[angsea]

Originally Posted by AliH

Hi Everyone:
I have never wrote on a forum, but this 2WW is so long, a buddy to talk to about it would be great

I have a beautiful 4 yr old daughter, and we have been trying to conceive for 3 years (one MC 1.5 yrs ag0). Our infertility has been totally unexplained...husband's sperm count and motility is great, I have a Lap and HSG to make sure everything is working OK, and ultrasounds show I ovulate.
So....we decided to finally give IUI a try even though insurance does not cover it.
We had the IUI done June 17 and at the time of the IUI we had 8, yes 8!, mature follicles. Husbands sperm motility was good and IUI went great. We had a trigger shot 36 hrs before the IUI.
Went in for ultrasound and blood test 6 days after, and progesterone levels were 176, and ultrasound showed 3 Corpeus luteum and the nurse said everything was great.
So now I wait.....I want to test like right now, but if I get a positive...I will wonder if it is still the hormones...negative...I will wonder if I tested too early. They said I could test on the 29th, so prayers are appreciated
Thanks for reading/listening,
Ali

You've come to the right place Ali. Talking to all these girls is sometimes the only thing that keeps me sane and strong enough to keep trying.

It sounds like you have a real chance of getting pregnant this month. How exciting!

It must be frustrating not to have an answer. I'm not sure what I would do if the doctor couldn't tell me what was wrong. I will say a prayer for you.

Baby Dust

To everyone else, thank you so much for your support and prayers. I'm thinking of you all the time and always trying to send each of you a special blessing. I hope we get lots and lots and LOTS of this month. In fact I hope every single one of us does. How cool would that be?

- Angel

[mrshonly1]

AliH! I'm new here too as of yesterday.

AliH. I agree with Angel. Not knowing is definitely another stressor. Until I met the RE, I had no answers. They wanted to blame my crazy cycles on my weight, but even when I was younger and much smaller, I had crazy cycles. It sounds like your RE is on top of things. Until my current RE, no one wanted to the do the leg work necessary to figure it out my problem. I think unknowns are worse than knowns. With knowns you know what you are dealing with.

I know the miscarriage rate is 25%, but given that my chromosomal testing came back normal, it’s UNKNOWN why I miscarried a second time with obvious chromosomal issues. The human body is a miraculous thing. It’s a blessing they have it figured out enough to help women like us, that’s for certain. Can you imagine if we were alive back in the earlier 1900s? We would just be considered barren and have to suffer. Thank God for medical advancements!

Tiffany- thanks! J I appreciate you not being sick of my ranting! LOL

You know what else is tough…someone brought this up in another thread…I swear everyone woman I know is pregnant! One friend that I’ve known forever, who said she and her husband didn’t want children so they weren’t going to have any, got pg with a son a few years ago and is now pg with twin girls! My roommate from college is due in October…which is two months after I should have had my first if we hadn’t miscarried and a co-worker of mine I just did her baby shower and she’s due a month and a half before I was due. Every time I see her and her growing belly it reminds me….I tell my husband that as painful as it is, I have to be there for them. They’re my friends and I love them…I just wish it wasn’t such a painful reminder.

Timing- I haven’t heard of a triphasic chart. What is that?

Have a great evening all. Headed home.

[timing]

Triphasic chart

"A triphasic chart shows three levels of temperatures: pre-ovulation, post-ovulation, and then a second rise around 7-10 days after ovulation. "
"A triphasic chart can be promising, however, because progesterone levels generally increase after implantation (7-10 days past ovulation) in conception cycles, and sometimes this results in a triphasic pattern."

"A triphasic chart, however, is not a definite sign that you are or are not pregnant. It is just increasing your probability if you also have well-timed intercourse. Likewise, you can be pregnant and not have a triphasic pattern. Like all signs of possible implantation or pregnancy, you can really only speculate about it once a pregnancy has already been confirmed."

