[StickyDust4Me]

I can't believe that it's been a year. I am so sad, I never wanted to be this far. I always thought ok, we won't use protection, I'll get pregnant we will all live happily ever after. Grrrrrrrrrr!!!!!! Birth control was clearly a wasted effort. I just want a family. I want to watch my belly grow, see the US's and know that I have been blessed. Yet, I never make it past the finding out point, and I am always dissapointed. I want a sticky baby, Please God Please. I can't believe I am 21 and starting fertility treatments, and all tests are good, so what's up with me. I just cry sometimes for no reason and I can't understand why it's this hard for me, and people who have been trying for much longer, yet really want a baby. I just had to vent a little, this is killing me and my DH and I am just hopeing for a fathers day miracle, since Af graced me with her presence on Mother's day.

[AveryL]

Stephanie You have found a great place to vent so just go for it honey. Are you seeing a fertility specialist or just your regular Gyno? Most peole would encourage you to see a Reproductive Endocronologist. They are way more thourough than a regular gyno and look harder at your and your husbands issues. Good luck honey stay focused and stay on the board it really makes the whole thing much easier to bear.

[StickyDust4Me]

We are just starting to see an RE. I live in Tennessee, and I seem to be having a hard time finding one I like that want to take a 21 year old seriously about getting pregnant. My last OB told me I just wanted to get knocked up so my boyfriend would marry me, I was so pissed. I point blank told him you are a ****, I am already married, and my mom could only have me, she had fertility problem after me, and was never able to get pregnant agian. I grabed my stuff and walked right out. I mean no one has the right to assume stuff like that. Men ob's can be such pricks

[slobin]

Stepahnie,

I too have had 2 miscarriages and have been ttc for 2 1/2 years so I know your heartache. Unfortunately I am almost 38. The fact that you're young should not give an RE a reason to disrespect you and not take you seriously. You did the right thing by leaving and I hope you find a good one, have a thorough workup and find some answers!

Have you had any testing done yet?

Slobin

[hopefulx2]

Hi Stephanie,

I feel sorry for you to go through this at only 21. Take your time finding the right doctor, I too find women doc to have better beside manners, my current RE is rather impersonal, but I'm already committed so I have no choice but to go forward and I too had a male Ob/Gyn say to me "You can take my kids" when we were discussing my IF. Anyway, best of luck in finding the doc, male or female who will help you and your husband get that baby.

[30somethingmom]

Hi Stephanie,
I never wanted to be here either. I have had 2 miscarriages also and know the pain and sadness that causes. It is definitely a tough road when you are trying to conceive without success. I agree you've come to a great place for support. There are so many women here who know and understand what you are going through. I always find that talking to others helps. I also sought therapy after my first miscarriage to deal with my grief and anxiety. It really helped me a lot, although I was hesistant to try it at first.

Have you talked to a therapist about how you're feeling? Has your doctor given you any insight into why you've miscarried?

I wish you the best of luck and hope you become a mom very soon!

Take care,