[henstergirl]

Hi my name is Kat... I'm actually posting because, well here's a little history about me.
My husband and I are married for the 2nd time. In his first marriage, he discovered after the first few years that they could not get pregnant. He does not remember exactly what the name was, but he was on experimental fertility drugs through his doctor, nothing.
Me: I simply have not been pregnant yet. From my physicals, obgyn appointments, I appear to be normal. All the women in my family are fertile myrtles. My ex did not want children, and so well... another long story.
My husband and I now, have been together for about 2 &1/2 years on NO birth control of any form, and no pregnancy. He's been told that he has a low count. He's at a 50% with a 20 % mobility and even with that, it cuts it down even half lower.
I don't know where to begin. Cause part of me is hoping for hope, advice and the other to maybe just talk about it.
Coming from an abusive (more so verbally than anything) and having met my wonderful husband who treats me like a queen, respects me and LIKES me for who I am, and even at my weight, and being a christian and KNOWING the miracles that God CAN do, I yes, willfully went into this relationship for better or for worse.
It is hard though, cause more than like 3 people who I know personally, have become pregnant in my life, and when you're where we're at, you feel like it's a conspiracy against you. Lol
We want to adopt, but previous marriages have left our credits in well, not the GREATEST condition that the economy TODAY would demand or want to consider you for loans.
Then there's the whole waiting to save. We're 34 and it would take us 7 years to save up like 30 grand, THEN be put on a waiting list to adopt, cause after all..... it's not like we married at 22 years of age, discovered this problem, had time to deal with it and then save up.
I just want to know...... is there ANY hope or chance of conception when a man has such low infertility. We keep hoping and praying . People at church make it sound so easy like "it's in God's hands Kat. Trust in Him and He will make it happen for you. You just have to believe. In HIS time.
Epsecially cause there's this couple who had miscarriages for like 13 years, and then it just HAPPENED. Now, everyone I know is pregnant and even pregnant women who have babies yet in their arms! I don't know if I believe weight or even age can be an issue. Because I know of at least 2 women who are like 380 pounds and were 38 years old when they had their first. I don't even weigh that much.
Just some advice or encouragement would be great. Oh, and I should mention that this one girl at church said she miscarried 3 times and then got pregnant on Ovulex.. Now if you go to their site, it's called Fertility Blend. They have it for men and women. I was considering it, being it's herbal and I'm desperate. When you're where we're at, WHAT do you have to lose.......