well I just found out that I can't have kids and my husbands sperm is to low also We wanted a child and I have tried everything in the world my brother and his wife are having one in may they have only been married year and found out she was pregent. So I hope one day I can have one if not at least be able to adopt but the thing is I am not rich I get by we pay the bills and stuff but still I don't have the money like a lot of people do to put in to adoption I wish I did. is there anybody out there that can help me somehow in what to do now???

I have 17 nieces and nephews and lots of friends who have children and I want to be happy for them but it just reminds me of what I can't have.

I want to encourage you that you don't have to be wealthy to adopt. There are so many avenues, and many are affordable such as Catholic Social Services, Lutheran Family Services, attorney-facilitated, or foster-to-adopt. We were in school full-time when we were diagnosed with infertility. We applied with CSS and it took about a year, but God gave us a beautiful 3-month old baby girl and the adoption cost about $6500, which they were willing for us to pay on a payment plan. I disagree with the exorbitant costs of adoption through some agencies, especially those that require thousands of dollars upfront. But I also know that the minute you hold your child in your arms, the cost fades into oblivion and you know he or she is worth every penny. A friend once told me that you would spend as much or more for a new car that will have to be replaced in a few short years, when that child will be yours forever (no replacements!). There will be tears and heartaches along the way, but if you have the desire for a child pursue it with all your heart and one day you will hold that precious gift in your arms. God bless you in your journey!

I just started the process w/ CSS and was told it would take aboout 3 yrs to get a baby, although it may take longer than other adoption agencies, it is alot cheaper...when all said and done its about $6500-7000 so if you can't afford a $45,000 !!agency, try CSS

What is css and how do i contact them? Best news i have heard for a long time
Thanks

[macandyvonne]

CSS=Catholic Social Services?? At least in Michigan that is what CSS is. At one point I was looking to adopt domestically and the cost was much less than an "agency" plus some friends adopted two children. CSS will correct you early on if you refer to them as an adoption agency though... what was it they said??? Maybe it was family placement service. Something like that... anyways... it seemed to be completely different than the adoption agencies I looked at. We are in Michigan... last summer the coordinator said it would take very little time because they had less couples than birthmoms. CSS attempts to match families as well as help the birthmom with choosing a family. If I am on the right track... this may help you...

[slobin]

To Sweetlady,

I'm so sorry about this! Do you know exactly why you were told you "could never have kids?" I worry that people are told this sometimes without good reason and they give up. Be sure to be proactive find out EXACTLY what your issues are, research them a lot before accepting that determination. Also men with NO sperm in semen can father a child- they extract sperm from the testicle and fertilize an egg by injecting a single sperm into egg (ICSI with IVF). Some poeple get grants and receive free IVF. Please be sure what they are telling you is the absolute truth rather than "it may very diffiuclt and require intervention for you to have a biological baby". This may actually be the truth. Unless you are missing a uterus, produce no eggs what they are telling you may not be the case.

[Angelwithhope]

We were told to never expect to have a bio child because my DH's sperm count was so low!! Right now I would love to laugh in that doctors face because his count is now at 15 million!! So yes, I think a second opinion could be in order!! Good luck!! take care!!