baby. I have done Clomid, Menopur, and I am now on Letrozole. I would like to make some friends on this site that know what I am feeling.

[Lola]

Jess, take heart we all understand how you feel. Your feelings are absolutely normal. You are in the right place for advice, support and encouragement. It’s seems to mean more coming from people walking in your shoes.
Hugs.

[happyfeet]

I know it may seem hard to look up, and at times you may wonder "why in the world would god make me half of a woman?" at least thats what i think sometimes...but, just because you can not get pregnant right now does not mean you wont ever....Noone can really say "they cant have kids" if they are you know 20's -50's really... unless maybe medically you just cant have them due to cancers or other treatments...but definatly can not rule it out with endo.. I have endo and pcos plus im fat plus my stress level is horrible...and i hardley ever ovulate but its okay... i still look to the sky i have been trying 2 1/2 yrs with my husband..now on my second round of clomid it may and it may not work but beleive me when i say this "you will not have a child untill God allows you one" There is no medical procedure or medication that can give you life, only God" and i know in my heart he will allow my husband and i a family oneday if it is his will...just pray..and you wanna talk about other people being pregnant well imagine this... I married my husband all we ever wanted was a family part of both of us to love and raise then out of the blue a old ex girlfriend of his calls and says she has a 3 yr old son by him..i call her a g/f she was a one night stand so im like......why? why?why?..still going through the process of dna but you know everyone has a story and as long as we all stick togather we will be okay...we all just need a little support..just never give up

[mrsnicdickey]

i am deeply depressed by this its like i am very thankful for my son that is 6yrs ... when i was told last week that both of my tubes were blocked .. it hurt bad.. i mean wow my husband has to go back to iraq in december.. and all the doctor could say was well honey since both ur tubes are blocked nobody is gonna care if u can get pregnant so ur gonna have to pay for invitro.. wow.. and we went on to lie in my face and tell me how affordable it is.. my wanted to cry but i was strong for my husband.. he told us we could do laposcop.. to try to clear my tubes.. but of course he was negative and said most people arent wanting to do the clear the tubes thing... im just so depressed.. i mean i dont think i can come up with ten grand before december... and not knowing if my husband is gonna make it back is killing me too.. ive been trying hard not tothink like that ... so can anybody tell me about laposcopy.. my dr wasnt very helpful we was just pushing invitro..

[prayin4#2]

Is it possible for you to see another doctor/re? Sometimes we have personality clashes/philosopy differences, and it sounds like you and he aren't on the same page. Maybe you could see someone more optimistic about the laposcopy? I don't know much about it myself, but I'm sure there are ladies here who do! Best of luck!