[denverbaby]

Hi all - I've read through numerous threads, and find all your posts very comforting, reminds me that I'm not alone. You all are such a great source for each other!

We've been TTC for well over a year, had 2 failed IUIs. RE tells me nothing is wrong with me, all tubes clear, sepate uterus taken care of, all bloodwork good, etc. etc. DH workup all ok too. Why do I feel like my RE is just pushing me to IVF? He's had NO contact with me through the 2 IUIs, I've only dealt with his nurses. I immediately called today and have an appointment Monday morning to discuss all. I don't see why I can't conceive through an IUI, just don't know why it won't work. The IVF drugs really scare me. How many IUIs before IVF? Am I wasting my time with IUIs? Is there something else going on?

The hardest part of all is feeling like a failure to my DH. He's fantastic and comforts me, but I have so many emotions running through my head. I feel very isolated with this issue as I haven't told hardly anyone about the problems we're having, nobody in our families, just a couple close friends. I feel embarrassed, and just don't want to deal or talk about it.

Just wanted to vent and wish only the best to everyone on this site. You all deserve it!

[charlie'smom]

Originally Posted by denverbaby

Hi all - I've read through numerous threads, and find all your posts very comforting, reminds me that I'm not alone. You all are such a great source for each other!

We've been TTC for well over a year, had 2 failed IUIs. RE tells me nothing is wrong with me, all tubes clear, sepate uterus taken care of, all bloodwork good, etc. etc. DH workup all ok too. Why do I feel like my RE is just pushing me to IVF? He's had NO contact with me through the 2 IUIs, I've only dealt with his nurses. I immediately called today and have an appointment Monday morning to discuss all. I don't see why I can't conceive through an IUI, just don't know why it won't work. The IVF drugs really scare me. How many IUIs before IVF? Am I wasting my time with IUIs? Is there something else going on?

The hardest part of all is feeling like a failure to my DH. He's fantastic and comforts me, but I have so many emotions running through my head. I feel very isolated with this issue as I haven't told hardly anyone about the problems we're having, nobody in our families, just a couple close friends. I feel embarrassed, and just don't want to deal or talk about it.

Just wanted to vent and wish only the best to everyone on this site. You all deserve it!

Denver I completely understand your frustration..especially about feeling like a failure to your DH. I feel the same way, especially after I miscarried. What I keep telling myself is that the best things come to those who wait...and I know I will be more grateful for my little miracle than anyone who hasn't had difficulties conceiving.

As far as wasting time with IUI's, everyone's threshold is different. For me, it seemed logical that if after 3 IUI's I wasn't pregnant, then it was time to go to IVF. For people whose insurance doesn't cover IVF, they tend to have more IUI's, which is understandable. But seeing as my insurance covers it, we have decided (and discussed with the doctor), that three is the magic number, and then it would be time to move on to something more aggressive. But it is a personal decision for everyone.

Don't give up hope, we are all rooting for you!!!! Best of Luck!!!

[bistro]

Oh sweetie don't give up!! We are all in the same boat. I'm really glad you've found these forums. They have been very comforting to me as well.

I am on my 4th IUI cycle and if this doesn't work, I WILL be going to IVF. I am applying for a grant and I signed up for an injections class and everything. It used to scare me too. Scared me even after I went to the RE to learn about it in more detail right after #3 failed. But then I did A LOT of research and I lurked on these IVF boards here and now I'm really excited!! I mean, I hope I don't have to do it of course, but if I do, I'm at peace with it. The success rates are soooo much better than with IUI!!!

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!