[ladymcneill1104]

Since i have had my lap my cycles, homones, and my sanity have all been messed up. Like here lately I would bleed for 2 week be off a week bleed 3 weeks be off a week. This time it ws only 4 days of bleeding it has been 6 days and I feel like it is coming again. I cannt keep dealing with this I am exhausted. My Daughter will be 4 soon and is very independent and does everything herself. She does preschool 4 days a week and we will be getting ready for kindergarden soon. I actually have to register her in Jan. My husband and I are able to take my DD on weekend trips and give her alot and do alot for her. Since I have been bleeding so much I am concidering asking for them to remove everything. I tired of the bleeding and the pain and quality of life really sucks right now. This weekend I held babies ranging from newborn up to 12 months old and this was the first time I did not get up set of or feel like I want to have a baby. Here lately I have felt like I am really done. No need to convince myself like I have been doing well this that or the other so I wont have another. This time I feel actually more complete that I ever have. I feel like I have found peace. I am not sure what any of this means. I struggled for years to get pg with my DD. I started when I was 18 and did not get pg untill i was 26. By that time with all the doctors and what i was told I was sure i would never have kids. My dd was born july 2005 and we have been trying since she was 6 months and have done some treatment and I dont want to wrap that many years into something that will probably never happen and I just dont want to be that much older to have a baby.

[TTCAngel34]

Hi Holly, it's been awhile! I couldn't tell for sure from your post, but it sounds like DH is back?? And I'm sooo happy for you that you feel at peace about not having more kids - it must feel good not to stress about it so much anymore.

But you're considering a hysterectomy now? You've wanted another for so long, and I know you're happy now, but you can never change your mind after that. I know you'll make the right decision for you, but before you do, there has to be a reason why you're bleeding so much. Would progesterone or BCPs help?

[ladymcneill1104]

DH is not back yet and wont be till christmas. I had all kinds of test ran but all my test keep coming back normal. I am not sure what to do. I am just tired of it and I am just lookin forward to going away on a tropical vacation when he gets back and not worry about having anymore kids. It is all way to much and I am tired of all the issues but all the normal test. Tired of doing alot of things but yet nothing happens but everything is normal so whatever I just want to be done with it all. My husband dont want me to get the hysterectomy but I am so done with it all.

[Sabene]

I agree with TTCAngel34-- having whole sets of organs amputated because you are frustrated seems extreme especially when you still might want kids. I would recommend taking iron supplements (you may be very tired from bleeding so much and having low iron levels because of that) and taking BCP to regulate your cycles until your husband gets back. If you have that mental break until Christmas...several months....it may make you feel ready to try again, or at the least have better perspective on if surgery is really the best choice for you. I just would hate to think you rushed into an irreversible surgery out of frustration.

[wtnganother1]

I know what it's like to bleed for three weeks straight. You wonder how any creature can be capable of doing that and survive. I completely undersand your frustration and exhaustion with everything. But a hysterectomy is SO permanent. And at your age!! Is your doctor giving you no guidance as to what to try? It may be something relatively easy to work out, and you'll look back at it and it will make sense. I'm so happy that you have peace about having another one. You may work all of the bleeding out and decide to try for one later. You have lots of time, even though it may not seem that way some days. Or you may decide to never try again. But the hysterectomy without a true test indicating that you should have one is not something that you should rush to do.

[mittons]

I have been there! Back in 2005 I pleaded for the hysterectomy. The doctors would not do it because I was so young. Good thing they didn't because in 2006 I had my dd.
Like you I had out of control bleeding. But it could be controlled by the birth control pill or Metformin. Would this be an option for you? I saw that you were on Met. but for how long?
Lastly, after birth of my dd I had to have an emergency hysterectomy. Let me tell you it's rough and as icky as my cycle was I would take that back any day. It's hard to explain how you feel afterwards. I guess to sum it up it doesn't feel as if your woman enough? I don't know if it makes any sense. But I feel as if a big part of who I was is gone.
While I can't say one way or the other what is best for you I just hope you way your options before you make your decision.

Best of luck to you.