[MagRN]

My name is Maggie and my husband and I have been married for 2 yrs. I had been using NuvaRing for about 3-4yrs and in May stopped using it because we decided to try for a baby. In July my husband had what seemed like an amazing job oppportunity that would have required us to move. Thinking at the time that we would probably wait another year for children if we moved, I used NuvaRing while we thought about the job that month. Job didn't work out, so we went back to trying in August. We've been feeling a bit discouraged lately because nothing has happened in the way of conception. I feel like every month, with the exception of July of course, has been disappointment after disappointment. I'm just wondering why it seems like my girlfriends go off birth control and get pregnant in the blink of an eye, and here we are, ready for a baby, and nothing. I feel like we've both worked so hard in our marriage, careers, finances, etc to be stable enough for a baby, that it just seems like work on the road to baby should not have to be much longer.
Some things I have been considering/worried about:
Before we met, my husband and I both unintentionally concieved with other partners, both pregnancies ended in miscarriages. Is that a sign that pregnancy is not in our future?
My husband is about 10 yrs older than I am (I'm 26 and he will be turning 36 at the end of the year) What if his age is a factor?
I have done some research and heard that NuvaRing users sometimes experience temporary infertility, what if it's more than that? What if I have a problem?
I feel like my life will not have the meaning that I want it to if I cannot have a child.
The only thing that my husband and I have ever wanted, what we've worked so hard for, is children.
And in all of this I am scared to death that if I do get pregnant, I will have another miscarriage and will feel all that pain again.

Any support/advice would be very much appreciated!

[arbuckle17]

It isn't uncommon for a woman's first pregnancy to miscarriage. My sister, my grandmother, and many of my cousins have had that happened and now have happy families.

Originally Posted by MagRN

My name is Maggie and my husband and I have been married for 2 yrs. I had been using NuvaRing for about 3-4yrs and in May stopped using it because we decided to try for a baby. In July my husband had what seemed like an amazing job oppportunity that would have required us to move. Thinking at the time that we would probably wait another year for children if we moved, I used NuvaRing while we thought about the job that month. Job didn't work out, so we went back to trying in August. We've been feeling a bit discouraged lately because nothing has happened in the way of conception. I feel like every month, with the exception of July of course, has been disappointment after disappointment. I'm just wondering why it seems like my girlfriends go off birth control and get pregnant in the blink of an eye, and here we are, ready for a baby, and nothing. I feel like we've both worked so hard in our marriage, careers, finances, etc to be stable enough for a baby, that it just seems like work on the road to baby should not have to be much longer.
Some things I have been considering/worried about:
Before we met, my husband and I both unintentionally concieved with other partners, both pregnancies ended in miscarriages. Is that a sign that pregnancy is not in our future?
My husband is about 10 yrs older than I am (I'm 26 and he will be turning 36 at the end of the year) What if his age is a factor?
I have done some research and heard that NuvaRing users sometimes experience temporary infertility, what if it's more than that? What if I have a problem?
I feel like my life will not have the meaning that I want it to if I cannot have a child.
The only thing that my husband and I have ever wanted, what we've worked so hard for, is children.
And in all of this I am scared to death that if I do get pregnant, I will have another miscarriage and will feel all that pain again.

Any support/advice would be very much appreciated!

[Koshveily]

With some birth controls, it takes longer to get your hormones to work on their own again. Where you're 26, they will probably expect that you've been birth control free for at least a year before you start seeing a Reproductive Endocrinologist. But talk to your primary care doctor and see if there aren't tests they can perform to ease your worries. They usually test your thyroid first to see where your hormones are.

When I first got tested, I was overweight and that comes with a whole slew of problems like hyperinsulinemia and PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome. So I lost the weight and lost the issues that came with it. Just starting out, I would make sure I was in top health condition and taking a prenatal. (It takes three months of taking a prenatal for it to give you the whole benefit. Plus, the vitamins in a prenatal are good for ANY woman to be taking, whether pregnant or not.) Perhaps DH can also see his doctor and possibly be referred to a urologist just to check that his sperm is healthy and ready to make babies.

When you're doing the baby dance, lubricants and saliva can kill sperm. Also, be sure you're not dancing every day but rather every other day so DH's sperm count can rise in between.

Also, a few women on here (including myself) insist that eating foods like pineapple and turkey while you're ovulating, and hopefully conceiving, will help create an ideal environment to make an embryo nice and snug.

I hope this is helpful information. Good luck!

[ruby2shoes2]

I am new here too. I just wanted to say welcome, I know how scary and frustrating this is.

[JessStillWaits]

Welcome! As for the Nuvaring causing infertility- most birth control messes up your cycles that is why they say it can take up to 6 months for you to pregnant. Luckily, in most cases, the effect is temporary. And some people never have that effect! I would definitely talk it over with your ob-gyn and set a date, if you are not pregnant by that point, see an RE.

Miscarriages are hard. I have had two, so I can understand. However, miscarriage is so common, we women don't talk much about it. Depending on your age 1 in 5, 1 in 5, or 1 in 4 pregnancies result in miscarriage, but the good news is it is very unlikely for you to have a second one, so the odds are in your favor.

good luck, and best wishes to you