[waitingtoconceive]

I met my husband 6 years ago and we started trying to have a child about 4 months after we met. We have been married for 5 years no with no luck. Finally we decided it was time to look for help to see what the problem was. I got hormone levels tested, they made sure i ovulated, even got the dreded dye in the tubes (hurt like CRAP). i was fine no problems what so ever. So then it was my husbands turn. He went did his thing then i had to wait 3weeks to find out what the results were. Well not so good.. he has a very low sperm count and mobility is slow. my doctor said he had 1% good sperm.. i lost it right there in the office.. all weve ever wanted is a family and now reality is setting in that it may not happen.. so we decide to try an iui i took the clomid days 3-7 went in to the office on 12 got the ultra sound and found 8 folicles.. so then on day 14 we go in for the insemination.. after the sperm had been washed there was hardly anything.. ive tried to stay possitive.. it only takes one right? so now im about 3 day away from when i should be getting my period and have all the signs for it and the 5 pregnancy test ive taken all say no.. i hate this.. and i know it really upsets my husband.. sometimes i think he wants a child more then i do.. he has also told me no donor sperm and no adoption.. i love my husband more then life itself and would never leave him.. i just hope that if we keep trying with the iui's eventually it will happen.. cant afforf ivf.. i just dont know what ill do if im not able to one day become a mother...

[Erin586]

Dear waiting to concieve: i have read some of your history and can relate some of your experiences to mine. after about 8 months without success,(i had 4 injectible cycles BFN) i really had to break down....to make matters worse, i saw a new RE and she noticed some concerns with my DH morphology and low motility. we are currently working with a urologist who specializes in fertility. he has take blood, my DH had a scrotal u/s, and he has to give another semen analysis this week. once all results are in then we will see....i don't want to put myself through another injectible cycle if we are just chasing our tails...so if the results indicate that with DH;s sperm issues, ivf would make the most sense then i will give it a try. i just want to know that i did all that i can in the end of this.

sorry that was all about me...but back to you lol. Seriously, these confusions and ambiguous diagnosis make everything more confusing and scary. hang in there, you get it sorted out...and it sounds like you adn your husband can benefit from hime expressing his fears or thoughts about donor sperm or adoption. and the two of you can learn more about eachothers fears and insecurites this way. if my DH is so severe and ivf fails then i am going to consider donar sperm adn talk about it with him. i know that sometimes letting go of the grief of not having your own biological children is part of the process, learning what that grief means to him and to you...i sometimes worry that if we did donor sperm would my husband feel left out in the sense that he wouldn't look like his father etc...just things i think of. but it is about finding a sensitive way to approach the subject thus developing a deepening understanding of where eachother comes from and then helping eachother with those fears.

[Lauralillies529]

Originally Posted by waitingtoconceive

I met my husband 6 years ago and we started trying to have a child about 4 months after we met. We have been married for 5 years no with no luck. Finally we decided it was time to look for help to see what the problem was. I got hormone levels tested, they made sure i ovulated, even got the dreded dye in the tubes (hurt like CRAP). i was fine no problems what so ever. So then it was my husbands turn. He went did his thing then i had to wait 3weeks to find out what the results were. Well not so good.. he has a very low sperm count and mobility is slow. my doctor said he had 1% good sperm.. i lost it right there in the office.. all weve ever wanted is a family and now reality is setting in that it may not happen.. so we decide to try an iui i took the clomid days 3-7 went in to the office on 12 got the ultra sound and found 8 folicles.. so then on day 14 we go in for the insemination.. after the sperm had been washed there was hardly anything.. ive tried to stay possitive.. it only takes one right? so now im about 3 day away from when i should be getting my period and have all the signs for it and the 5 pregnancy test ive taken all say no.. i hate this.. and i know it really upsets my husband.. sometimes i think he wants a child more then i do.. he has also told me no donor sperm and no adoption.. i love my husband more then life itself and would never leave him.. i just hope that if we keep trying with the iui's eventually it will happen.. cant afforf ivf.. i just dont know what ill do if im not able to one day become a mother...

Im right there with you. DH count is VERY low. Are you guys seeing an RE?? Has he seen a urologist?? What insurance do you have?? We have Cigna and IF tx arent covered on the plan we have now but are covered on a diff plan. So this fall were switching to take effect 2010. There are a lot of options out there. Also multiple IUIs may cost what 1 IVF does and you may have a better chance doing that instead of like 5-6 IUIs.