All in all, triphasic chart doesn't do a whole lot predicting pg or not. The 2ww drives me crazy, so I'm searching for any tiny symptoms that might indicate I'm pg. My DH laughs at me everytime I bring up something I feel, or rolls up his eyes. He even thinks I should not even do OPT unless AF is at least one week late! Like I can wait that long!
When I told him about this thread, and so many other women I've never met in person share the same feelings, and we pray for each other, encourage each other. He is moved, but also thinks we are definitely from a different planet.

Lots of baby dust to everyone!!!

[Heatherly]

I am really sad right now as I really do not think I am pregnant. I think the "symptoms" I am/was feeling are just from the hcg trigger. I am just so much more disappointed at the idea of a BFN this time. Sorry, being a bit emo right now and pessimistic. This just sucks.

The reality of never being able to give my sweet son a sibling is breaking me apart right now. I am so very thankful for him. This is not how its supposed to be.

[~Nicky~]

Heather - don't give up! I know it is hard but it will happen and I that day will be very soon. Don't give up hope yet.

[angsea]

Originally Posted by Heatherly

I am really sad right now as I really do not think I am pregnant. I think the "symptoms" I am/was feeling are just from the hcg trigger. I am just so much more disappointed at the idea of a BFN this time. Sorry, being a bit emo right now and pessimistic. This just sucks.

The reality of never being able to give my sweet son a sibling is breaking me apart right now. I am so very thankful for him. This is not how its supposed to be.

Heatherly, The second half of the 2ww is always the hardest, remember that. We're all hopeful during the first week but when the second week rolls around, everyone turns into mothers of sorrow, all negativity. This is a defense mechanism to prepare ourselves for disappointment. What you're feeling is normal.

The truth is, there just aren't any real symptoms during the first two weeks, and most pregnancy tests just can't give you an accurate answer this early.

My advice is to quit taking pregnancy tests! It's too soon and of course you're going to get a BFN. You're only stressing yourself out by doing that and stress can actually impede implantation. Wait until 12-13dpiui and then try. Until then, just keep reminding yourself that you have every reason to hope. There's no point in getting all sad now, you'll have plenty of that coming your way when/if you get a BFN.

I'll be praying for your .

God Bless,

- Angel

[athena3]

Hi ladies,

Heatherly- never give up hope, AF isn't here yet!

I agree with everyone on the 2nd week of 2WW is the most emotional. Let the countdown begin

AFM- 7dpiui.......I had my meeting with the genetic nurse yesterday to prepare for IVF. She just charted our family history and looked for any signs of specific tests we should have. Everything went pretty smooth. Today we will be meeting with the Dr. to discuss all the details. I am totally prepared to go the DE route if need be. I just want a healthy baby it doesn't have to be from my genes.

I can't wait until the trigger is gone because the cramping, hot flashes, and crazy dreams are ridiculous

I have to go to a Kenny Chesney concert tomorrow. I really don't want to go because I just feel bloated and I don't feel like being around people who are drunk and stupid.

Good luck to all of you! Relax this weekend, next week is going to be rough

[Heatherly]

Thank you for your kind thoughts. You all are right, this is the hardest week. I really appreciate all of your understanding. I did NOT test this morning and plan on enjoying a playdate with some very good girlfriends.

for everyone!!!!!

[bistro]

OMG, so many posts . . . I cannot keep up! My computer is so slow at home and I can't really go on at work . . .

I took THE DAY OFF today! I am having anxiety about this 2WW - probably because it's the first IUI. I hate when people tell me I need to relax . . . but I really do need to relax, so I am taking ME time!!!

So . . .I wanted to take this opportunity to wish you ALL !!! There are so many individual stories in this thread, some longer and more heartbreaking than others, but we all have one thing in common and that is that we want that within the next week or so!!!!!

FOR US ALL!

[bistro]

Heather and all,

I too, have a that problem with POAS early and often, but I recently got some advice and a GOOD REASON for that advice that I am going to take this month (hopefully...).

The advice was . . . wait for the beta. Don't test early. You know that false negatives are more than possible because it's so early. With UE infertility especially, your system could be so delicate that just the disappointment of that BFP could affect the fertilized eggs ability to stick.

