[30somethingmom]

When we were having difficulty conceiving and throughout our long adoption process, my husband has been the one person who has stood by me and supported me no matter how frustrating things got. I am so grateful for that and feel that I couldn't have gotten through all of this without him.

My sister-in-law was just the opposite, she always disagreed with every decision we made and was always telling us we should do the most ridiculous things. Once she suggested we attempt another pregnancy without treatment and just hope it works out! This was even after she knew our problems and that I would likely miscarry again without treatment. After she told me that, I said that if she had miscarried twice and knew how painful and heartbreaking it was, then she would never suggest we do that.

How about you? Throughout your infertility struggles, who has been the most supportive person in your life? Who has been the least supportive?

[AveryL]

My husband was/is definitely the most supportive person for me and I think I can say I am his greatest support as well. Fortunately I have an ultra supportive family as well (i know that is a huge blessing). Also my two best friends were absolutely fabulous and never talked about IF stuff unless I did then really wanted to learn about it not just question every little thing. My mother in law was probably the least supportive mostly just through ingorance, she'd call me up every other day and ask if I'd gotten my period yet, she was trying I know but it was really bad. When I didn't get pregnant she was always a little too disappointed and I had to comfort her!!!

[Tanya324]

My Husband I think is the most supportive but of course he is dealing with this as well in different ways then me (he's not such a emotional mess he picks me up when I fall down) but this is very hard for him I like to think I am the most supportive to him but most of the time it is him.....you guys and my sister are also helpful. My MIL is the worst or well his family as a whole is the worst because they don't ever say anything if I bring up anything about this hell we have been dealing with they just act like I said nothing at all and it makes me want to scream because I live 45mins away from my family and his family is just down the road I could use some support from them

[J9yinyang]

Well, my husband tries to be supportive, but he isn't very good at holding me together. I've found that some of the women on here are the best cheerleaders and support group a girl could have. If it weren't for this forum, I don't know if I could have lasted this long (thanks, ladies!!).

My family, for the most part, likes to make all of the comments about how maybe I shouldn't have children, maybe there's a reason I can't, I should just adopt, then I'll get pregnant, etc. And my husband's family hates me, so I didn't even want to tell them. He recently was kind of forced to tell them, though, because his youngest sister is pregnant, and his parents are wondering why he's not giving them their first grandchild. They're not sympathetic or anything, but since I don't talk to them personally, at least I don't have to hear any negative comments.

My friends started out badly, giving all the cliched responses (you don't want kids, anyway - hey, you want kids, take mine! - relax, you're trying too hard- etc.), but now my closest friend is trying really hard to be gentle with my feelings and take care of me. It's kind of nice. But she still can't relate like you all can.