[Tanya324]

Hey guys I was wondering to the people who have gone throught this and come out as moms through adoption or have had a baby I was wondering dose this part of you go away I was watching Dr Phil the other day and he was talking to girl who had a eating disorder that she had overcome and she was slipping back to it and he said something like she was not the eating disorder and it made me think and I said to my dh that I worry that this sadness will never go away that I don't know because I have felt this way for what seems like so long...and he said what that after we have a baby you wont be happy and I said well of course I will be happy but this feeling right now knowing how long it took will this just one day be lifted and I will feel like normal person again and not have the looks of we feel sorry for you from people dose it all just go away?

[hopefulx2]

For me the sad feelings did not disappear overnight after I became pg from IVF, because my IF was a nearly 5 year journey, so it takes time for the despair and feelings of helplessness to subside, it may take months or longer or you may find that once the baby is in your arms, those unhappy feelings vanish immediately. For me, my despair never completely vanished because I began ttc almost immed after giving birth because of my age and I always wanted a larger family.
I felt that if I took a break, the momentum would be lost, so I jumped right back in which kept my anxiety level high

[mittons]

I will be a mom in about 5 months and I can already say that yes this baby will make me happy.

But I already do know that I will be trying again. I will be going through the same issues and problems again. I know it will be tough but if I do not become pregnant again will I be 150% happy?? I guess I will just have to wait and see. I do know one thing for certain. If me ttc again effects my parenting skills and brings me into a funk that I can not seem to pull out of. This baby will be my last. He is more important and will come before needs of my own.

[30somethingmom]

After we adopted our daughter, I realized I had been sad and depressed for several years. I had just gotten used to feeling that way all the time. It was like my normal state or something! When our daughter was born, I had an incredible sense of joy that I had not felt in some time. At the same time, I was also sad for her birth parents and what they must be going through to let go of their child.

Other than the sadness I felt for them, I have not been sad or depressed hardly at all since our daughter came home. It is so weird, but I am really truly happy for the first time in a long time. I was telling my husband recently that it is amazing how I spent years being depressed and now I've only felt down maybe 2 or 3 days total in 4 months!

For me, the sadness and depression are gone. And they have been replaced by gratitude, joy and love. I wish the same for you!

Does anyone else feel this way?