[michellern]

Almost 12 years ago, we found out that we would have to do ivf/icsi to conceive. We were heartbroken! I became completely obsessed. I was constantly on the internet searching for natural male infertility treatment options and emotional support, and I started watching shows about pregnancy & babies and crying all the way through it. Also, I couldn't be around anyone who was pregnant or babies. Then, slowly but surely, I went through the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) and came back to "sanity"! *lol*

Well, we are finally gonna do the ivf/icsi, after many postponements. Here comes the internet obsession, depression at the site of , & crying at the site of a baby all over again! Why does this stuff have to happen to all of us?

Thank you for "listening" to my venting!

[StillWaiting410]

Sounds like you found your way to cope. Everyone copes differently.
Greatest luck on your journey!!!

[wtnganother1]

Obviously none of us knows why it's us and not our neighbors, relatives, friends, etc. It is incredibly hard to keep your hopes up when it seems like every month you are further away from the goal, and everyone around you is getting pregnant so easily. The thing that kept me focused and sane was seeing my specialist, and having a plan in place that I understood. I felt that every month we were gathering data about how I responded to CLomid (for example) and, even though I didn't get pregnant, we were learning about my body with every blood test and ultrasound. It gave him the info he needed to change our plan so that I could end up pregnant. I clinged to the plan and hoped it worked, or that this long process would guide me to our child, whether I gave birth to it or someone else did.

[jenm]

Hey, chin up!
My husband had very similar numbers to your husband. IVF with ICSI worked for us. There is a light at the end of the tunnel-and it is wonderful.

[Hopefulmommy09]

I did the same as wantinganother1. With me I could get pregnant and then I would miscarry! It was devastating and I had trouble going to church (moms and babies, walmart, you name it......I then decided that I just wanted to be a mom and DH and I started down the path of adoption. Well going the adoption route we also had two unsucessful cycles of clomid, but I also thought of it as information gathering. Maybe my doctor could figure out what was going on. Low and behold we adopted and had two biological children. With enough time and patience God will bless you. Get a plan together of what you want to do and then focus all your attention on it! It helped to know what I was going to do! Good luck and to you!