[sallybeeler]

I just want to find out if its just me or does anyone else feel this way...This year I really don't feel like celebrating Mother's Day...After trying for five years, Got pregnant last year...had a miscarriage at 4 months...to make a long story short...just feel bitter about Mother's day...Both my husband and I have our mothers...its nice to celebrate them...I am going to be selfish and say sometimes being with them is a reminder of the absence of grandchildren.

[CHJH]

I say, send your mothers flowers, and take the actual day for yourself. Get a massage or a manicure, take a long walk in your favourite park -- do something for yourself. You deserve it and your mothers will understand.

[slobin]

I feel exactly the same way! Every time I even see something related to Mother's Day I just look away or delete it. It is so depressing to me. I will send my mom a card, but that's it. This is a hard day for all of us.

[J9yinyang]

You know, it's funny, but I don't even associate Mother's Day with myself anymore. I only associate it with my mother. After the first 2 years, I just didn't consider it the same way any more. I guess it's a self-preservation thing.

[Angelwithhope]

I hate Mother's day to be honest! My mom might get a phone call but thats about it!! I don't think I should have to celebrate it if it hurts that much so I won't!!

[30somethingmom]

It's not just you. I also felt sad on Mother's Day and didn't want to celebrate it. It was like a painful reminder that I didn't have children. I was also reminded of the two babies I lost. I felt so left out! So, I certainly understand how you feel.

Did you decide what you'll do that day?

[sallybeeler]

Thank you all so much for the support and the great ideas...I am going to take your advice and call the mothers and wish them and send them flowers...I will spend the day pampering myself...at the spa preferably!

I find myself very angry and sad these days..I went to a school thing for my neice last week and had to contain myself from crying..(just looking at all the kids up on stage singing hit me that I will probably never be looking at a child like all these parents were) My mom doesnt know any of our problems and I cant take the comments "oh but when you have kids" it kills me because she calls our animals her "grandogs and grandcat" I dont want to visit my brother because his wife continually talks about ttc number 2 (they know of our problems and although my brother doesnt discuss it it seems the topic of conversation with the wife) tomorrow i have a communion to go to and hoping I can contain myself because these days I cant seem to.. Anyway ladies, I am so happy I have you all here to vent to...I think Im gonna have some tequilla on mothers day and wake up Monday when its over...(just have to make sure the hubby takes the phone away so I dont drunk and dial) hehehehe

[einstein]

I always felt very sad on M's Day. I used to feel especially bad when we went to my MIL's and my two SIL's would get hugs and gifts from their kids. I felt terrible and so lost.

You might try doing something different on this holiday. My family -- Mom, Dad, my bro, and me -- used to do the Race for the Cure which takes place in Philly on M's Day. My mom is a survivor and she and I did the walk while Dad and my bro did the run. It made me feel that something good was coming out of this day that made me sad -- and also made me appreciate my own mom more because she was alive and healthy again while so many other daughters had lost their moms.

My heart goes out to all of you girls who haven't yet experienced the joy of motherhood. Take heart, IT"s GOING TO HAPPEN. I PROMISE YOU THAT.

[blueyedgrl8101]

I feel the same way. Yesterday at work my boss gave all the mom's cards for mother's day. I am the only one in an office of 22 that is not a mom. She looked at me and said well you are not a mom so I didnt get you one. I am just more sensitive this year. It took all I had not to break down right there. Not the fact that I didnt get a card but what she said.
My mother in law will be coming over for dinner and I will call my mom tomorrow.

[slobin]

I'm bummed about Mother's Day and today at work everybody kept asking what I was doing for Mother's Day. It sucks! The only good thing is that I've been super busy- we got a puppy 1 week ago and he is soooo cute I've been pre-occupied with him, so it's been a good distraction. But tomorrow (the day) will be pretty tough.

[karm]

Mother's day really hasnt bothered me until this one. I always thought of the day as for my mother. But now I'm not even wanting to do anything. I'm just lost in that I'm not a mom and if I didnt miscarry last year I would have been a mom. Looking forward to Monday.

Slobin, congrats on the new puppy! I do have to say having my Zoey (Maltese) helps me through those days you just need unconditional love.

Hi Ladies,
Well its almost 5 O'Clock and made it throught today, Im going out for lunch tomorrow with Mom and lounged in my PJ's all day! Mom says today "Well happy mothers day, your a mom too..to the animals" (her heart would break if I told her the truth..but really am tired of the comments, but I bite my tounge)...anywho Slobin, what kind of pup did you get? I have two labs.. the younger one is just starting to calm down now (thankfully..as I have very few shoes left..hahahaha)

[slobin]

I got a cute little mutt named Nico. He's just under 1 yr. old, white, about 10 lbs. Chihuahua something (Jack Russell and or Daschund) mix. He's incredibly sweet and affectionate. Took him to the little dog park today and he ran around like crazy. It made me happy because there were no kids/babies or pg women! It's like the baby/kid park only dogs! Anyway, he's a good distraction and makes me happy. How long have you had your dogs?

Does having dogs help a bit with your baby blues?

Originally Posted by slobin

I got a cute little mutt named Nico. He's just under 1 yr. old, white, about 10 lbs. Chihuahua something (Jack Russell and or Daschund) mix. He's incredibly sweet and affectionate. Took him to the little dog park today and he ran around like crazy. It made me happy because there were no kids/babies or pg women! It's like the baby/kid park only dogs! Anyway, he's a good distraction and makes me happy. How long have you had your dogs?

Does having dogs help a bit with your baby blues?

He sounds cute! My dogs are 3 & 4 and they are great..one barks a little bit more frequent but there is nothing better when your down and they come up to snuggle..they sense it almost..so yes it does help and they dont talk back or say stupid things