I am probally 50-60 lbs overweight and my dr had told me that he wanted me to lose 30lbs because he didn't want me to gain any more than 30lbs when I became PG. My husband on the other hand the dr was really rude to him stating that he wasn't even going to talk to him because he was so over weight and that he would probally be dead by the time the kid was 10 anyway.....Overweight or not that was a horrible thing to say.

[J9yinyang]

Hopeful,

Yeah, that WAS a horrible thing to say. I'm 5'2" and weigh 315 lbs. I've heard some of the worst things I thought a doctor could say. I was told by a neurosurgeon that he wouldn't even CONSIDER fixing the deteriorated disc in my lower back until I lost 50 lbs., and that I was disgusting and should be ashamed of myself for "letting" myself get this way. I was told by my vet that my dog was overweight, so I should take her out walking, because it looked like BOTH of us could use the exercise (turns out BOTH of us had thyroid problems, also, and BOTH of us had to start taking thyroid replacement). I've had, to date, 5 doctors refuse to treat me because of my weight (2 of whom were reproductive endocrinologists), and several others that refused to believe me about my diet and my contention that I had some sort of thyroid problem (I've been telling doctors that I thought something was wrong with my thyroid since I was a teenager. I'm now 35. It took testing my thyroid hormones when I tried to get pregnant before anyone believe me enough to test. Then the first endo refused to treat me.)

But, with all of that crap, I've never had someone be so rude as to attack my HUSBAND because he's also overweight. What a jerk! I'd call the AMA and lodge a complaint! Not that they'll necessarily do anything, but I'm sure you're not the only one who has had problems with him.

Doctors like that make me so ANGRY!! Like they're perfectly healthy, and that's their JOB! Heck, most of them smoke and eat fatty foods and have too much stress, and they supposedly KNOW what that does to you, yet do it anyway. What hypocrites.

And I shake my head at them when they say that I'm going to die of a heart attack before I'm 40. My grandmother had untreated high cholesterol her whole life, and had a stroke... but at 78, not in her 40s. And she's been as overweight as I am, too. It's now been 10 years since her stroke, and she's still alive, making problems for everyone. So I just take it for what it is. The doctors are just trying to scare you into good behavior, as if you don't know how bad excess weight is for you. The way I look at it, if they'd dealt with my thyroid issues when I was 17, I wouldn't be this big now, and I might have had an easier life. So all of them can kiss my big, flabby, disgusting, cellulite-filled, lily-white backside!

our doctor advised me to lose weight, saying it could help, but didn't refrain from going ahead and offering treatment.

We stopped taking Clomid after just a few months, and decided to adopt our first child.

Now I have been trying to get healthy in preperation for being a mom, and I have lost about 15 pounds (very slowly, haven't started exercising yet) through a popular weight-loss program.

I have managed to get pregnant (surprise!), although it seems like it will end in early miscarriage, but I did want to say I did not realize that little bit of weight loss might kick my ovulation back in...!

But I have to say, when you are starting fertility treatments, and you are all anxious and depressed (plus hormones can make you gain weight anyway, right?) I can't think of a worse time to be advised to lose weight! Like I hadn't been trying before you told me that, doc!

D.

[J9yinyang]

Just wanted to mention I have no problem ovulating, so weight loss wouldn't help that, anyway.

Why do you imagine this pregnancy will end in miscarriage?

J9yinyang,

Well, my other two pregnancies ended in miscarriage, and this current pregnancy (only a few weeks so far) had bleeding in the first or second week (I have spent over a week going to my general practitioner and she already thought I had an early miscarriage, although we haven't yet completed the comparison HCG reading). Also, I know I have one blocked tube, and that makes me wonder if I will be more likely to have an ectopic pregnancy. So all week I have been back and forth between being elated and then being sad and resigned to not "hoping" for anything.

I HOPE we will find out more tomorrow when I visit with the OB/GYN.

I am hoping some more hormone readings can reveal whether my hormone levels are on track for a successful pregnancy.

D.

[iceberg]

Hi, I'm new to this forum. I was told by my doctor that she would not do any treatment other that the Metformin for my PCOS until I lost weight. I tried for a couple of years to no avail. She eventually sluffed me off on her physian's assistant and basically forgot my name. My husband and I then decided to pursue Russian adoption. Unfortunately, 2.5+ years later that hasn't worked out either. My DH now wants to go back to a new doctor I have found. We go on Wednesday. I don't hold out much hope since I am almost 40 (in July). I guess it is worth a try. Does anyone know a "fat friendly" doctor in the Atlanta area? Just in case this doctor says the same thing.

Thanks

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[paulinia]

I've been reading the posts, and I just have to say it- your doctors are jackasses!!!! When I started fertility treatments with my daughter, I was 5'3" and weighed 170, and while that's technically obese, I was very muscular, and was a size 8. I put on 30 pounds just because of the drugs they put me on! When I went for my first regular ob appt., my doctor there adivised me to be careful about weight gain while I was pregnant, but otherwise, no one said a peep. Don't these people realize that this is hard enough without them pointing out everything we're insecure about already?!

[Hope2Have]

I think it makes perfect sense that it would be harder to conceive if you are overweight, meaning a lot overweight, not just 20-30 pounds. I was 155 pounds over myself and had no periods and my hormones were totally off whack. I've since lost 155 pounds, and at my goal weight I have regular cycles and feel as if my body will be able to carry a child if i am blessed to get pregnant. it only makes sense that it would be a much safer journey! Best of luck!