I know it is way easier said than done, but I like it. It makes sense to me.

GOOD LUCK

[Tippy]

This might sound totally stupid, but during this 2ww, I've tried to find something to occupy my mind, instead of thinking about testing...

So, I've decided to try and figure out how to use coupons!! It's a great skill to learn, to not only save money, but to build a food storage. I also figured, I need to learn before the kids come so that I can be saving items up for them (ie, diapers, wipes, etc.).

Anyways, just an idea. If you already know how to save big time with coupons, maybe think of something else you can learn that would be a good skill for when that does come! Not only will it help you keep your mind off of the 2ww, but you'll then have a new skill to bring to your family!

If you do want to start learning about coupons, here are the places I started:

Pinching Your Pennies Home
Frugal Chic Living

I already went shopping yesterday and for a normal grocery bill of $28, I only spent $5!!

[WorldsGreatestAunt]

Just wanted to pop in and wish all of you ladies goodluck this month and send lots of your way. It took me 7 sets of IUI's to get to the point where I am today so never give up hope!

[Kris79]

Tippy - Sounds like you have the coupon thing figured out! We started using coupons this year and have been happy to save $15 or so on our weekly groceries. It's fun to save money!

Bistro - Good for you taking some relaxation time...I hate hearing I need to relax too. We sure know we need to and it's so annoying when people who aren't experiencing IF tell us we need to! They have no idea what this is like!

Heatherly - Enjoy your playdate today! I hope it takes your mind off of things. Way to go resisting the pee stick today

Athena - I hope you won't have to deal with IVF, but it's great that you are getting a head start on it, if it's needed. I hope you can have fun tomorrow, in spite of everything.

Mrshonly - I hear you on everyone being pregnant!! I know two women (one being my SIL) who had their 4th children this year! It's not that I think they shouldn't have babies, but why do they get so many and I get none?? I think one of the hardest things about this is missing out on what would be happy moments when our friends and loved ones get pregnant/have babies. I keep thinking that my niece's birth will always be clouded by my sadness over not having my own. I think it's important, like you say, to still be there for them to share in their joy because we certainly will want them to be there when we finally get our little miracles...it just stinks that it has to hurt, when we'd rather just be happy for them.

AliH - Your progesterone results are amazing...sounds like you have a good chance this month! Sending you lots of sticky vibes!!

WGA - Thanks for the encouragment! I definitely need it as I never thought it would take this many IUIs to get pregnant! Best of luck to you/DH and your babies!!

Happy Friday to everyone! Good luck to all of you in the second half of the 2ww...like many have said, that's when the stress really kicks in. I'm still dragging behind everyone at 4dpIUI so I'm still feeling hopeful, but I'm trying not to think how I'll feel next week. I just don't want a BFN to ruin my vacation. It would be so much better to have a BFP make for a great vacation! Prayers and hugs to all of you!

[tiredofwaiting18]

It seems like most of us are in our second half of the 2ww. At least its getting closer! We all need to hang in there. I am standing firm in my decision to not test early. I am just waiting for my blood work at RE office next thursday.

I had blood work done today to check hormone levels. My progesterone was a 34 (which I think is pretty good?) and they said that my estradiol levels were elevated and that its all good news there. So now I am getting more hopeful. Which is good and bad. I don't want disappointment this month! I will just have to wait and see. The only thing that worries me is I have a mild pain in my lower left abdomen. It's like a pinching pain. Not cramping, more of a slight stabbing. It's not very bad at all and it seems to have just started. Not sure if I should call RE or if its no big deal. Anyone have any thoughts?

[Tippy]

tiredofwaiting - I'm glad your numbers all look good!! Yeah, I'm also going to try and be good and just wait until my blood test on July 1. I just don't want to buy a stupid HPT, theyr'e so expensive! Also, as far as the pain goes, I've had that same pain. Like it's a sharp pain that comes and goes, but not painful enough for me to cringe, just uncomfortable. I'm not worried about it in the least. Things are hopefully just working themselves out down there