[yessyka]

Hi anybody out there who is having IUI without meds or had IUI without meds, and wants to share the experience?
I'm on CD 11 and OPK's relying on that and my BBT in the mornings.
My case is male factor.

[momearth]

hi yessyka,
the infertility clinic i go to asked me to take 100mg clomid on 3-7day but they said they will not monitor and i need to check my LH surge with ovulation kit (they suggested Clearblue- expensive one- got 20 tests for $50) and the IUI to be done day after my LH surge. Members here have suggested that a monitored IUI is better because you will know the size of follicle and it will be better timed. I think day 13 should be the time when you could get a check on your follicle size.

[wallace1]

My first 2 IUI's were without meds. I didn't get pregnant but the experience was not bad. It was probably worse for my husband!

[Jrene]

I'll be doing my 2nd IUI in on the 11th. I do mine with 100mg of clomid and trigger shot. The IUI usually is done 36hrs after shot.

The IUI is really painless. Dh lol...he was a hot mess! Men they make everything so complex and difficult! They have they easiest part but yet they act like their giving up a kidney.

[Shannon79]

Hahaha! This will be my and DH's first IUI. I am medicated (150 Clomid and trigger). I'm on cycle day 7 (last day for Clomid) and should have my scan and IUI next week!... Here's to hoping this month's our month!

[arbuckle17]

We did a bunch of IUI's lost count but I think it was somewhere around 8 or 10.

Nothing like going to work, getting the call, going home to masturbate into a cup with my wife sitting there expectantly, and my boss wondering why every month around the same time I have to leave work unexpectantly for an hour in the morning.

After that going back to work and sitting at your desk as you wait for some random lab to report to your wife on how your swim team is doing like a 3rd grade "how good of a man is he really" report card.

Lets not forget the heartbreak of seeing her teary eyed and in emotional tormoil when it doesn't work.

Yes it is certainly more difficult for the woman from a physical perspective, but don't blame your DH for being apprehensive about the process, it isn't a walk in the park for him either.

[Jrene]

Originally Posted by arbuckle17

We did a bunch of IUI's lost count but I think it was somewhere around 8 or 10.

Nothing like going to work, getting the call, going home to masturbate into a cup with my wife sitting there expectantly, and my boss wondering why every month around the same time I have to leave work unexpectantly for an hour in the morning.

After that going back to work and sitting at your desk as you wait for some random lab to report to your wife on how your swim team is doing like a 3rd grade "how good of a man is he really" report card.

Lets not forget the heartbreak of seeing her teary eyed and in emotional tormoil when it doesn't work.

Yes it is certainly more difficult for the woman from a physical perspective, but don't blame your DH for being apprehensive about the process, it isn't a walk in the park for him either.

Infertility is never easy for either sides. But from my experience with my dh, its been a funny one to say the least. I think men deal with it differently then women. Women are more obsessive then men are. We get babies on the brain and thats all that we can think of. Men not so much. I don't think.

We don't have male factor but I know dh acts like he's giving a kidney sometimes and makes it so much more than it needs to be. He over thinks the process and causes more stress for himself. But we're a team and we're each others support. Thats what its all about.

[Jolene]

My first two IUIs were without meds. I didn't get pregnant. The experience, besides being expensive was pretty easy. The procedure caused a tiny bit of discomfort. My husbands job was probably harder simply because of the discomfort.

[arbuckle17]

I am sorry if I sounded brash, that certainly isn't how I meant it. Just wanted to say there is a lot going on there that he is probably hiding from you.

Don't take your dh's emotions at face value, but then again let him be your support while you need it, despite all of our inherent faults as men this is one thing that we do well.

He will eventually talk to you about how he feels once he is satified that you are able to cope with the tormoil of IF. As your husbands we feel it is our responsability to be your rock when you need it.

[wtnganother1]

Arbuckle-

I really appreciate your post. I am really interested in hearing things from the husband's perspective. You obviously are very involved with the whole thing. The women here, me included, seem to have this incredible yearning for baby that doesn't get satisfied until a baby comes along by some way. It doesn't seem the same all for men....true? DH wanted me to be happy, and was fine with another child, but would have been fine without another one as well.

I couldn't stop thinking about the baby chase for very long, day or night, no matter where or when. It certainly didn't seem that way for DH. I am 34 weeks today and through the "trying to get pregnant" process. Is there anything else you could say to help the women out there to understand the "other side" a little more?

[arbuckle17]

haha ok here goes the book.

Don't get me wrong I would give anything to have a child with my wife. There is a true longing and sinking feeling in my heart when I think that it is probably not going to happen, but I handle my emotions different than my wife does, which is what in turn makes our marriage so strong.

A few things to keep in mind with my wife and I. We had names picked out and had the baby books and I started working on the nursery. At the same time as we started trying we talked about the what if's, including the what if we can't have kids. In this we both agreed the time frame we would try, and when we would go see the docs.

This meant that when we went to see them we had at least put the ground work in that we would. Once we knew the options we decided how far we would go and again when we would move on.

This was the glue that held us together. Emotional as it was to move on, we had both agreed so that is what we did.

I had a plethora of emotions through the experience but my wife wears hers on her sleeve and the grieving process was obviously more difficult for her. It probably hurt me more to know that she was unhappy than to know that we may not have kids because I always knew we would move into adoption as a last resort. I remember praying that the urologist would tell me that the swim team was a problem just to take some of the pressure off of her.

As we moved through IF and the ups and downs and the we think it worked this time I did the best I could to be as positive as possible. She needed that support and that is something I knew I could offer. She needed a rock in the tormoil of emotions and feelings of failure, and that is the role I needed to take up as opposed to letting my emotions control me. She knew that I wanted children and she knew what the plan was so there was no point in letting her be more concerned about how I felt than she already was.

Once we had started the process of moving on I reaffirmed how I felt and my emotions around the topic and she wasn't really supprised.

I still get a little pang of grief when I see a comercial on the tv that refers to giving birth. I still feel jealouse of the couples that are pregnant, but I know whatever feelings I have on the topic are probably twice as painful for her. In the end we are reaching a point of acceptance, perhaps it just isn't our calling in life to have kids of our own. So we will help those in need.

All this sums to one point. Your husband feels emotions on it, but he may not be as open with it as you are. We are wired to hold emotions so we can take that supporter stance and we can put the solid front when it is needed. Let him be your support because that is how he is dealing with his own grief.

[yessyka]

Hi
It's been a while, I'm in my 2WW, actually today I completed my first wk, I have to test next Monday. Anbody on 2WW?